sammy hurt me to core today....note pg 11. - Page 7

Originally posted by: angelshy

I am complete feminist in my views about life & people 😆. I watched the epi today ...not once did i feel irked about what Samrat said to Nupur . I loved the Sanu scene to the core😳

In a guy girl relationship there are three roles that define a person ...a friend , a BF & a husband .

As a friend you may be aware of a person's disappointments , weaknesses ...but the only thing you would do is make them aware that life will be beautiful no matter what😊...regardless of whether you achieve what you seek out to achieve .....that is what Samrat said to Nupur.

As a BF ...one will encourage one to dream & achieve...keeping one's weaknesses at bay .That is the reason Samrat encouraged Gunjan to dream & achieve big.😳

As a husband ...you will feel free ...to make your life partner aware of their weaknesses & dissatisfaction ....so that the everything can be set right ...coz you are booked for life . That is what Mayank said to Nupur about not achieving what they set out to achieve .😳.

Each relationship comes with a comfort zone ...Samrat can't tell Nupur what Mayank can & Samrat can't treat Nupur the way he treats Gunjan ...coz it is not his premise to do so .

Samrat as a friend only wanted to cheer Nupur up😳....that she has lost nothing but gained everything with Mayank & their future together.... that is for keeps . He told her that she could become an actress ...but she always will have the happiness of a perfect family . The only reason he values family is coz he never had one ...it is that simple .😳

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Ok guys I have different take on this.... actually what Sam meant was that housewives are in no way inferior to women who have a career. It's the most difficult job in life to manage a home and family maybe more than any profession in the world. They are the homemakers.. And the reason he said that was as a true friend he always knew that Nupur had two things in mind one being an actress and second a good homemaker ... even if we go back to previous episode she has voiced it several times to Mayank or talking about her future.... Here he is not biased but a little conservative because at the moment it was necessary to make Nupur understand that she has not lost everything by loosing this opportunity...

He did not restrict her by saying that you can't dream but at the moment taking an impulse step is illogical... In short what he meant that it's great to have career goals and individual goals, but they need to congruent with your marital goals. You can't take anything just for the sake of doing it to prove yourself and lose what you always wanted.....where you see yourself down the lane in years to come...

I am saying this as I said in another post this whole track is about the dynamics within marriage and relationships --- evolving, career aspirations for individuals who straddle a multi-faceted relationship. It's important to know how much and what you can compromise on... Samart with family and Nupur with her dreams... and that what the whole Sanu scene meant...

@ Ght_Sajan agree with you.....Somewhere Samrat has started to realize that a family life is very important & his expressions were telling that somewhere he feels his dream of having a happy family life seems all the more uncertain since Gunjan is becoming an actress. but He encourage Gunjan to do it for Nupur!!!

Originally posted by: angelshy

I am complete feminist in my views about life & people 😆. I watched the epi today ...not once did i feel irked about what Samrat said to Nupur . I loved the Sanu scene to the core😳

In a guy girl relationship there are three roles that define a person ...a friend , a BF & a husband .

As a friend you may be aware of a person's disappointments , weaknesses ...but the only thing you would do is make them aware that life will be beautiful no matter what😊...regardless of whether you achieve what you seek out to achieve .....that is what Samrat said to Nupur.

As a BF ...one will encourage one to dream & achieve...keeping one's weaknesses at bay .That is the reason Samrat encouraged Gunjan to dream & achieve big.😳

As a husband ...you will feel free ...to make your life partner aware of their weaknesses & dissatisfaction ....so that the everything can be set right ...coz you are booked for life . That is what Mayank said to Nupur about not achieving what they set out to achieve .😳.

Each relationship comes with a comfort zone ...Samrat can't tell Nupur what Mayank can & Samrat can't treat Nupur the way he treats Gunjan ...coz it is not his premise to do so .

Samrat as a friend only wanted to cheer Nupur up😳....that she has lost nothing but gained everything with Mayank & their future together.... that is for keeps . He told her that she could become an actress ...but she always will have the happiness of a perfect family . The only reason he values family is coz he never had one ...it is that simple .😳

Originally posted by: meens1981

Shruti dear brilliant n d most realistic POV for d scene yest....loved ur take hon👏

I agree wid u partly, surbhi... More than being hurt, i was surprised wid wat Samrat was advising Nupur...

I really liked the way he handled her in the beginning becoz he knows Nupur's happy-go-lucky nature and he was also surprised that Nupur has become so serious regarding life... Of course he doesnt know the turmoil that she is goin thru.. So no complaints for that.. He was just trying to make her realise that even though she may be feeling dejected at the moment, her life's not all that bad yet...

But when Nupur told him that having a family is not the only dream that she can see and that she's free to hv other dreams too, then I felt that Samrat shud hv encouraged her rather than comparing her life to an actress's life, coz firstly, she had a scholarship+job pamphlet in her hand, so acting was nowhere in the picture... Secondly, I think that in this era, having a happy family is nowhere correlated to having a job or being career-oriented for women! I wonder HOW the CVs came up wid this one?

Anyway, I also agree wid many here that this was more of a reflection of Samrat's deep emotions/fears, rather than just a friendly advice... But Nupur's frame of mind is not very clear at the moment, so despite having a mind of her own, such advice could go against her ambitions... So, I didnt particularly like his advice...

Let's just hope that this wasnt a sign that CVs are planning Nupur's career as a HOMEMAKER!! That wud be devastating, however much we may say that its a tough task!!

sorry friends, but i dont agree with u AT ALL( for those who are supporting samrat)

samrat CLEARLY said that nupur should be happy with what she has and should stick to the aim of being a wife and a mother.

and as for all of u who are saying that samrat did that JUST TO CHEER UP NUPUR...i will disagree...u dont cheer people up by telling them to give up. even if you know that they may not secure that goal, u tell them to go ahead and try....please its a 21st Century...no 21st century girl can dream of being ONLY A HOUSEWIFE....so no justification for sammy here.

im sorry, but i cannot digest what sammy did yesterday.