When the dam bursts - Page 3

Originally posted by: deefy89

So now babita is needing marriage and relationship advice from 17 yo mini 🤦‍♀️

Why did this woman even get married? She seemed more sane when she was divorced. She literally needs babying by everyone around her all the time. Mini looks drained and Hs looks pissed off. Surely no woman is this out of touch with reality?

The thing is, makers have literally twisted her character 180°, ever since Imarti's track. And Babita, a lady who used to be a coward at some point of time, has become a total Jhansi ki Rani after a point. Since Ashok was a bad luck, as in whatever he touched turned poisonous, she feels all around her follow the same path. It's really difficult, both, psychologically and physically to change such a women in terms of habitual existence. But, one thing I never understood was, how can Babita suddenly out of the blue, blurt out, that she married HS only for the sake of Mini? She was the one who fell for him, she felt his touch persisting in her soul, then what's this fish market in her behaviour?

She seriously needs some time alone... And Hannie do...

Babita, my sincere advice to you is, please take off to some place which has no wifi, no network, you will know how peaceful solo life is....😊🤣😉

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Apparently this one is 🤷‍♀️😆

The writers have successfully managed to make me feel the most sorry for Mini in all this. Lol....she looks so obviously drained but Babita is still only hung up on her own emotional issues, and absolutely clueless about how she is embarrassing everyone, especially the daughter she claims is her life.

I’m wondering if this advice had to come from Mini only because Mini is the only one who can push back and say that she doesn’t want to be dragged in....if Poonam or NB tried to tell her this, she would have ignored them and still presumed she knows what Mini wants. Until Mini directly tells her ki no, I don’t want this, Babita doesn’t get it 🤷‍♀️

She also made presumptions for HS yesterday simply cuz that is what she herself wanted and then she tried to justify it by saying she presumed that he also wanted all three of them to go on a vacation together and tried to make him feel guilty for leaving Mini behind.

That scene made me wonder if she actually still thinks of Mini like a baby toh phir usko college kaise jaane deti hai? Lol and where was her “Mini toh bacchi hai” logic when Mini was single-handedly organizing the whole wedding? 🤷‍♀️😂

I don’t even think it’s about mini and not wanting to make her 3rd wheel as she seems more concerned about “what ppl will say”. Funny enough she weren’t worried about what ppl will say when she embarrassed herself with her outburst out of jealousy at seeing poonam and Hs together? I feel about just as drained as mini because apart from being financially free this women seems to have made no progress whatsoever. She’s so all over the place it’s actually shocking and she comes across as though she’s got some serious mental issues. It’s funny how all this insecurities about intimacy have only come about post marriage and she weren’t the least bit nervous before, knowing what a wedding night entails (she can’t be naive as even mini seems to know this). I half think sometimes she only wanted to be someone’s wife rather than being a divorcee. She’s setting such a bad example for her daughter also, and it actually doesn’t come across as though she cares about her or the impact she has on mini.

What I find ironic is that they try to portray this show as “real life” when in reality I think no man would go for babita for anything except her good looks. She’s a mess and doesn’t seem like she’s getting fixed any time soon. And Sadly I don’t even think her first marriage is to blame. She’s got multiple issues, some not even relating to marriage. It’s so sad she’s rushed the marriage whilst not ready, and as a result the marriage is starting negatively and she’s showing mini what mini thought all along and that marriage isn’t something that brings joy. She forgets she’s not just a product of a failed marriage, mini is too!

Originally posted by: Nature-Happiness

The thing is, makers have literally twisted her character 180°, ever since Imarti's track. And Babita, a lady who used to be a coward at some point of time, has become a total Jhansi ki Rani after a point. Since Ashok was a bad luck, as in whatever he touched turned poisonous, she feels all around her follow the same path. It's really difficult, both, psychologically and physically to change such a women in terms of habitual existence. But, one thing I never understood was, how can Babita suddenly out of the blue, blurt out, that she married HS only for the sake of Mini? She was the one who fell for him, she felt his touch persisting in her soul, then what's this fish market in her behaviour?

She seriously needs some time alone... And Hannie do...

Babita, my sincere advice to you is, please take off to some place which has no wifi, no network, you will know how peaceful solo life is....😊🤣😉

Exactly! It’s like her initially saying she waited for ashok hoping he would ask her to London, then a week before the wedding she said to mini quite bitterly that she stayed and endured for 17 years for mini’s sake so she would have a family, and then few days before the wedding it was apparently the in laws fault for not sending her to London. Like what the hell, she seems to be making it up as she goes along, which I feel is diminishing what she’s been through. It’s not going to take long for everyone to think “now I know why ashok wanted to be as far away from her as possible”. She’s turning into a nightmare. The story is meant to be about emancipation and moving and the troubles along the way etc however I’m not seeing any growth in her whatsoever. In fact she seems to be getting more and more detached from reality. It was really weird seeing her after the marriage acting more of a child than she’s ever acted before. I thought she’s meant to learn with the support of mini, not need counselling off mini for every little thing, including consummating her marriage. It’s getting a little ridiculous actually and I feel for mini. She’s got issues of her own but it’s always got to be brushed aside because her mother is such a mess physically emotionally and mentally. It seems mini’s only “a child” when it suits babitas agenda. She weren’t a child when organising the wedding or arranging meetings for the business. I’m struggling more and more with seeing it in the same real way that it was at first. Not sure about others but all I see is babita being a failure as both as mother and wife

