Men and Women

Imarti the woman was the one who shaped Hanuman Singh to what he is today. A nearly perfect man. As HS has admitted in the show many times. And as Naeem Bi said in last Friday's episode. "Hanuman to bandar tha. Imarti ne use insaan banaya."

In initial episodes, Dadu is telling Hanuman that how Ashok was their firstborn male child. And how everyone was on cloud nine so never really said No to Ashok for anything. They are partially responsible for the way Ashok turned out.

Hanuman then says -- His father was alcoholic. Used to beat his mother and she died coz of that. Father was busy drowning himself in alcohol. He didn't have Father or Mother to tell him what is right and what is wrong. But he learned these from his late wife, Imarti. She taught him to be the Man that he is today. "Aadmi chahe to kisi se bhi, kabhi bhi sikh sakta hai".

Imarti must have taken the front and worked towards shaping Hanuman Singh to be better version of himself. Of what we see him as. His base was always good. He had his heart in right place. He needed someone to hold his hand and walk him on the right path. Woman in his life did so. And he has been nothing but proud of the fact that he is what he is coz of his late wife.

And Now, Hanuman Singh is at the same place where Imarti was all those years ago. He has to be that anchor in Babita's life. Babita is not bad person. She is really a nice human being. She has been great mother, great daughter-in-law, amazing sister and daughter. Except for her daughter, all other relations in her life has betrayed her. Her own brother turned his face away coz of society. She has fears, she has insecurity issues. She has come a long way, yet the residing fear hasn't been wiped away. Also, she has never really experienced Man and Women relationship. And Hanuman is ready to hold her hand, walk with her and show her how it will be for them. He is all up in arms to solve the puzzles with her.

I see lot of sad and underlying tone of Babita not deserving someone like Hanuman. Why so? Did Hanuman deserve Imarti? Was he perfect when Imarti came into his life? We haven't seen that part of his life. How are we to make this judgement that Imarti didn't have to make adjustments and compromises?

Are we too preconditioned to be okay that a Woman worked on her Marriage to make it happy one, worked on her husband to make him the best version of himself but not okay when A Man has to take the front and lead a woman out of her insecurities? We feel sad that now there's a Man who is ready to make this woman a stronger, better version of herself?

Why this double standards? Why can't Hanuman be that anchor in Babita's life which Imarti was in his?

Brilliant post with powerful words!👏

Completely agree. I think someone else pointed this out a couple of days ago, in the forum.

Thank you for making a post on this.

HS has to be that guiding light in her life, which Imarti was in his own years ago. Not only does it come as a full circle for Hanuman, he's also passing on the baton of this legacy ahead.

He is the Imarti in Babita's life. He is for her, what she was for him years ago. About the deserving part, bang on! If she doesnt deserve him, what had he done to deserve Imarti way back?

I think somewhere we will witness Hanuman's journey in being the man he is right now, in Babita's journey - that she will traverse to be the best form of herself.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Brilliant post with powerful words!👏

Completely agree. I think someone else pointed this out a couple of days ago, in the forum.

Thank you for making a post on this.

HS has to be that guiding light in her life, which Imarti was in his own years ago. Not only does it come as a full circle for Hanuman, he's also passing on the baton of this legacy ahead.

He is the Imarti in Babita's life. He is for her, what she was for him years ago. About the deserving part, bang on! If she doesnt deserve him, what had he done to deserve Imarti way back?

I think somewhere we will witness Hanuman's journey in being the man he is right now, in Babita's journey - that she will traverse to be the best form of herself.

Thanks. It's been ages that I have liked a show, it's writing to bring myself to make a post. PB has great material for discussions.

Hanuman has no issues to be the guiding light coz the guy loves Babita. I recently watched the show in it's entirety.

When HS was telling about his "nazron ki chori" to Lala, Lala says -- He has feelings for Babita. To which HS denies. He says He can see Imarti when he closes his eyes. He does and he sees Babita. As Naeem Bi said to him when he was in deniel -- "Imarti ki yaadon ke bich se, Babita ne tere man mein jagah bana li." He fell for Babita. For, who she is. Now her fears and insecurities don't matter to him. If he is hurt, he tells her that. But I don't think he thinks any less of her coz of her underlying issues. He sees a companion in Babita.

@bold -- I would love that. How he was someone who was about to raise his hand on wife on the first night.. to becoming what we see of him today.

Completely agree.. it's ok if a man has ego issues..anger issues.. infact we have tons of such itv male leads.. it's the job of the female lead to fix it and that's very romantic and passionate love story.. not to mention I have seen the MLS mistreating the fls physically.. but that's ok..why.. oh poor fellow had a troubled childhood.. wht are female leads for..

