Why is everyone getting angry at Mini?

I am so confused. Babita started this whole episode by shouting at her in front of her friends. Then she basically implied that her daughter lacks morals like Mita. If my parents had said something like that to me I would have flipped too. Then Mini pointed out that she could control her feelings unlike Babita. Though the way she said it was not appropriate, what she said is true right? She did not come to HS's house intending to fall in love, and could not help but fall in love with him., WHICH is okay because HS is single! I don't think Mini implied anything worse.

Then Babita slapped Mini. Also understandable, because when you fight with your loved ones you tend to lose your temper. Mini was angry and whatever she said about Hanuman she might have said in anger. Sometimes when I get angry at my parents I say things like I hate them. I obviously don't mean it, but sometimes it slips out in anger. And honestly we all forget that while Babita is traumatised from her divorce, Mini may be really hurt too. What Babita said about her not wanting Mini to be around her grandparents is really one of the most selfish things she could have said. When parents divorce, they have to maturely put aside their dislike for each other when talking to their child, and not guilt-trip them when the child talks to the other party. And what Hanuman said, about Mini being a third wheel on their trip, though it was not his intention to hurt Mini, I think Mini was hurt. And even though he made it up to her by doing her GP that does not automatically make the hurt go away.

I think in this situation both Mini and Babita are at fault. I really don't understand the Mini bashing that is happening here.

You are contradicting your statements.

Mini says unacceptable things quite sanely and calmly so she's angry apparently, jaane do. When HS says it in a fit of rage after literally getting frustrated about it then that hurts her? Why double standards for comparison?

I get your point, that both have wronged. Fine, accepted. But according to me, Babita shouldn't be expected to have such understanding about the soulmate concept which even we aren't clear on. Mini didn't care to explain and constantly compared herself and Mickey to Hanita which is so objectionable, her being just a child! Even Babita hit a new low by comparing her to Meeta but the audacity with which Mini talked was harsh and well, just unacceptable. Mini said Babita was guilty about her love like seriously? What the heck?

Trust me, it were a real life scenario, no Mom would've felt guilty of slapping her daughter. And afterwards, Babita felt bad. What did Mini feel? Loneliness and apparent gloom upon herself. Damn this attitude. I don't feel an ounce bad for Mini. She deserves this self inflicted misery.

Lol. Mini is a on a self inflicted path of explosion.

Dear dairy I have met my Soulmate and true love - I am only 17 years but have not finished my Education or have any further ideas of a Career, have not seen the World or left Patiala but have the wisdom of a 100 years well travelled person - but I am so Confused.Com as I was slow in replying to Romeo Mickey that he has taken up with my Preeti. Who did ask me before taking up with Mickey, but what about my raging Love for Mickey, what am I to do about them. Yes I lied to my Babes and hid things from her, like meeting Mickey when Preeti was not there, midnight texts and climbing down balconies and falling in Mickey arms who is there to catch me every time but did not tell my Babes that he loved me first before moving on to Preeti but I still love him and how did my Babes cotton on that I will cheat on my Friend, I tought that I was hiding everything from her so how did she find out.

That's ok I will insult and cheapen my Babes and HS friendship and Love to justify my pure soulmate Love for Mickey.

Yes Babita slapped me and I can storm out of 17 years of suffocation and be with my true friends and hug my friends Preeti boyfriend Mickey with passion and he runs his hands in my hair and we are dreaming but Preeti spoils it by hugging Mickey. All in public that people will taunt my Babes but who cares.

I don't care for taunts as I only pick up the ones that I think I want to carry with my self inflicted sorrow but leave the others for my Babes to handle and let her stress, so that when I want I can scream and insult her again.

Lets go on a day out and don't answer the phone and let my family stress about me. Thats cool.

Now that I am on a high why should I spare HS who used me as a daughter to impress my Babes but I never considered him my Father.

Now do you get why people don't like Mini anymore.

They completely destroyed Babita's Mother role and HS to justify Mini the great.

I wonder why the leads have not quit this cheap PB now is it is all Mini now.

I do feel for Minnie

She is trying to find her place in her family

When living at home she was the abandoned dads daughter, then she became Babes foster mother and now she is feeling like the third wheel

Babes did a terrible thing initially isolating her from her grandparents...this is the same lady who ran to her in-laws for help with Minnie during her depression ...talk about mixed messages !!

Minnie does have an attitude problem and I think it’s partly because she has been forced to act like an adult vs a teen in most situations. Now Babes has HS to guide her and be the adult (let’s face it Babes will never be the adult in any situation).

They both crossed lines the day Minnie got slapped. Babes was WRONG in what she said and did..you don’t embarrass your kid in front of their friends. Babes could have asked Minnie and Preet to leave as she needs to speak with Minnie and then said what she needed to say.

The manner in which Babes spoke to Minnie was very aggressive and nasty. When you attack a kid that way they will react cause their ego and mindsets are pretty fragile at that age. So Minnie reacted...what she said was pretty on point but some things are better left unspoken

IMO - Mini's behavior is understandable and forgivable as she is a teenager and undegoes emotional ups and downs typical for her age .

Babita 's behavior is unforgivable. She is weak, irresponsible, selfish and manipulative. She is a mother and 35 year old. She should not behave like a 18 year old bride calling her husband away from work at odd time of a day , or gets all worked up every time someone points at her weakness , be it Kammo or Mini. She did not dare to slap Kammo or say a single rude word to her . But she behaves rudely with old Khuranas and with Minni too .