Originally posted by: Nature-Happiness

The thing is, makers have literally twisted her character 180°, ever since Imarti's track. And Babita, a lady who used to be a coward at some point of time, has become a total Jhansi ki Rani after a point. Since Ashok was a bad luck, as in whatever he touched turned poisonous, she feels all around her follow the same path. It's really difficult, both, psychologically and physically to change such a women in terms of habitual existence. But, one thing I never understood was, how can Babita suddenly out of the blue, blurt out, that she married HS only for the sake of Mini? She was the one who fell for him, she felt his touch persisting in her soul, then what's this fish market in her behaviour?

She seriously needs some time alone... And Hannie do...

Babita, my sincere advice to you is, please take off to some place which has no wifi, no network, you will know how peaceful solo life is....😊🤣😉

LOL I don’t think Babita is capable of being by herself. Even if she didn’t have a husband all those years, she always had a family and her own daughter with her.

Apne aap se rehna I’m not sure she can do.

And yes, her character has definitely changed for her worse. Before the proposal, she was still capable of some self introspection and making strong conclusions like she did with sending Ashok to London to go to Meeta rather than dragging him through jail.

But now she’s become incapable of having any mature thought. It’s been almost 2 months since she managed to say any mature thing. 🤷‍♀️ Lol

Originally posted by: deefy89

I don’t even think it’s about mini and not wanting to make her 3rd wheel as she seems more concerned about “what ppl will say”. Funny enough she weren’t worried about what ppl will say when she embarrassed herself with her outburst out of jealousy at seeing poonam and Hs together? I feel about just as drained as mini because apart from being financially free this women seems to have made no progress whatsoever. She’s so all over the place it’s actually shocking and she comes across as though she’s got some serious mental issues. It’s funny how all this insecurities about intimacy have only come about post marriage and she weren’t the least bit nervous before, knowing what a wedding night entails (she can’t be naive as even mini seems to know this). I half think sometimes she only wanted to be someone’s wife rather than being a divorcee. She’s setting such a bad example for her daughter also, and it actually doesn’t come across as though she cares about her or the impact she has on mini.

What I find ironic is that they try to portray this show as “real life” when in reality I think no man would go for babita for anything except her good looks. She’s a mess and doesn’t seem like she’s getting fixed any time soon. And Sadly I don’t even think her first marriage is to blame. She’s got multiple issues, some not even relating to marriage. It’s so sad she’s rushed the marriage whilst not ready, and as a result the marriage is starting negatively and she’s showing mini what mini thought all along and that marriage isn’t something that brings joy. She forgets she’s not just a product of a failed marriage, mini is too!

Lol true. This “Log kya kahenge” only rises per convenience. She forgets it when she wants to throw a public tantrum 🤷‍♀️

She’s definitely got multiple issues beyond her failed marriage. But sadly the writers don’t expand on those and keep it all ambiguous....every flare up ends the same way...she cries, guilt trips for the things she said in anger, all is forgiven and they all move on rather than addressing core issues.

Right now toh HS is also behaving like he only married her for her looks and the food she cooks 😕😆

They both rushed into this marriage without really knowing each other. And yes, they are painting a bad picture for Mini. Neither of them have been able to sambhaalo it because they didn’t clarify things before getting married.

I had actually thought the post marriage phase would address how HS is able to adjust with Babita alongside his love for Imarti but that never came to pass only🤷‍♀️....lol

Whole thing has become muddled because of whatever instant expectations they both had from the shaadi.

Came across this beautiful VM on HS and Minnie, hope we get them back soon 😭

https://www.instagram.com/p/B21O8m_ApTY/?igshid=nl9fhhwljbst

Credit:insta

Originally posted by: deefy89

Exactly! It’s like her initially saying she waited for ashok hoping he would ask her to London, then a week before the wedding she said to mini quite bitterly that she stayed and endured for 17 years for mini’s sake so she would have a family, and then few days before the wedding it was apparently the in laws fault for not sending her to London. Like what the hell, she seems to be making it up as she goes along, which I feel is diminishing what she’s been through. It’s not going to take long for everyone to think “now I know why ashok wanted to be as far away from her as possible”. She’s turning into a nightmare. The story is meant to be about emancipation and moving and the troubles along the way etc however I’m not seeing any growth in her whatsoever. In fact she seems to be getting more and more detached from reality. It was really weird seeing her after the marriage acting more of a child than she’s ever acted before. I thought she’s meant to learn with the support of mini, not need counselling off mini for every little thing, including consummating her marriage. It’s getting a little ridiculous actually and I feel for mini. She’s got issues of her own but it’s always got to be brushed aside because her mother is such a mess physically emotionally and mentally. It seems mini’s only “a child” when it suits babitas agenda. She weren’t a child when organising the wedding or arranging meetings for the business. I’m struggling more and more with seeing it in the same real way that it was at first. Not sure about others but all I see is babita being a failure as both as mother and wife

