I wrote a long essay about how my inlaws are different and how thankful I am to God for helping me find this wonderful family in my life. But I accidentally erased it😭 Here is the shorter version of it.
I know we have all heard only horror stories of in-laws family but there are also handful of people in this world, who are not bad and who sincerely look out for you. My inlaws don't have daughters, that was an added advantage for me as they both really liked the presence of girls in the family. I have said this before, my MIL likes me the most of the DIL's. So when she asks me to adjust when all of us visit her house, I agree to her request and why make it miserable for both of us in that short period we are together. She doesn't let me cook, not even let me help her😆 My husband is the one who cuts the vegetables for her during our visit😆 Her reasoning is that I work all year around to take care of the family and do my actual job without any help, so my time in India is for me to relax and rest. How many MIL's would say that? Also in the almost 20 years of me knowing the family, not once she has complained about me to my husband and he never had to defend me. From day 1, my husband's family and his extended family of aunts, uncles and cousins all accepted me. I never had a problem fitting in. All his aunts from both sides (buas, chachis, maasis, mami's are all independent women, every single one of them were working and some were career oriented) I am proud to say that I am married into a family that respects women and their empowerment a lot.😃
The reason for my MIL to be gracious and affectionate is that her own MIL (husband's grandma) treated her so well, so MIL wants to be like her the with her DILs. My MIL cannot stop praising her MIL, though GrandMa was from the era when women were not even treated well.
This post is to say that there are also in-laws in this world who are really nice to their DIL's and look out for them.