Sulochana vs Savita

Have you noticed that whenever Sulochana and Savita are fighting in front a lot of people Sulochana's husband Manoharalways defends his wife from Savita. And Damodar (Savita's husband) does not even bother to defend Savita. In fact, he defends Sulochana more! Of course Savita is wrong but when Sulochana says things against Manav isn't that wrong too? One example is when they were fighting on when ArMan took each other from the wedding mandap they fought infront of the Deshmukh chawl. Manohar held out his hand to Savita but Damodar never said anything to Sulochana about how come she came and created a scene in front of their house. They're both wrong but Savita is the only being punished. Please do comment! I like having feedback!

I actually feel that damodhar doesnt respect his wife. He thinks whatever she does is always wrong. Which is often not the case but yes, never defends his wife. I think since damodhar never really took up responsibilities as a father and husband, he never really understands anyone's feelings expect Arman. As a father, he never really stands up for his son's rights before anyone else except savita. Therefore I feel, savita's and damodhar dont have a mutual understanding between them. I know savita is against Archu's family but then she always hated them because karanjkars never leave an opportunity to insult manav. Damodhar doesnt fight with karanjkars because he loves archu as his own daughter and maybe that's he always is grateful for her family because of her.

Sulochana doesnt get punished or anything because she has everyone in her life. She has always been supported and since there are more members in her family and then in savita. Sulochana rules the house while savita somewhat does. Sulochana is decent yet somewhat not-so-innocent. She cares for her daughters happiness but she doesnt understand weightage the effect which hits her archu. She NEVER apologizes or apologized Savita or Manav for insulting them when they were right.

You're right, but if Sulochana and Savita were out fighting on the street whose side would Manohar take? Definetely Sulochana. Now whose side would Damodar be on? Does Damodar like Sulochana better than Savita? I mean, of course Damodar is not free to make fun of Sulochana because they aren't husband wife. But Manohar gets mad on Savita when she does something against Karanjkars. And whenever she abuses Archana Damodar always yells at Savita and lectures her. Now when the Karanjkars are being mean to Manav and Savita how come Damodar stays quiet? Does Damodar like Sulochana better than his own wife? It sure looks like it. Please do reply!

bhallarox u made very intelligent observation. . manohar does not really agree to all the things sulochna does ..he DOES have his difference of opinuions with her on certain issues but publicly he supports her come what may like an ideal spouse shud . If u notice when Manohar selected Manav for a husband after a great deal of practical thought ........he in his mind had NOT agreed with Sulochnas insistence that I want only an ENGINEER for my ninth standard educated daughter , so he opted to hIDE things from her . But publicly its his policy to stand by his wife , come what may . . Its like Satish .Satish knows Varsha is wrong sometimes but he supports her in front of Bhavna . In my opinion Manohar and Satish are the best spouses in PR . During Varshas case when Sulo slapped her after abortion and told her she has no place in maayka Manohar had clearly told her I always support ur mom and even now I will support her as a spouse . . Damodar is SELFISH . He has his own agendas . Savita may be crass but Savita isnt wrong 90 percent of the time in her deductions of K family . Damodar wants to drink , to DEFY , so painting Savita blacker and blacker is to his advantage . Like a sly fox he manipulates her , ridicules her in public , makes HER a laughing stock so people dont notice HIS irresponsibilities .Then he slinks off to drink , chat , and in general has fun . He does love Manav .yes , but I feel Savita loves him a lot more . Damo never defends Manavs honor when he is publicly insulted by his sasural ........Savita defends him like a tigress . Damo merely watches indifferently and is CAREFUL not to spoil his individual image as GOOD SASUR with the Karanjkars . Forget supporting Savita in front of Sulochna , Damo doesnt even defend Manav in his public insults . There too he blames Savita . Varsha , Vaishu called him Chor , Manhoos whatnot , this man was cHUP ! . Even when Manav was put in jail , this man was laidback .Savita was running around begging Jai , the Karanjkars , everyone to leave Manav .Damodar NEVER gets involved in responsibilities . . Archana came just for 15 days mind u ......his exposure to her was so less coz he immediately went to a drama tour , but the way he statred Archna jap was unbelievable . Purposeful it seems sometimes . Seriously , what HAD Archna done for him ? NOTHING . Still the way he loves Archna OVER his Vandu .just like he loves Sulo over Savita at times seems IRONICAL . . His latest nonsense is NOT telling Dharmus SACHAAI as it will WRECK HUMAN LIVES .Arre what the hell , does that mean Vaishu shud live with a bigamist , a chor in human relations ? Even there he was reprimanding Savita. I tell u na .....most of the times Savita is RIGHT and he is wrong yet he has the gall to preach to her . She had told him Karanjkars r framing Manav when he was put in jail second time , but he DISBELIEVED her and made fun of her .Then Ajit came and told them that Savita was RIGHT , indeed the K damads were framing Manav . That time Damo didnt even go to fight with Ks and demand explanations .Conveniently he leaves ALL dirty work to Savita and enjoys like a Narad Muni . The next time he praises Sulo and criticises Savita someone shud tell him to go and MARRY Sulochana .

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

This is the way of the drunkard husbands/fathers 😊. I've seen such things very closely in my life. Atleast you can give it to savita's husband that he don't do worse. He was a drunkard right? He could do worse.

But Savita chose him for herself, now she must live it. I am not saying that men who don't drink cannot be like this, ofcourse they can, but you cannot marry someone out of the blue. One needs to know the person atleast a couple of years. I really feel so annoyed when girls or boys say or think "I cannot wait". Why? If you didn't meet this girl/boy where were you going? You can always wait if you are serious about the person, wait till he is ready and you know about his education and behavior. Money for me is not important so much, because if he has education and have good behavior, likes to take his responsibility seriously, money will come. I am sure of it. Enough will come by which you can have a decent life 😊.

The difference to me between Manav and Archana's fathers are mainly:
1. Alcohol
2. Education
3. Behavior (which is also an indicator of sense of responsibility)

You can have different idea 😆😳 ... but I though I write something 😊😉

I am happy about Archana's mother because she made a better choice, so she have a better relationship. She deserve it I think 😊

Originally posted by: divyasweety

I agree wid u bt i dnt thnk tht damo doesn't care fr his wife or nyhtng lyk tht..coz even sav aai was scoldng archu more than sulo .... but itzz true tht he stays away frm all this fights...basically he dun wanna fight wid ny1 nor he wants sav aai 2 fight wid any bt she vll b alwayzz fightng wid sum1 or the other...basically the thng is tht he always leaves evrythng 2 bappa😆whtevr happens he vll say bappa vll c to it...no limit nuthng evrytng is left to bappa

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Yes and THATS were the irresponsibility sets in . Imagine , when Manav was in jail he went to jail and told him Dont worry , its all Bappas leela . 😲 Then he went and had a good drink , came home and taunted SAvita who already had her hands full running around begging people to set her son free . Doc had told him NOT to drink , he vomits blood .See that scene where Savita CRIED and told him , MUJHE MAT SATAO . Dont HARASS me . I have my hands full trying to get Manav out and Shravnis responsibility on my head , to top it ur drinking at SUCH a time . Its at such times Damo GOES away from the heart . Saying BAPPA , GOD will do everything and swilling drinks , watching ur wife run around is very CONVENIENT and IRRESPONSIBLE .