LOL I think the writers expect us to chalk that up to the fact that Babita talks crap in anger that isn’t meant to be taken seriously 🤷‍♀️😆

But I agree with your point that it does sadly diminish all the trauma she’s actually been through. I guess this is the victimhood tendency the writers tweet about many times. That Babita has strongly internalized her victimhood and is always looking to play the victim, so she keeps finding different ppl to blame/accuse. Kabhi Mini, kabhi Khuranas, kabhi HS. She puts everyone through it no matter how much she loves them 🤷‍♀️

It’s very hard to love such a person...and the writers need to do a better job of showing what traits within her balance this out to realistically be able to show why the ones who love her make these allowances for her.

Some of the pre wedding scenes showed this balance well like the one when she talks to HS about Lovely and he says anger doesn’t make you a bad person. Sadly those scenes are few and far between. Things have been downhill since the wedding.

Thoroughly enjoyed the episode after a while. Watched it twice. Perfectly balanced with all characters involved. This is the PB I got hooked to.

HS and Lale were in their element. Good to see HS in thanedaar mode. Hilarious and adorable. True to their essence.

NB and Khuranas were nicely added. Making way for next track.

Babita being Babita was hilarious. I am way past angry with her. Now I only laugh. So much guilt tripping and self blame of being bad Mother, she forgets she is Babita too. I am so glad that we got to this point. HS’ outburst was very well done. Finally he is honest with her which he kept telling everyone in the house to be. I also didnt like him calling Mini Teesra but in context with Husband and Wife, I think he is right. First you have to be one unit.

And I do feel bad for Mini now. She still has to be the bridge between HS and Babes when she is trying to move on with stuff of her own. But I guess only she can put some sense into Babita. This is the Mini that I love. Being reasonable and trying to make her mother free from Buri Maa guilt. Like you said, Babes won’t listen to anybody else other than Mini.

I just hope that writes won’t bring this Babita back again. With her, they keep flip flopping her whenever they want to introduce a clash. Please let this be her Amrit Manthan and we won’t go back to her blaming Mini and HS for her decisions. Let this be one final time. And we can see some growth.

The only thing missing in yesterday’s episode was HS and Mini. Aww I hated it when Mini called Babita and didn’t reply to HS when he came home. That’s not our Veer Balika. She would have been so jumpy and happy seeing HS.

For now it looks like they are brushing CD fiasco under the carpet. I think somewhere even writers regret it. In their bid to be dramatic they did lose the plot there. Or they might go back to address it in future. As Mini said to Babes that Kammo words did hurt her but she is past that now. I think Mini and HS would be fine on the surface. But something in the future might trigger CD issue. Or they completely forget about it. I am not sure on that.

I would want HS and Mini to sort it out. HS and Mini’s bond is one very strong pillar of PB and its popularity. They can’t be mad at each other while audience enjoys HS and Babes. It will always have a something’s a miss feeling.

I want a nice discussion between them today. Let’s see.

All in all nice to see PB on track and hoping it stays the same.

P.S - loving the gifs. Thanks so much. I have a suggestion. Hanuman’s “honeymoon pe jana hai” sharmana was so cute yesterday. If you want to make a gif for that. 😃

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

HS’ outburst was very well done. Finally he is honest with her which he kept telling everyone in the house to be. I also didnt like him calling Mini Teesra but in context with Husband and Wife, I think he is right. First you have to be one unit.

It didn’t come out right. There is already distance between him and Mini and this “teesra” line made him sound selfish and inconsiderate of Mini.

He made up for it later by saying he feels bad for how much Babita is embarrassing Mini but the teesra line still pinches me. The pre wedding HS would have never said this to Mini.

And frankly, he has not gone about the right way in being a unit with Babita. He’s mishandled a lot in his own presumptions. Toh Kahaan se articulate karega the balance between husband wife ka Rishta and that of the child in the marriage? Two days back he was crying over wanting to be Mini’s father, but in this scene his frustration was all about only not being able to be a unit with Babita🤷‍♀️

Anyways, the scene was good otherwise.

The episode was alright for me. I enjoyed the previous one more. That was more on track PB to me.

Excellent analysis of the episode by you, Anu! 🤗