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Posted: 7 years ago
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Neeraja whatever questions you are asking are being dealt in bepanah. The crux of the story lies in it . Why Yush and Pooja left their partners even after having a great married life . I dunno about Yush buthe Pooja was meeting Yash coz Adi and her lacked that understanding and chemistry .
Of your question whether it is possible to fall on love more than once and find a soulmate. Yeah ! Even before NK there was a show Punar Vivah based on this plot . Yash even after marrying Aarti mourned death of his wife Arpita. He was head over heels in love with his wife even after years of her death . He was mad with Aarti for trying to change his life . He adopted many self hurt techniques as a punishment as he had gotten intimate with Aarti in intoxicated state and labelled it as a sin and betrayal to memories of his first wife . Only when Arpita explained that it was no wrong in letting Aarti in he forgave himself and accepted the child of his and Aarti's .I would compare this with scene where Neil saw Juhi giving Avni's hands to him . It was all his subconscious mind playing with him . Else till few minutes before he tried to convince himself that he can't have compassion for a criminal . Yes I believe it's definitely possible to fall in love more than once but true love happens only once .

Neil was able to move on from Juhi and he had started allowing Avni into his system the moment he set his eyes on her .But with Avni he was never able to move on . He was missing her in his arms just before the day of his marriage with Mitali and couldn't get himself to take phere. I guess he had moved on from Juhi much before he realised coz he was just struggling with himself to believe he could fall In love again . Else it would have been hard for him to be so confident that Avni is the one for him . His love for Juhi is nothing as compared to his love for Avni

Answer to your another question what will Neil would have done if he was married to Juhi but had fallen for Avni. Being a man of principles I believe he would have tried to sort it out with her . I can't think of this situation in real life. It just leaves bitter taste in your mouth . Shadi koi gudda gudiya ka khel nahin!
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: AgnesFan

Neeraja whatever questions you are asking are being dealt in bepanah. The crux of the story lies in it . Why Yush and Pooja left their partners even after having a great married life . I dunno about Yush buthe Pooja was meeting Yash coz Adi and her lacked that understanding and chemistry .

Of your question whether it is possible to fall on love more than once and find a soulmate. Yeah ! Even before NK there was a show Punar Vivah based on this plot . Yash even after marrying Aarti mourned death of his wife Arpita. He was head over heels in love with his wife even after years of her death . He was mad with Aarti for trying to change his life . He adopted many self hurt techniques as a punishment as he had gotten intimate with Aarti in intoxicated state and labelled it as a sin and betrayal to memories of his first wife . Only when Arpita explained that it was no wrong in letting Aarti in he forgave himself and accepted the child of his and Aarti's .I would compare this with scene where Neil saw Juhi giving Avni's hands to him . It was all his subconscious mind playing with him . Else till few minutes before he tried to convince himself that he can't have compassion for a criminal . Yes I believe it's definitely possible to fall in love more than once but true love happens only once .

Neil was able to move on from Juhi and he had started allowing Avni into his system the moment he set his eyes on her .But with Avni he was never able to move on . He was missing her in his arms just before the day of his marriage with Mitali and couldn't get himself to take phere. I guess he had moved on from Juhi much before he realised coz he was just struggling with himself to believe he could fall In love again . Else it would have been hard for him to be so confident that Avni is the one for him . His love for Juhi is nothing as compared to his love for Avni

Answer to your another question what will Neil would have done if he was married to Juhi but had fallen for Avni. Being a man of principles I believe he would have tried to sort it out with her . I can't think of this situation in real life. It just leaves bitter taste in your mouth . Shadi koi gudda gudiya ka khel nahin!


Well I don't watch bepanaah...but good to know that they're exploring such subjects. But it's a scary thought. After years of being fed only fluffy, happy, forever, soulmate wala ideas of love n the sacredness n sanctity of marriage it's difficult to come to terms with the fact that in real life things can get complicated...it's tough. Because then morality also comes in...but if it's for the sake of "true" love is it ok? Because it's not fair to expect someone to make a marriage work after falling out of love...but the idea of a person finding love outside his/her marriage makes me very disturbed n uncomfortable although on the face of it, it's a perfectly reasonable thing to happen...
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Well I don't watch bepanaah...but good to know that they're exploring such subjects. But it's a scary thought. After years of being fed only fluffy, happy, forever, soulmate wala ideas of love n the sacredness n sanctity of marriage it's difficult to come to terms with the fact that in real life things can get complicated...it's tough. Because then morality also comes in...but if it's for the sake of "true" love is it ok? Because it's not fair to expect someone to make a marriage work after falling out of love...but the idea of a person finding love outside his/her marriage makes me very disturbed n uncomfortable although on the face of it, it's a perfectly reasonable thing to happen...

I too neither watch Bepanah. Just tried out first few episodes . I can't stand to watch extra marital affair angle at any time. But it all depends on your heart as you can't stop your heart from falling for anyone . It shakes my root to think of such a situation in reality . It's just disgusting and does damage beyond control . Lifelong the girl will be named characterless , ghar todnewali etc
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Originally posted by: AgnesFan

I too neither watch Bepanah. Just tried out first few episodes . I can't stand to watch extra marital affair angle at any time. But it all depends on your heart as you can't stop your heart from falling for anyone . It shakes my root to think of such a situation in reality . It's just disgusting and does damage beyond control . Lifelong the girl will be named characterless , ghar todnewali etc


That's a whole different issue . Even in an extramarital relationship there are 2 people do why blame n label only the woman. But I find the idea of an extramarital relationship very difficult to digest...it makes me uncomfortable n disturbed. People falling in love with someone else n ending their marriage over it...sounds simple enough but to me it's still sonsometh I cant watch/accept. At the same time I also agree that marriage should not be a burden...staying purely out of obligation is also sad and unfair on both partners...
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Posted: 7 years ago
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I think Neil was in love with Juhi ...she was his girlfriend and they didn't live together but did get engaged. When she died he accepted her death and mourned her and eventually decided to move on and marry Rhea. Remember he did agree to marry Rhea and it was going to be a proper marriage with kids and all eventually ...so he did move on. Then he married Avni and fell in love with her . She was his wife ...they lived together for 2 years and went through a lot together ...fighting villains ...saving people ..dealing with his ex gf and supposedly child...then the jail sequence . They also had an intimate bond ...lots of romance and lots of memories ...and Neil decided that she was his great love and he would love her forever. And when she died he couldn't get over her. Probably because he loved her more deeply than Juhi and also because his relationship with Avni was deeper .and more intimate..she had been his wife. And when Avni returned ...he was still in love with her ..he hadn't moved on . But he did try to move on with Mitali but he couldn't because he couldn't fall in love with her even when he said he hated Avni and he believed she betrayed him. And as soon as he found out she hadn't really betrayed him ...he forgave her and all the love surfaced becuade he hadn't fallen out of love with her. So yes people can fall in love a few times ...and the duration of the love depends on the type of relationship . E.g. people who are in happy marriages remain in love for long periods of time..whereas people in unhappy relationships often break up and end up falling in love with some else if that person satisfies their emotional needs..

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