Originally posted by: firsttimehere
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I empathize suman when she wants her son to feel good about himself and not be insecure in his relationship with wife and for that she thinks raavi is not the best choice. I really can't fathom the blind hatred , mistrust and urgency to pack off raavi with any random guy , not caring for her well being . Her tendency to blame raavi for everything bad in Shiva ka life and pandya family is beyond me .
I can understand Shiva to feel hurt about the domestic abuse charges. Come whatever he will not physically hit or abuse raavi. And to be charged as an abuser to get divorce is bound to hurt. But his mistrust on raavi about something as big as IVF kaand and his selective love for raavi If an only if she is a blind bhabhi bhakt is not tolerable.
When he portrayed his insecurities on raavi and distanced her , he made sense. He even made some level of sense when he wanted sache ehsaas of hers in Disha track ( his silence disha's advances was not acceptable , not at all ,no way ).
What he has done from IVF trank to the fast track divorce is unacceptable. If they said he blamed her in anger and then realized his folly it would have been still okay. But he held onto the grudge all along . His lack of trust is not okay.
And if he doesn't trust her anymore , a forced marriage or a marriage under emotional obligation to bhabhi is not the way to go ahead.
If he even remotely believes raavi , he needs to check for evidence himself.
If he doesn't , he needs to let her go and not marry her whatsoever.
If the family cared for their relationship ,guide Shiva to tame his anger and think sane.guide raavi to be a lesser dobi. Help her prove she has no hand in the divorce and IVF matter and if you can't anything be their support system .
Just dont force Raavi upon him in an unwanted marriage.
I think even in all this Dhara is only concerned about Shiva. Dhara doesn't care about Raavi one bit. She doesn't care if Raavi gets humiliated, gets anger of Shiva & Suman, even if she loses her life.. It doesn't matter to Dhara but yes she cares about Shiva. That's why she knows that Raavi is the only one who can handle that jungli janwar.. That's why she's so adamant to get them married. If she was only concerned bcz Raavi wanted it, she would have let Raavi do what she wanted, but Dhara doesn't care about what Raavi wants. She's saying that Raavi se shadi kar ke Shiva ki zindagi sudhar jayegi.. But Raavi ka kya? She knows that if Raavi back out Shiva will not do anything, that's why she's doing all this zabardasti with her.
Also she doesn't want Raavi to go away from that house at any cost, she's a buffer to her from all the taunts from Suman.. As Suman projects all her bitterness on her, she knows she loves that family, that's why she gaslight her that how perfect & rosy world it is.. But in reality whenever Raavi needed her, she washed her hands off her or used her for family, since the started of pre first marriage.
Suman is a bitter person, she needs someone to project her bitterness, she's very very insecure person, for her false sense of superiority matters bcz she knows that nobody value her.. That's why she hates Raavi bcz she knows that her Shiva is just like her, no substance only talk, these ppl very easily get insecure bcz they know what world is saying is true, so in their false sense of superiority they become bitter & project their bitterness on others, she doesn't want that for Shiva bcz she knows that Raavi is better than Shiva in all sense & he will always feel that insecurity with her
And Shiva, Shiva is a class one coward.. He never faces life's challenges & his first response is always to run away & become bitter, he became bitter bcz Raavi doesn't started liking him when he did, he didn't even asked, only assumed, that's how cowards operates. He's a fattu. He's a bully who only show hus power to those who will not retaliate, like Raavi. He's also using her innocence & love for family to bully her. He's even more insecure than Suman. That's why with Disha he didn't refute her advances, he was having all his options open, that's why he never outright refused her.. When Dhara said to him to go say no to Disha, he said that he will but Raavi ka bhi kuch pata nhi hai, no matter what diwanis says, with Disha, he didn't refused her advance bcz he didn't want to, he was keeping his options open. & he got worse since then. He took Raavi's sachhe ehsaas as his ego booster & started putting conditions on their love & relationship. After ivf kaand he's gone to worse, he's the most pathetic character I saw on ITV
All in all, Raavi is the only person who understand love, relationship & emotions & she's stuck with these toxic people who are taking advantage of her
A writer has to be a psychopath to write such a story๐ก