But if it's the other way around we say that she doesn't deserve the hero.. amazing

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

Thanks. It's been ages that I have liked a show, it's writing to bring myself to make a post. PB has great material for discussions.

Hanuman has no issues to be the guiding light coz the guy loves Babita. I recently watched the show in it's entirety.

When HS was telling about his "nazron ki chori" to Lala, Lala says -- He has feelings for Babita. To which HS denies. He says He can see Imarti when he closes his eyes. He does and he sees Babita. As Naeem Bi said to him when he was in deniel -- "Imarti ki yaadon ke bich se, Babita ne tere man mein jagah bana li." He fell for Babita. For, who she is. Now her fears and insecurities don't matter to him. If he is hurt, he tells her that. But I don't think he thinks any less of her coz of her underlying issues. He sees a companion in Babita.

@bold -- I would love that. How he was someone who was about to raise his hand on wife on the first night.. to becoming what we see of him today.

So proud of the writing indeed! It's a class apart. Recently read the director's take on ITV weddings, when weddings usually are a high point for shows, here it will be a regular affair

I have always seen them as companions yes, not soulmates. They're like co passengers who are great friends in the journey together.

Babita to him is a reason to come back home after work, to be a stabiliser for him. While he is her anchor and guiding light, as you mentioned.

Bold - so well said!

In the age of communication issues, it is so great to see him so open and clear with her, with no ambiguity. He is always clear with everything related to Babita.

Someday I would love to witness Babita calm him down and sober his anger, aroused due to a situation.

Originally posted by: Prampari04

Completely agree.. it's ok if a man has ego issues..anger issues.. infact we have tons of such itv male leads.. it's the job of the female lead to fix it and that's very romantic and passionate love story.. not to mention I have seen the MLS mistreating the fls physically.. but that's ok..why.. oh poor fellow had a troubled childhood.. wht are female leads for..

But if it's the other way around we say that she doesn't deserve the hero.. amazing

Forget about other shows.

In this very show, a nearly perfect guy we see, was made one by a female. Then we are all like.. Wah Wah Imarti.

Now the situation changes, the same guy has to be the front person in a relationship, then some are like -- Poor guy.

This is what I don't get.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

So proud of the writing indeed! It's a class apart. Recently read the director's take on ITV weddings, when weddings usually are a high point for shows, here it will be a regular affair

I have always seen them as companions yes, not soulmates. They're like co passengers who are great friends in the journey together.

Babita to him is a reason to come back home after work, to be a stabiliser for him. While he is her anchor and guiding light, as you mentioned.

Bold - so well said!

In the age of communication issues, it is so great to see him so open and clear with her, with no ambiguity. He is always clear with everything related to Babita.

Someday I would love to witness Babita calm him down and sober his anger, aroused due to a situation.

Wow. I would love a regular wedding on Indian TV. Production values have always been low-key and very middle class. Babita, Mini, Hanuman and all other characters, they wear simple outfits. Their day to day life is all easy and like any other regular person. I love that about this show. It's relatable. No tam-jam and dhum dhadaka. Kudos to makers for bringing something so refreshing on TV.

@bold -- Hanuman is upfront with everybody. A great quality he has. When Mini was upset with him, even then when he finds he alone in the hospital, he goes to her and talks with her. I loved their conversation. Have watched it multiple times already.

As for HS and Babita -- I just want the old late night chit-chatting to be back. It is the best part about their relationship. They have had some real good conversations. Just the 2 of them. I think they find each other a great emotional support.

This is an interesting way to look at things!! The show did allude to the fact a couple of times that Hanuman is the way he is currently because of Imarti. He wasn't this perfect and mature to begin with. So if anything, he has had first-hand experience of how a person's flaws can be worked out when a life-partner is there to guide and support.

Superb post ....👏

We always expect woman to be very patient to be like a Devi always... But we forget that a woman can also have anger issues... And insecurities... As. She is a human after all... And she also can vent out her anger just like man does.... But we can't accept it if a woman does bcoz of our so called thoughts of our society that woman is tyag and shant ki Devi... My foot... Sorry for. My language but I hate the segregation that man can scream at his wife and his gharwale anywhere but a woman cant say word when she is hurt or angry wow....

It's not always a woman to shape a man but man can shape a woman and can lead a happy life....

beautifully written. you just put all my emotions into words. everything i wanted to say, but could not find the correct words.

thank you