Kool's Commentary : July 28 PR - Page 8

Originally posted by: saffiyyah

Actually archu and shrav are similiar in some ways-

they r v transparent - archu shows all her emotions,love,kindness,even anger at Manav at that market scene,SNpooja...

Shrav does the same-shows her anger,J,wanting it all attitude

But everybody dislikes Archu showing her love for Manav now-why?coz not the appropriate thing to do na,why cant she control,adjust to circumstance etc. like a PRACTICAL GAL

Then,the same is applicable for Shrav na - she chose to be the second one,and knows the first one is well loved - adjust to the circumstance,why not control her hatred for archu,tolerate the love that those who loved her bfor reminescence abt-like a PRACTICAL GAL?what is there to be insecure for,if she's got the guy then and is sooo sure that he will not look at any other gal?

I had mentioned in a post bfor abt my friend who is a second wife to a widower - her husband had lived with his first wife just for a few days,and then lived in a diff country due to Greencard etc. and the day they were to meet at the airport she died in an accident on the way.

After 14 yrs and 4 kids with his 2nd wife,he does not tolerate anybody saying a word against the first - it indicates an appreciation,respect and fondness for the person who indeed did give him sooo much,and still does not mean he does not love the second wife

What is Shrav's problem with Archu that she cannot even hear the name mentioned?? I wish she had had a girl baby instead of a boy and Manav had named her ARCHNA 😡

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

My comment : Shravani shud pick SAchin up and walk off to Girish saying ............Main Archu nahi hoon . Main Aapki Tarah sirf APNE MAN KI SOCHTI HOON . Main Ne APNE BAAP KI NAHI SUNI AAPKI KYA sunungi ? RAHO ARCHU KI YAADON KE SAATH .Sachu , DADIMA KO GOODBYE BOLO .

From your mouth to God's ears...Tathastu....Ameen..

This should straighten them all out...Good commentary Kools...

Originally posted by: tarantulla_p

W.r.t Shravani's manipulations - I am referring to her screaming matches and all her attempts to getting Manav to marry her right where they r standing. She endangered her child and knew she was pressing everyone's buttons by all that. She knew once she screamed, all attention would be given to her because of her pregnancy.

I wonder why Girish didnt think of someone like Dharmesh for Shravani. There are a lot of practical people in the world who get into marriages for reasons other than all consuming love. I know this serial is not interested in the concept of an evolved, wise woman, but what would be the best is if Shravani really introspected and saw the futility of holding on to a person who never will love her.

I agree Manju and Savita are horrible people. Manju is less than Savita. Manju - most people know her intentions are evil - with Savita, she is far more sinister. She pretends to be this golden hearted person but is just as evil as the average villain.

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

In ur real life story , The FIRST WIFE DIED . If first wife dies its very easy to become mahaan and pray to her photo and give her respect .Coz she is not making love to ur husband physically or mENTALLY with eyes anymore [ like ARMAN .mental love]

My grandfather married second time .My Dad was son of first wife .His stepmom prayed to the first wifes photo on her annual Barsi day every year , and Grandpa wud be pleased .Its EASY .

But when first wife tells u Ill divorce only on paper but spiritually be wedded to him forever , on a woman to woman basis its a challenge .Ur too young to understand it .

Who is Savita to tolerate or not tolerate anyone for that matter ?

Savita has always been a gundi type lady with ' not to be messed with' kind of attitude. Only time she ever respected and understood anyone's feeling was Shravani's insecurity w.r.t Archana. Savita is someone who makes whole Deshmukh family dance on her finger.

Is she suddenly now a model of rectitude ? Please ! She ABUSED Archu , and she is lecturing to Shravni about the rights and wrongs of spousal conduct ?And according to her , the right spousal conduct is constantly hearing Archus name in the house without flinching , and LOVING it ?

Shravani walked in and overheard them talking otherwise they take care not to hurt her. Savita was just reminding Shravani of Archana's sacrifices for Deshmukh family and for Shravani which Shravani refuses to accept. She was giving Shravani right advice that if she wants to make space in Manav's heart then quit cribbing and making scenes about small issues like taking Archana's name in house. Such temper tantrums is not helping her cause.

Lets not make mistake here , The Deshmukhs have NOT treated Shravni as a goddess bcoz they fell in love with her or coz Shravni bossed them around plzzz.They wanted their grandson.

Bottom line is that she is being treated as a goddess. Giving grandson to family does not obliterate the fact that she made a mistake along with Sachin and due to her mistake ArMan had to make sacrifice in life. She needs to be humble towards Archana and learn to live with the knowledge that she is a second woman and Archana will always have special place in hearts of Deshmukh.

