Star Of The Day : 4th Jan 2011 - Page 11

Originally posted by: epsita

is vaishali turn in to villian😲

You are right Tulsey .Vinod should seriously think of a divorce now .

I voted for Archana! Finally, one of Manjusha's many sins have been found out and Archana gets to tell her off! 👏 I was hoping Archana would give her a much deserved slap, but maybe that will be for another day. 😆 I hope Vinod and his parents both get to tell her off tomorrow! I want Manjusha to grovel on her hands and knees to them all if Vinod wants to kick her out of the house! That would make my day! 👍🏼

Thank goodness for ArMan's good friends, Tarun and Swati! 👏

Originally posted by: SaffyFlower

TannuDi,Manav has much to learn from Ajit on how to be a husband and son - actually Rassi and Savita are mirrors of each other -

- they adore their son,

- but won't let their son have the pleasure of physical intimacy with their wife,

- do badi badi baaten about sanskaar and saath phere but want to get rid of the wife,

- hate their DIL with open display of humiliation,

- call their DIL bad luck bcoz they had some prev loss in life - sachin in the case of savita,her family riches in the case of Rassi ,

- both tried to physically hurt their DILs,

the truth is both hate their DIL for only one reason - their ego that there is another woman in their son's life - frankly speaking,they behave as if their DIL is their souten😕🤣

This is after they know,how much their DIL adjust,are good wives and are loved by their husband.

I think savita and rassi are attention seekers and did'nt get enuf from husbands,so cannot stand to see their DIL happy with their son😆😆

And savita does not have to look far - Bhavna accepted Varsha although she wanted Archu,Varsha killed her grandson intentionally - still she behaved as a MIL should and as a mother should, with dignity and denceny,coz she truly loves her son

Tommorrow Archu as well as Vandu are going to be living in a chawl on their hubby's meagre earnings,walking in and out of small jobs.Are they gonna behave like savita and drive their hubbies to drink,throwing gaalis at everybody around them??

I see no reason why savita shud be excused even today for her gaali giving motor mouth which has ruined her family,she is the reason why her family is dysfunctional.

You wanted to know who are the biggest hypocrites in the show - these 2 dysfunctional substandard mothers and hateful mother-inlaws are the biggest hypocrites😆

Imagine Manav's immense frustration with this monster mother after sacrificing the prime 15 yrs of his life for her - Kudos to him for telling her - u cannot understand my needs despite being a mother when a wife can👍🏼savita thinks only she can vent her anger and frustration,others dont have emotions? She deserves this laati from her son,nobody else can sudarofy her.

But Ajit let his mother go off when she crossed the line trying to hurt vandu - when he told her she was wrong,she huffed and puffed but came back with her tail between her legs .Today Rassi and Vandu are living under 1 roof saving Ajit some money for not having to pay dual rent😆 and giving a chance for reconciliation - the fact is - A man's zimmedari lies equally between his parental family and wife - the oath of marriage enforces that he provide for her security and needs.It is one of the pheras

The day Manav cannot support his wife,he should make arrangements that she is provided for by somebody else - relatives,friends,neighbors.Here the means does not matter,the end part - the provision,security - matters

Manav failed when he chose sachu over Archu- he made no arrangement for her support - specifically when she was invalid as well - Insaniyat Baba failed in Insaniyat ,Zimmedari Baba failed in Zimmedari.

Even a decent stranger on the streets wud take an invalid ill woman to safety and ensure her basic well being.

Sick Archu was invalid and helpless,it was'nt like she had a simple stuffed nose,u know.Wat is different between her and a helpless baby then?Sulo's question to him was apt.

In reverse,savita's naatak burning those sarees that manav was not paying her bills was not the same case.Manav had no job ,no money to support himself.It had nothing to do with his wife disallowing him to pay his parents bills.If he had money,expecting him to share makes sense.When he had none,wat cud he do?

But as usual,loud savita makes herself a false victim.

Frankly,our own fathers and grandpas have juggled huge joint families with greater dissent and resentment,wat Manav is going thru is nothing😆but he chooses to disfigure his face everytime -

when one eye itches,he blinds the other - that is how he balances his parental home vs his home.And this man has the greatest kismat to do all this kartoot - he has a perfect wife who gives up everything to satisfy his wants - something u wud expect a mother to do actually😕

voted for archu for the way she reemed out her bro and bhabhi. they both deserved it.

Thanks vishwap for ur great comments ! I especially enjoy ur and samarth's take,sometimes women on the forum talk 2 much for nothing I feel,and u guys clear the glass,with just enuf words...😆

Saffy, completely disagree with your whole post.

It was a very bad situation for Manav that day. He could not leave Sachu alone. He is Sachu's father... if not legally then morally. He has cared and thought about Sachu more than any one else, ever since Sachu was in Shravani's womb.

If this same son has fallen sick, then won't he get worried and want to be with him? Won't he be concerned about how his MAD mother will handle him? With whom shall he leave Sachu- his drunkard father Damo who is practically useless?

Archu was ill, but she is elder. In India, young children like Sachu's DIE due in LAKHS to small reasons of carelessness- even diarrhoea, do you know what is the infant mortality rate of India???? This is not a frivolous matter. He was very right in rushing to a doctor quickly with his Mom. If something serious had turned out, how would Savita have made arrangements alone? In contrast, Archu was not THAT serious. Even I would have tended to the child first if I was in his place. Its common sense- the adult can withold, the child cannot.

When I was sick- A grown up girl,- my father came running to me despite so many people looking after me. Fathers are like that only. Manav loves Sachu like his son, how could he have not come to be with Sachu.

Regarding the fact that he made no provisions for Archu- tell me- with whom could he have left Archu at that time?? Their neighbours whom he did not know so well??? Raghu and Mushy??? Or that drunkard? It was best for Archu to be alone at that time rather than with such strangers.

Yes, it was unfortunate that she fell ill severely. But it was a no choice situation at that time, plus she wasn't SO sick at first. Situations simply spiralled out of control and Manav had no hold over them.

Sulo's question was completely, horribly unfair. Relations with family do not break just bcos one gets married. Manav's relations with Sachu shouldn't change becos of Archu. In an emergency situation like this one- everyone- a doctor, a mother, a lover, would have favoured the child, not Archu. There is nothing wrong in going to responsibility- Archu has accepted him with these very responsibilities. Manav should never back out of them in the name of 'love'. Such emergency situations should not be used to judge people at all.

Accha Saffy- tell me one thing- if it was Manav's blood child, living away for some reason and both Archu and the child fell sick, then should he have not gone???

Even Sulo prioritises Manju her evil DIL due to Punni, doesn't she??? Its the same scenario everywhere.

You know, the discussion of Manav chosing Sachu over Archu reminds me of a story I saw in a serial. A doctor is operating on a patient. He gets the news that his own son has fallen from the terrace and needs to be operated. 😲 But he says I cannot come now, else this patient will die.👏

His wife, is unable to manage her son alone, or get another surgeon or operation theatre free for him. The child dies.😭

When the doctor completes the operation and comes out, she slaps and blasts him and divorces him and never meets him again. He is shattered.😭

Six years later, a similar incident occurs with her- (she was a doctor too)--- at that time she realises how one needs to stick with responsibility at times, needs to stick with what is the need of the situation, rather than following 'love' and nibhaofying relations and stuff-- romance and relations are not the end in life--- there are far more serious things to be considered at times. You have to put your romantic, emotional side aside and assess the need of the situation first.

I hope now you can understand why Manav chose Sachu over Archu that day. Very fair decision.

Congrats to Archana for hitting up a half century.👏👏😉😆