Originally posted by: nikitagmc
@All:
Is there anything wrong in being practical and responsible and not utterly 'romantic'? Everyone always seems to hold this fact against Manav.
And I'm asking this question cos I would also choose my responsibility over my love, I think.
What is being 'utterly romantic' ? Thats the question I wud like to ask the many who hate Manav for never prioritising Archna .
If being utterly romantic was dumping a girl he promised marraige so that she wud carry the pregnancy full term AFTER she had trusted him and delivered the baby and made his family her very own .................then had I been Archana I wud have asked myself again and again if this man was worth marrying as his character doesn't speak much for himself . I wud never marry a man who dumped a gal like a first class cad at the altar .Nothing romantic there ........its outright caddish behaviour , not the behaviour of a gentleman . Today he dumped that gal tomorrow he will dump me ! No way wud I marry a man who aint a gentleman .
If being utterly romantic means giving wife importance over a kid who has two dysfunctional oldies looking after him .........who are not the best decision makers in crisis situations btw ........thats hardly romantic . So the wife fell sick ad the kid fell sick at the same time and he was shuttling like a shuttle cock between the two ........and the wife was alone and took a bad turn ...........how is he to blame for this ? Once more circumstances spiralled out of control . How cud Sulo ask him that question beats me . What will the poor man do ? Is he supposed to give this answer ' OK from today whenever it comes to my wife and my bro's kid I will ALWAYS place my wife first and ignore the kid ?" Is this romantic ?Is this supposed to be a big turn on for Archana from a romantic view point or something ? How ? I fail to see it ! I wud be disgusted with a man who wud be such a faaltu person who changed after marraige and started deprioritising a fatherless kid he initially wanted to be a father to ! Suddenly after marraige he is his brother's kid , is he ? Manav was instrumental in bringing this kid in this world by supporting Shravni ........he is the kid's DAD ! He looks upon the kid as his own !
What do adults do when crisis situations occur and it cmes to making a choice between a kid and an adult ? Kids r given preference ...so simple . Kids r let out of hijacked planes first ......they r treated in an epidemic first , they r fed food first when the government aid arrives in famine areas , then the adults r attended to . Thats part of LIFE . I agree .......no one was there to look after Archna .........but she took the decision of marrying Manav , she is an adult who knew that she was marrying a man with no money , mo manpower and loads of responsibilities . She knew that life was not gonna be a bed of roses for her at all . So for Archnas mom to corner Manav in such a crisis situation and ask him such questions was very PETTY . Quantifying his love from a 'romantic angle' in such a way that when he dumps all and sundry for Archana only then he loves Archna is something that zaps me . Its a petty way of judging love .
He has to agree to give sign to Jay in jail by prioritising Archna , and not bother about how his old parents will be fed in their old age as one son is already dead .........and this is supposed to be romance and love ............it zaps me
He has to tell her mom ok from now on I will give Archna preference over the kid if crisis situation occurs [ see how that sounds] and thats some romantic yardstick ....ooooh look he prioritised Archana
He has to dump a gal who trusted him and carried pregnancy full term only on his word and marry Archna and THATS romantic ...........again i get zapped
None of these above things , from any angle is romantic from my POV at least . Romance is a mind game ..............it cannot be squeezed out like this by holding a guy at gunpoint or cornering him . Archana loved a responsible man .........responsibility is his character and forte . From what I see of Archana ........she wud be turned on by this very trait of this man ........of never failing his responsibilities . His sense of commitment and the seriousness with which he did it wud be the turn ons for Archna ..........she wud find it incredibly sexy as a woman . She wud worship this man as she understands him as a woman . And thats what she is doing .
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