Illusions - Aa Jao Saarey - Full Update Page 7 - Page 19

Originally posted by: najma123

Yeah, but posing a condition such as that, saying if you abide by my rules, you can be my daughter, otherwise not, is not what parenting is about. He can teach her lessons as a father or as an uncle or as a step dad, but those lessons cannot be prerequisite for her to become his daughter.

HS wouldnt have said that if babita had not questioned his love for mini saying if you love her why dont you control her, think about what outsiders say about her etc etc. so basically HS is taking out his anger on mini which mini is obviously going to misunderstand now. She will think Babita has now taken HS to her side too & the way he says obey your mom or there is no place for you in this house she will feel there is really no place for her. Babita does nothing except flare up things and HS mini will never develop father daughter relation by the way she behaves.

Originally posted by: naq5

Exactly Babita just skipped to the 2nd point.Maybe HS was not even talking about point 2. And now she has snapped at hs and created more problems

HS should have clarified it, I am talking about dosti taunt of Kammo. 🤣

Writers very cleverly manages to create friction. Hanuman refers to one taunt of Kammo, Babita runs with another taunt of Kammo. Now who will you blame? LOL.

Originally posted by: divyadaya13

you can fight the outsiders but what if your parents treat you like a criminal. Today it is much easier for kids. But i still remember what my cousin and friend went through for marrying for love.

that is much more painful , why not after its ur own parents & we r bound to get hurt most by the rejection of our own .

my aunt's brother had a love marriage , & the girl was brahmin her parents were never fine they went on to declare her dead for them as she made this choice in her life , well his parents were also not happy maintained their quietude well they were displeased for other things like why couple rushed like that for wedding & when they hv decided everything , don't need their advise then they will not need their blessings ...but thankfully with time this anger melted & all r happy . that couple is happy in their life & r blessed with a baby boy . many years passed still her family has never retracted from their stance .

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Thanks for sharing this!

My concern is that this mentality seems to belong to an older generation; perhaps something that Babita's parents will believe. I wouldn't be surprised if this was instilled into Babita as well. Then given the fact that Ashok was never around, she never had the freedom to express her desires for him. Even in their private times, we don't know how close they were, or how much Babita expressed to him. There still seemed to be a lot that she kept quiet.

Then the same thing with HS. It was all through silent communication that she expressed her love for him, never in blunt words.

I really do hope she breaks out of this mentality and truly starts expressing herself more. Otherwise, this is a really sad and in some ways, a horrifying state to live your life in.

in one of the initial episodes when ashok came after 4 years babita so wanted to catch a glimpse of him. but she was in the kitchen waiting for daadu beeji to call her with tea so that she can finally see her husband. i was like what is this she cant just come and say hello to her husband. Babes is obviously wired differently. i understand what mini meant when she talked about guilt now. babita dosent want to accept she had a thing for HS since a long time. Not before divorce track but during or after it she did develop feelings

Originally posted by: kriya_12

i hv not watched it but i know there was a show .

well here in this show , they continue to make same mistakes .

Originally posted by: divyadaya13

@ bold it depends on the person and perception dear. I as a mother of a teenager have never felt ashamed to say sorry to my son whenever i felt i overreacted. And expect the same from him. But also want him to not forget that though i behave with him like a friend but at the end of the day i am his mother and has seen both rain and sunshine and would expect him to not to forget this and never try to cross the line. 😊

Today i really loved the episode after a long time and felt more related to real life rather than what was going on in earlier episodes.

Originally posted by: naq5

in one of the initial episodes when ashok came after 4 years babita so wanted to catch a glimpse of him. but she was in the kitchen waiting for daadu beeji to call her with tea so that she can finally see her husband. i was like what is this she cant just come and say hello to her husband. Babes is obviously wired differently. i understand what mini meant when she talked about guilt now. babita dosent want to accept she had a thing for HS since a long time. Not before divorce track but during or after it she did develop feelings

Old school thinking. I guess her upbringing is very typical ladki. You wait for others to tell you to do something, even the things you want to.

Suppressing your feeling - real deal with lots of ladies. Doesn’t help that she is extremely timid and meek by nature.

Even the modern girls have hard time accepting their wants and desires. It’s so ingrained that everyone wants to project themselves as sati savitri and Pavitra.

Like my roomies back then would have their boyfriends over the weekend, sleep close by, do all that n more and yet they were always like.. we are Pavitra. What are you talking about.

I always have frictions with my friends about this coz I am very open about my desires. Very frankly I accept I want this. And around me ladies are like.. no no we are sati savitris. We don’t feel this. 😆

Originally posted by: naq5

HS wouldnt have said that if babita had not questioned his love for mini saying if you love her why dont you control her, think about what outsiders say about her etc etc. so basically HS is taking out his anger on mini which mini is obviously going to misunderstand now. She will think Babita has now taken HS to her side too & the way he says obey your mom or there is no place for you in this house she will feel there is really no place for her. Babita does nothing except flare up things and HS mini will never develop father daughter relation by the way she behaves.

Originally posted by: kriya_12

minni was too much into them a fact !

they both needed to talk & decide , getting to reality...also choosing the smarter ways for themselves at the same time trying to put sense into minni as well . minni's involvement was highly because they were unable to help themselves or so she thought . but during the marriage things were changed in a deliberate way to cause the friction , now so many inconsistencies cropping up that day by day it is becoming tough for the viewers to keep up with the frustration .

Sati Savitri does not mean you should not have sexual desire for your husband , but you will have it so much that its power can bring back your husband to life .