My support is always with Mini.

Lol.

In Mini case that will be jumping from the Pan into the Fire.

In reality with her attitude that I am always right is not going to be easy for and her bossy nature is going to rub people up the wrong way.

Its better that she stays and finishes her Education and go to Collage.

In with her learning also learn how to speak and respect your Parents and elders and in the process also learn about yourself and avoid situations where she will end up getting taunts that she does not like but thats what life's learning kerb is all about. And not going in the self pitying mode of hard done by my Babita who has ruined my life and Career. So pathetic that is to say.

Grow up for god sake.

Babita role as a Mother has been butchered by Katha Kottage for Mini the Great, so blame them and not Babita.

No Mini is rude and wrong.

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

I do feel for Minnie

She is trying to find her place in her family

When living at home she was the abandoned dads daughter, then she became Babes foster mother and now she is feeling like the third wheel

Babes did a terrible thing initially isolating her from her grandparents...this is the same lady who ran to her in-laws for help with Minnie during her depression ...talk about mixed messages !!

Minnie does have an attitude problem and I think it’s partly because she has been forced to act like an adult vs a teen in most situations. Now Babes has HS to guide her and be the adult (let’s face it Babes will never be the adult in any situation).

They both crossed lines the day Minnie got slapped. Babes was WRONG in what she said and did..you don’t embarrass your kid in front of their friends. Babes could have asked Minnie and Preet to leave as she needs to speak with Minnie and then said what she needed to say.

The manner in which Babes spoke to Minnie was very aggressive and nasty. When you attack a kid that way they will react cause their ego and mindsets are pretty fragile at that age. So Minnie reacted...what she said was pretty on point but some things are better left unspoken

exactly its the manner in which she began that was aggravating .

minni has definitely underestimated babita in this , though she knew her mother & her log kya kahenge constant thought plus the inherent impulsiveness yet she ended up going non smart way .

while babita does exactly what she shouldn't hv & then like always cried over the split milk , the way she went on with her crying spree , then self justifying & not read to listen to senior khurannas ...everything yet not realized her own folly .

the way minni cried today & the anger , mickey has to take control of the situation because this anger is alarming , could hv gone to worse thankfully both mickey preet got hold of her .

then the outburst... that was heart wrenching , she was really pushed & unfortunately has given in to her worse fears , also has toughened herself far more which will help her to deal tomorrow's confrontation with HS which will be majorly based out of anger/hurt due to babita .

Originally posted by: sunaina02

IMO - Mini's behavior is understandable and forgivable as she is a teenager and undegoes emotional ups and downs typical for her age .

Babita 's behavior is unforgivable. She is weak, irresponsible, selfish and manipulative. She is a mother and 35 year old. She should not behave like a 18 year old bride calling her husband away from work at odd time of a day , or gets all worked up every time someone points at her weakness , be it Kammo or Mini. She did not dare to slap Kammo or say a single rude word to her . But she behaves rudely with old Khuranas and with Minni too .

My support is always with Mini.

I agree, there’s only so much babita can blame on ashok and her past, but she revels too much in being the victim and having everyone pander to her. Everyone’s always expected to overlook her behaviour due to her past. She’s somehow remarried but still has emotional outbursts then sulks like a kid. Mini does not deserve parents like ashok and babita.

My support is also with mini, the expectation is far too much for her teenage mind to bear. She’s expected to go from “adult brain” to “child brain” as and when it suits babita. Somehow mini was adult enough to help her start the business but isn’t adult enough to understand the relationship between herself and mini. It’s all down to babitas image, when came before ashok and her marriage and now comes before mini. You’d think a woman who’s defied society and remarried wouldn’t be so concerned about what the gossips say

Originally posted by: deefy89

I agree, there’s only so much babita can blame on ashok and her past, but she revels too much in being the victim and having everyone pander to her. Everyone’s always expected to overlook her behaviour due to her past. She’s somehow remarried but still has emotional outbursts then sulks like a kid. Mini does not deserve parents like ashok and babita.

My support is also with mini, the expectation is far too much for her teenage mind to bear. She’s expected to go from “adult brain” to “child brain” as and when it suits babita. Somehow mini was adult enough to help her start the business but isn’t adult enough to understand the relationship between herself and mini. It’s all down to babitas image, when came before ashok and her marriage and now comes before mini. You’d think a woman who’s defied society and remarried wouldn’t be so concerned about what the gossips say

yes exactly this. And once a child has grown up before her age having to support her mother the reverse dosent happen babita has to learn to live with this mini and treat her like an adult and have conversations with her not flare up at her like that

Originally posted by: naq5

yes exactly this. And once a child has grown up before her age having to support her mother the reverse dosent happen babita has to learn to live with this mini and treat her like an adult and have conversations with her not flare up at her like that

I love how babita switches from “you’re a grown women now” to “you’re a child, you don’t understand”. Sorry but mini’s character is shown to have more of understanding of the world than babitas character. The same mini she’s calling a child now wasn’t a child when arranging her whole wedding (together with mickey, who’s stayed at hs house before).

I agree she’s been forced to grow up before most kids so they can’t expect her to still have the mindset of most kids, she’s been through so much more. I really am struggling to see babitas character growth. The only difference I see is instead of playing with her scarf looking all nervous like before, she now has an emotional meltdown. She’s a mess