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The forum has been divided into Mayurian's and Sajanian's and I doubt anything can change that anymore.

I myself was an"MJHTian" earlier, still preffered SG, but I enjoyed the whole show. But I can't say the same now. The forum fights became a big reason for my disinterest in MN, apart from their tracks.

About bashing a real person over this show. That's pathetic. People have different opinions; let them be. You don't HAVE to make them agree to you, do you??!! I don't understand why its so hard to respect someone's point of view?? [I'm not talking about people who bash an actor/character/person!]

And the one thing that irritates me the most, is the fact that people are not even trying to respect the other couple. Either do that or just ignore them. I can understand a few fights once in a while but there are a few fights EVERY week. 😕

And about criticizing the other couple, being an "SGian" I have noticed quite a few "criticisms" by "MNians" that can easily be termed as "bashing". In my opinion! I'm not someone who can praise an actor "no matter what they do". There have been a lot of instances where Mohit's acting has disappointed me, but that doesn't mean I have to bash him for that does it?!

Moreover I don't get the point of getting into pointless fights. And I call them "pointless" because no matter what you say, the other person's opinion is not going to change. There have been so many posts that make me angry enough to want write a big lecture against them. But it takes only sometime to calm down and think that it's seriously not worth my time to write one big lecture that is going to be read negatively and lead to even more fights!! And that's exactly what happens!!

And your sixth question!! 👏 That's exactly what makes a "comment" different from a "fight"!! I know its hard to ignore someone who is being so rude to your favorite but you don't have to bash his/her favorite because of that! That's only going to make things worse!! And it won't leave any difference between you and the person who has bashed your favorite.

I actually pity the actual "MJHTians", though I doubt there are any left anymore. The "MJHT" forum is definitely not the place for them!!

I know this post actually turned out to be from a "SGian's" point of view and I'm actually contradicting your post because of that, and that's where I'm wrong too. We always see "the other person's" mistake but never our own.

I feel it is still possible for this forum to be peaceful again, if EVERYONE tries to respect the other's opinion and their preferences. So as a start from my side, I apologise to anyone and everyone who I might have hurt unintentionally. 😳

If I have hurt anyone with this post, I'm sorry. I honestly didn't mean to. 😳 I request you all not to bash. Disagreement is welcome!! 😊

Originally posted by: chilluppp

awesome post dear

written the same comment in mohit's interview's post

pasting over here to

come on yr

these r the fights n just lame reasons because of which sajan fans r no more liking mayur

n mayur fans dont like sajan

plz now stop all this na yar

against to mat bolo kisi k

it hurts its really hurts

if u speak against someone's fav then u should have enough courage to listen against ur favourite dear

so when u cannot listen anything against ur fav just stop this all

i dont know y v cannot b mjhtins

y always sajanians n mayurians

maximum people over here r mature yar

instead much comments r so depressing n childish

MARS roxxxxxxx

Originally posted by: stuti123

yeah surbi we can bring the forum bak ........... but this should be mutual na dont u think if only one side is ready to comply but the other doesnt ............ nd to be honest surbhi intially i dint hate SG though i dint like dem as well but i dint HATE them coz even they are a part of mjht but the attidute of some of their fans developed a strong feeliing of dislike towards them ............... nd i dont wanna hate any one but the attitude of some here irks me big time ............... anwayzi am wid u in this matter of restoring peace in this forum ....... after all nothing is impossible ..........right surbhi ......

Originally posted by: Surbhi123

Some questions for my sweet friends.......

Heya! nice post, i knw this is the result after seeing many such fights in the forum.

1) Is being a mayurian or a sajanian means that we need to hate the other couple ?????????????????????

Nope def not!

2) Just to save or defend our favourite characters , is it right to use offensive language towards a real member of the forum ?????

to save or defend our character...a proper and calm discussion can be made, but as far as its abt offensive language, it is the habit of some ppl, i mean some ppl use those words on a daily basis, so when they get angry on the forum they use those words, while they shud rem tht they r on a public forum.

3) Is it right to give names to a person or community hurting the sentiments just because your pov differs ??????

That's wat hatred does, hatred not towards the actor/actress but hatred towards the fan following with whom a person interacts on a daily basis coz name-calling is not going to hurt the actor but the fan following.

4) What is the criteria for u being a fan , that you will ignore all the faults done by your favs ???????

Nope definitely not, An actor is also a human, they can make mistakes, if as a fan i have adored n loved someone then it must be for many reasons n just one fault of tht person wont stop the love in me for them...evrybody makes mistakes n evry1 deserves a second chance.

5) Do you think that fighting is any solution ????

No not at all, but its a way to let out the inner frustration.(of nythin surprisingly office work, exam stress, personal life stuff) frustration of evrything on real ppl regarding some fctional characters...which is very very wrong!

