Pandya family??

We all gave seen Dhara beating mercilessly and then justifying calking herself a mother. How pathetic. All of us might have gotten a beating when we were younger but never that brutal.

Suman always ready to throw her danda at anyone when she is angry.

And now gautam, i am calling him spineless. Your wife is beating your brothers brutally and you are supporting her. Now he is beating shiva.

I think shiva is the punching bag for all. He is too selfless to make every sacrifice so they take advantage of him.

I agree. Everyone is abusive, and takes their anger out on Shiva (and at times on Krish)

Krish is the youngest so he needs to shut up, and Shiva will never speak a word against his family so he is taken for granted 🤪

I agree, said the same thing in the EDT. Physical abuse in Pandya niwas is appalling and the worst affected are Shiva and Krish. Shiva never talks back to his family so they all take him for granted and yes he is their punching bag.

GauRa are a big disgrace and are not to fit to call themselves parents. Would they have hit Shiva and Krish if they were their own children?

Dev quietly does lot of kaands but he is spared all the time. They have different set of rules for Dev and Shiva.

The worst part is that they don’t regret or apologize and call it their parenting skills😕

I made a post on how abusive this family is and even pointed out how spineless gautam is. Everyone very conveniently forgot that they are the ones who didn't see this coming even after knowing shivi for their whole life. Its dhara who got them forcibly married and now expects them to work out too? Are they dolls? What the f*** did shiva do to ruin raavi's life? He also got divorced so by gautam's idiotic logic even his life got ruined but why would he care about that? He freed her from an unwanted marriage with a person she neither accepted nor respected. Why is he the only one responsible for this marriage, what about raavi? Her verbal diarrhea infront of family when this fight began should have made it clear that she played her part in making this situation ugly too. Double standards aur hypocrisy mein to inn logo ne PhD kar rakhi hai. Shiva is definitely their punching bag because this fight has made them face reality and pulled them out of their fantasy land and out of their comfort zone so now they are venting it on shiva as if he is the one who got married by choice and he is the only one in this relationship. Its a total load of crap. What did this beating achieve? Nothing, other than gautam getting to vent his anger on shiva.

Its funny coz in my thread as much as I got supporters for my views there were people defending dhara by saying as a mother she has a right to beat them as she has haq on them and I called it a load of crap coz no kid owes anything to their parent as they didn't ask to be born. Same way nobody asked GauRa to take responsibility of three kids. They did it by choice so they need to live with it and not lord it over them. Them not having kids was a practical choice not a sacrifice as they make it out to be. These days people don't plan kids if they are in a financial mess and that's what the real reason was for not having kids. This physical abuse just makes me a angry.😠

Originally posted by: john909

I made a post on how abusive this family is and even pointed out how spineless gautam is. Everyone very conveniently forgot that they are the ones who didn't see this coming even after knowing shivi for their whole life. Its dhara who got them forcibly married and now expects them to work out too? Are they dolls? What the f*** did shiva do to ruin raavi's life? He also got divorced so by gautam's idiotic logic even his life got ruined but why would he care about that? He freed her from an unwanted marriage with a person she neither accepted nor respected. Why is he the only one responsible for this marriage, what about raavi? Her verbal diarrhea infront of family when this fight began should have made it clear that she played her part in making this situation ugly too. Double standards aur hypocrisy mein to inn logo ne PhD kar rakhi hai. Shiva is definitely their punching bag because this fight has made them face reality and pulled them out of their fantasy land and out of their comfort zone so now they are venting it on shiva as if he is the one who got married by choice and he is the only one in this relationship. Its a total load of crap. What did this beating achieve? Nothing, other than gautam getting to vent his anger on shiva.

Its funny coz in my thread as much as I got supporters for my views there were people defending dhara by saying as a mother she has a right to beat them as she has haq on them and I called it a load of crap coz no kid owes anything to their parent as they didn't ask to be born. Same way nobody asked GauRa to take responsibility of three kids. They did it by choice so they need to live with it and not lord it over them. Them not having kids was a practical choice not a sacrifice as they make it out to be. These days people don't plan kids if they are in a financial mess and that's what the real reason was for not having kids. This physical abuse just makes me a angry.😠

I like that u pointed out that they were force to get married by Dhara. Its not like they were in love and married by choice. Now they are married every one expects them to behave in lovey dovey manner forgetting the selfishness of dhara hiding truth from raavi and dev khand.

I don’t understand why they are partial between dev and shiva. Dev is always forgiven but shiva gets beating. They also made shiva do the labor work and nobody else helps him. I think dhara and gautam have played a bigger role in shiva insecurities. I think mother won’t do such partialities between her own kids. Thats why I don’t believe dhara can get or should get the place of mother in their lives.

Originally posted by: 07RB

I like that u pointed out that they were force to get married by Dhara. Its not like they were in love and married by choice. Now they are married every one expects them to behave in lovey dovey manner forgetting the selfishness of dhara hiding truth from raavi and dev khand.

I don’t understand why they are partial between dev and shiva. Dev is always forgiven but shiva gets beating. They also made shiva do the labor work and nobody else helps him. I think dhara and gautam have played a bigger role in shiva insecurities. I think mother won’t do such partialities between her own kids. Thats why I don’t believe dhara can get or should get the place of mother in their lives.

Unfortunately, its too late as shiva has already given her a status of mother in his life and she has taken full advantage. Thank God we also got to see that shiva is stubborn and will not bend for anything if he sets his mind to it. I agree things are bad right now but atleast we get to see that shiva can't be manipulated or threatened to do something he doesn't want to do. Atleast he has some autonomy. Wait and watch. Makers will make this all about dhara and her so called Mahaanta. Shiva will be blamed for current condition of dhara as if she didn't bring this upon herself in first place. I really hope shiva doesn't reconsider his relationship with shivi for this nonsense..he should reconsider for right reasons

I think physical violence is never an answer for any problem. And even if you are a parent beating is not a solution , it gives emotional scar to a child even when they don't realize it but eventually it comes on the surface. And also we need to stop normalizing the beating part even as a parent. We are human and God has given us a voice to discuss different opinions and also if you are an elder person that doesn't mean that whatever decision you are making is right and everyone has to agree with it.

Good to know that all of us are kind of on the same page. We can agree that some members in the family does need help so that stop being a hypocrite.

Originally posted by: 07RB

Good to know that all of us are kind of on the same page. We can agree that some members in the family does need help so that stop being a hypocrite.

I think everyone is a hypocrite except krish, shiva and to an extent suman

Originally posted by: john909

I think everyone is a hypocrite except krish, shiva and to an extent suman

But Krish crossed the limit yesterday. We all know how Gautam and Dhara told Krish and Shiva to respect Rishita even though she was mean at the beginning. Why wasn’t Krush told to respect and behave towards his elder brother. Why was Gaumbi keeping quiet and didn’t stop him when he grabbed Shiva’s collar, not once but twice. I thought he was going to hit Shiva,

I am disillusioned and disappointed with Krish and this is coming from the number 1 fan of Krish as I have always supported him and enjoyed his pairing with everyone,

There is absolutely no one in that family who care about Shiva except maybe Suman. Dhara showed her true colors that she us nit the real mother of Shiva. It was Suman who called snd hugged him to join them, The nalayak family doesn’t deserve him at all.