He took precedence over Archu and he took precedence even above Manavs personal happiness ........Savita entertained Shravni to grab Sachu .Plain and simple. And to get Girishji's weath, at least that was her original intention.

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And when she is so ordinary , unmahaan .......that she gave priority to her love for grandchild over her sons happiness , who is she to demand mahaan behaviour from Shravni and demand that she shud NOT be UNMAHAAN ?

She is not asking Shravani to be mahaan but just asking her to be normal and see things the way they are after shedding her hate for Archana. And that people have done enough already for Shravani and this is no way of talking to them, its Savita's house after all. I'm surprised Savita has not confronted Girishji and taunted Shravani till now for selling a that garage to Manav, putting him in a situation where is has no decent job and no garage and has debt that he has to payback.

She had mistreated Archana in past and has changed since then and has repented for her past actions. It is a welcoming change in Savita and her efforts at being good with Archana and Karajkars is appreciated. So if a person had committed mistakes in past, that person does not have any right ever to talk sense into another person who is doing wrong. She was wrong so she should keep shut and let other person do wrong.

Originally posted by: Arien_03

Who is Savita to tolerate or not tolerate anyone for that matter ?

Savita has always been a gundi type lady with ' not to be messed with' kind of attitude. Only time she ever respected and understood anyone's feeling was Shravani's insecurity w.r.t Archana. Savita is someone who makes whole Deshmukh family dance on her finger.

Is she suddenly now a model of rectitude ? Please ! She ABUSED Archu , and she is lecturing to Shravni about the rights and wrongs of spousal conduct ?And according to her , the right spousal conduct is constantly hearing Archus name in the house without flinching , and LOVING it ?

Shravani walked in and overheard them talking otherwise they take care not to hurt her. Savita was just reminding Shravani of Archana's sacrifices for Deshmukh family and for Shravani which Shravani refuses to accept. She was giving Shravani right advice that if she wants to make space in Manav's heart then quit cribbing and making scenes about small issues like taking Archana's name in house. Such temper tantrums is not helping her cause.

Lets not make mistake here , The Deshmukhs have NOT treated Shravni as a goddess bcoz they fell in love with her or coz Shravni bossed them around plzzz.They wanted their grandson.

Bottom line is that she is being treated as a goddess. Giving grandson to family does not obliterate the fact that she made a mistake along with Sachin and due to her mistake ArMan had to make sacrifice in life. She needs to be humble towards Archana and learn to live with the knowledge that she is a second woman and Archana will always have special place in hearts of Deshmukh.

He took precedence over Archu and he took precedence even above Manavs personal happiness ........Savita entertained Shravni to grab Sachu .Plain and simple. And to get Girishji's weath, at least that was her original intention.

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And when she is so ordinary , unmahaan .......that she gave priority to her love for grandchild over her sons happiness , who is she to demand mahaan behaviour from Shravni and demand that she shud NOT be UNMAHAAN ?

She is not asking Shravani to be mahaan but just asking her to be normal and see things the way they are after shedding her hate for Archana. And that people have done enough already for Shravani and this is no way of talking to them, its Savita's house after all. I'm surprised Savita has not confronted Girishji and taunted Shravani till now for selling a that garage to Manav, putting him in a situation where is has no decent job and no garage and has debt that he has to payback.

And so i ask who is she to think Shravni is a bull who needs to be taken by the horns when she herself has been a wild buffalo and trampled all for her goals in the past?

She had mistreated Archana in past and has changed since then and has repented for her past actions. It is a welcoming change in Savita and her efforts at being good with Archana and Karajkars is appreciated. So if a person had committed mistakes in past, that person does not have any right ever to talk sense into another person who is doing wrong. She was wrong so she should keep shut and let other person do wrong.

Originally posted by: saffiyyah

I aint sooo yung KoolDI 😆😆 well,the hubby was remembering the first wife even during intimate moments,coz the second marriage happened quite early and my friend was young too

It did hurt her initially but the emphasize here is her ability to empathize with her husband's heart

and show patience coz even a year is v short a time for a loving couple that has separated,for not lack of love -

and this is what Shrav lacks -her crass inability to empathize with anybody,and that includes her attitude to Damo baba too,she told him to f***k off in her own way,when he told her that he considered her still bahu as sachin's wife and never manav's and she said YEH SHAADI HO KEY HI RAHEGA - man,I wanted her sooo much to get to this point she is in now,that day -although I sympathize with her now a lil😕

And I feel the same problem in PR now - if it had been a 5 yr leap,I agree with you KoolDi,point to point - but a 1 yr leap I think has made this more complex - not enuf time for anyone to truly move on and settle down in life and for feelings to be at the point of reminescence instead of thinking it is not too late to correct the wrong