How can Shravani love Manav? - Page 4

Discussion reminds me of 1986 movie "Ek chadar maili si" Hema, Kulbhushan & Chintoo...

i was thinking the same thing...that's its disgusting. i mean, how can she be in love with manav? she was in love with manav's brother and is carrying his child, and shouldn't she still be in mourning. it hasn't even been 6 months since her supposed "love of her life" passed away. it just seems very unrealistic and disgusting.

Some really great responses, will love to get back to them later, but for now, I think the whole situation warrants an episode on Jerry Springer 😆 For those in the west I think ya'll know what I mean😉

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Some really great responses, will love to get back to them later, but for now, I think the whole situation warrants an episode on Jerry Springer 😆 For those in the west I think ya'll know what I mean😉

The real question is, how can she fall in love with Manav a short while after her soon-to-be husband and father of her child just died?

I would *maybe* understand like if she fell in love with him a year later. But wow...she started to get possessive with him like 2 months later!

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Some really great responses, will love to get back to them later, but for now, I think the whole situation warrants an episode on Jerry Springer 😆 For those in the west I think ya'll know what I mean😉

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Originally posted by: Jess.

The real question is, how can she fall in love with Manav a short while after her soon-to-be husband and father of her child just died?

I would *maybe* understand like if she fell in love with him a year later. But wow...she started to get possessive with him like 2 months later!

I think the whole concept is unbelieveable but still conceiveable if it happened years later. However, if a woman has really dignity and respect, she would never conceive of the idea or even agree to the marriage. Why ruin someone's life? Marry the guy and then divorce him and pass the baby of as his so that people will not think he.she is illegitmate. A decent woman never destroys the life of another person.

Originally posted by: bharadwaj_k

I really fail to understand CV in this portion.......Pavitra Rishta is all about normal human being with middle class background and I've never come across any middle class family make this kind of decision as Sav Aai and Manav had taken...We really consider this as shame in our community...I guess Ekta and her team thinks this as normal which is really very weird and cannot acceptable.....

I hate whenever Shravani says she is in love with Manav.......The word Love is really Gross and Disguisting from Shravani's mouth....

Originally posted by: commentator

Small bit of pertinent information: In many traditional Hindu communities in North India a practice called "chadar dalna" is still prevalent . In this tradition, unmarried men may marry the widows of their brothers primarily to keep the brother's belongings from going out of the family, but also to give the widow some status and her children - naturally also regarded as family resources - some measure of security. Sleeping with a lover or husband's brother - who is not in fact the woman's blood brother - should only be taboo when the lover or husband is alive, after all?

My effort here is not to deny the surreal nature of this plot, which - as I have myself pointed out - refects no credible real life situation. I'm only trying to stem this tendency to berate a woman who shows any signs of recovering from a husband/lover's death by grasping at such emotional security as is available to her at that point. In criticizing such a woman we, as thinking women, would make ourselves into our own worst enemies.

Originally posted by: commentator

@ Samarth:

The examples you provide give one hope for the future of widows in India. However, the acid test of course is when all concerned become equally supportive if the widows find themselves - or were found - husbands outside the family, proving that they are regarded as independent entities not merely repositories of their dead husbands' material possessions (to be retained by marrying within), or mothers of the family's children.

It's likely that the scriptures - mostly unfriendly to women - don't provide even for widow remarriages within a family, but it is a fact that this has been adopted as a practical solution. In places where marriages are rarely formalized in a legal sense, an informal verbal and sometimes even tacit arrangement is agreed to by all. And of course there is always the other kind of case, where no sanction is provided, formal or informal, but the relationship carries on from sheer proximity, mutual attraction, boredom etc. A traditional Hindu widow's lot is grim; who's to blame her if she has normal needs and seeks solace? And the official wife is probably jealous and resentful but sees this as a face-saving outlet for her husband's tendency to infidelity because it's going on inside the home and nobody can shame her with it in public.

Why do you refer to it as bigamy, in any case? The husbands in these cases are dead. Draupadi's marriages are referred to as polyandrous, btw.

C

Well written. I like the point you have made and I think it is very poignant under the circumstances. The marriages were certainly of convenience and who does define if the marriages worked? I find it very odd for any man to look at his brother's wife in a sexual nature even after he has died. It just seems very awkward to me.