6) Is it important to cross our limits just because someone crossed his/her limits first . Tell me if you too crossed . What is the difference b/w you and him/her ??????

You r right, if someone made a fault is it imp for others to do the same? if tht person is ill-mannered is it imp for the others to reply and stoop to the same level?

Report and IGNORE mods have clearly said that, but being humans one tends to take matters in their own hands.

They just need a moment's silence and think, if i reply the other will too and then i will be tempted to reply again.

the other case, replying to just frustrate the other person.

i have come across a convo with a fellow member, i wont name the person, in a healthy debate trying to provoke a reaction from the other person by speaking wrongly on that person's fav and taggin it as my pov.

the solution is simple IGNORE.

7) I know everyone is biased towards his/her favourite but cant we even try to be less biased , try to understand other's pov ??????

There's no need to understand, if a prson is so biased towards an actor/actress then no need to comment on those whom u dont like.

if all u can do is fight, surely healthy discussions r welcomed, but fighting, bashing, name-calling if thts wat the biased fan is there in the thread for then its wrong on his/her part.

Solution simple ignore- coz tht person is posting to frustrate fans, the actor is not coming to read lol

8 ) Everyone on the forum keeps on saying that sajan are always bashed or mayur are always bashed and that;s pathetic. But did u ever noticed that sometimes u are the one yourself bashing the other coupler . So tell me what should be done with u at that time ?????

That is like a mod's call, not evry member can answer without being biased, m mentioning it coz the moment i read ur answer, i recalled the events which i have witnessed, so tht will make me biased while i reply to u.

the battle SG V/S MN has to stop, coz its getting us nowhere but increasing the hate level for the other.

and even worst --its affecting Die-hard MJHT fans who love both the couples....i started in the forum as an MJHT fan...but with time i got biased towards SaJan...i like MN but i speak up for SG....i dont comment on MN threads coz now i have got the rep of being an sg fan...so i simply cant go and praise MN in any thread as ppl pass snide remarks.

9) Just because we are a fan of a couple , we cant comment on the faults of other one , everyone scared doing that . Is this right ???????

What is the use of commenting on other couple's fault?

wat will happen by tht? fights- thts all.

eg one is an MN fan they didnt like a certain SG scene, they come n comment abt sg scene in a peaceful manner and so the debate starts....another member comes n speaks ill of the couple and calls them names, and is not willing to listen but only mock!- thts the difference which has to be understood by members.

if they want to comment then it is to be done in a calm n positive manner rather than bashful or hurting manner...as they r very well aware of the fan following of the couple in the forum

10) Dont healthy discussions look good on forum ????

They do n i love them, thts why m replying here😊

Now this was my post.....if i break the forums rules, remind me of thsi post okay?😆 JK i wont do that, i havent till now, m going to be an IF-Dazzler! 😳 tht was uncalled for but i cudnt help but mention😆 cmon congratulate me😛😆

i really want these questions to be answered by each and every member of the forum and i bet if all the people who answer gave the answers from their heart and will follow what they said............our forum can be back to what it was .......the unity , the friendship , the respect for the actors and the respect for each other have been lost somewhere in the forum........but let me tell..........it was us who make the forum what it was and its us who make the forum wehat it is.........and when we have make it like this.........than we are the one who can take it back to what it was ......i always keep on saying that i miss the old forum.......but never tried to bring it back........but have decided now to bring it back.,and i need your help guys.........this is my first step..

mods - please dont close this topic ......i beg u...but yup it become a bashing topic than u can close.......but i promise i will not let it be that........trust me

Originally posted by: Surbhi123

thanks stuti.......for standing with me.............love you...jhappis............

yup it will nlot be one sided..............i really have hopes that each and every mjht member wants peace in our forum..........thats what i was saying stuti........some fans make us hate sg........which is not done........have sg did something wrong that we start hating them........no its their fans..........and same goes with mayur......that dislike was not strong before these all fights on the forum...........yup jaan nothing is impossible.........because impossible word itself says- i am possible.......😛.

Originally posted by: -dreamz-

nice post surbhi 👏

i appreciate ur effort.

this post was much needed in mjht forum

still some members r defending themselves nd blaming the other group 😭

there is a famous saying ''taali hamesha dono hathon se bajti hai''

mayurians nd sajanians r equally at fault

i agree with u if someone is bashing ur fav actor or couple just let it be ''is it necessary to reply back''

using abusive language is highly un-ethical

i m a mayurian but i don't hate sajan.....i hav never bashed monaya or sajan

i watch mjht as a whole

i hope we suceed in getting our old mjht forum back

Sajanians nd Mayurians plz stop fighting

i want ''PEACE'' in mjht forum