Eve- Teasing in your Lives??(Edited)

Ok first I do not understand what the social issue was but now I knida get it and I respect the CV'S first time a lot becoz they hav focussed on a real issue which is very important for everyone one to learn..

Incident 4

Moral

Originally posted by: mohitkideewani

You are right bhootni! Every day many face teasing and whatnot and can lead to some horrible ending. I am so sorry to hear about your cousin's best friends. But these people do exist in this world. And the way MJHT is going about it really describes this social issue and yes I agree with you, I respect the CVs for the first time!

Thanksh Jazz.. Ish ok taht is life.. I know I really hate these types of people they just think they are trying to act kool on front of ppl but don't realise they are destroying innocent lives😡😡😡

Brilliant post Ash, I applaud you.

Originally posted by: mimi0295

Brilliant post Ash, I applaud you.

Yes, it's really sad knowing that horrible people like that exist in the world. It's degrading to any woman or man (men get teased too, it happens, we just don't notice it as much) and like you said, nowadays, women can stand up for themselves.. but there are still people like Gunjan out there. And people look at girls or guys who have a "Gunjan-like nature" and see them as easy targets.

I'm really sorry for what happened to your cousin's friend... I hope and pray that none of you ever go through that.

Personally, I've never been targetted at like Gunjan where violence occured.. but there are always the occasional men who honk at you when you're crossing the street and follow you home. They say disgusting pick up lines. That's happened to me before. 😛

Thanks KP

I have been felt up in buses..local buses... I stopped boardin in crowded buses... but i have 3 weapons..well soled wooden shoes...help in stomping.....my elbow..ramming into whatever part of the guy is behind me... with SUBTLETY ofcourse..right now i dont go out without pepper spray..

there was a situation when i had to remove my chappals at a group of slumboys...dont knw what they thought..they ran away

more than me talking..I will let the article do the talking

Hassled, but helpless

Despite efforts by the authorities to curb eve-teasing, the menace continues. PRINCE FREDERICK surveys the scene.

IN1998, Sarika Shah, a student of Ethiraj College in Chennai, fell victim to eve-teasing in the vicinity of her college; she was manhandled and the injuries she sustained proved fatal. Her untimely death was made more poignant because it happened to be on July 23, her birthday. Months later, 32-year-old Durga, was killed when half-a-dozen men in an autorickshaw callously rammed her. A year ago, Amutha, a college student hailing from Asaripallam in Kanyakumari district took her life following an incident of eve-teasing.

Only a few months earlier, there had been a furore in the district over an incident in which two sisters, Sabitha and Saritha, were victims of an acid attack. Preethi, from Ambikapur in Madhya Pradesh, was run over by a jeep carrying her tormentors. In Calcutta, Rekha Choudhury, a basketball player, with an enviable standing in the national circuit, was tied to a vehicle and dragged. She sustained serious injuries, but survived the attack. There were a couple of incidents reported from Mumbai in which the victims were thrown out of moving trains.

This is by no means an exhaustive list of the victims of eve-teasing in the country. There are many more attacks, killings and suicides that can be cited. And to our shame, these continue unabated.

Only last month, a girl was assaulted at the Sathyam Theatre Complex. Nirmala was assaulted when she took exception to the obscene remarks directed at her by a group of college youths. The bystanders were mute spectators to the attack. If you think it is only the uncivilised youth who indulge in eve-teasing, this case would dispel the misconception. The boys involved were from respectable families. A few days ago, a Std. IX student, Surya, of Pudukottai, walked over the brink, as she was stung to the quick by a youth's dogged presence and obscene pronouncements.

Where is teasing or jest in all this? Ask Sarika Shah's parents and they will not say their daughter was teased, but brutally killed. It is a mystery why we are yet to wake up to the inaccuracy of the term eve-teasing. Any argument to continue with it as an appellation for the terror that women are subjected to, should indeed be untenable. Eve-teasing is a term that highlights the offender's perception of the act; and by continuing to use it, we are supporting the eve-teaser, unwittingly though. It is time we painted this menace in the dark colours that it deserves. To start with, we could coin a new name for it.

Far too often, we find the victim on the wrong side of the stick. If we were to go into the aetiology of eve-teasing, as propounded by so-called analysts of the phenomenon, it would seem ludicrous, if not nauseating ' "With the way she dressed she had it coming," "She would have encouraged the boys" and "Boys will be boys, girls have to be discreet". The "behavioural scientists" are in a sense in cahoots with eve-teasers as they seem to be condoning their crimes. How would they explain the fact that hell-raisers on the road knock the living daylights out of a motorist for no other reason than the fact that she is a woman. And we know only too well that many of these victims are clad in saris or churidhars, and not in skin-hugging, skimpy outfits.

The case of P.E. Usha epitomises societal attitude to victims of sexual assault and eve-teasing.

An employee of Calicut University, she was sexually assaulted on a bus. Her determination to put the man in the dock cost her dearly. Her husband abandoned her. Her colleagues at the university did whatever they could to prevent her from coming to the office.

People around started to regard her with disgust. Some tarnished her character, by labelling her a woman of easy virtue.

Within days of Sarika Shah's mortal remains being interred, hundreds were put behind bars on charges of eve-teasing. In no time, the White Brigades were formed. Policemen were posted near women's colleges and schools. And within months, the State Government enacted the Tamil Nadu Prohibition of Eve-Teasing Act, 1998.

The upshot of it all is that there have indeed been efforts to curb the menace. But despite these measures, eve-teasers continue to strike with impunity.

Though the Sarika Shah case is an analogue of the Pon Navarasu case, one is left with the feeling that the former has not given as much fillip to the anti eve-teasing crusade, as the latter has to the anti-ragging campaign.

While we seem to have contained ragging, the horror of eve-teasing seems to continue. One is impelled to look upon the crackdowns as knee-jerk reactions. It takes the death of a Sarika to galvanise the enforcement agencies into action. Who next?

In all fairness, it has to be admitted that the challenges posed by eve-teasing are far more than those that ragging throws up. Ragging, by and large, is confined to the premises of educational institutions and generally rears its head only in the beginning of an academic year.

oh and BTW...retaliating against eve teasing can lead dangerous results....sarika shah was and is a prime case...

Eve teasing is a serious issue, I m not sure MJHT would do justice to it as such..
however, it is good enough that people (girls in particular) are aware of the issue (not too difficult when u face the issue all the time). I actually hope more guys get to know what a serious offense it is..not just offender, even normal people must be made aware of the seriousness of the issue.

About personal experiences, being a woman in India, I can say everywhere..any crowded place - buses, trains, shops, market places, even temples (oh yeah!) ..then along the roads, in colleges, restaurants, cinema halls...its an endless list.

I think keeping ourselves safe is important, but more important is to avoid doing stupid things that make everything worse. This is until the society itself grows up to understand the pain a woman goes through in these circumstances.

AT the behest of spamming this thread I want to say this...

my friend is a software engineer.. a happy go lucky person.... we are exact copies of eachj other in attitude..,and she dresses perfectly...salwar dupatta in place...and she uses public transport just for the convenience..our habit in undergrad used to be to fight for window seats....some guy tugged at her dupatta and pulled it from outside the window..the brave girl that she is....help on to his hand so she can drag him..he was stronger ..ran away... a random BET

during my trip back home we went for a beach trip..
when the two of us went out for a beach trip along the same route...we see a guy with his mobile phone camera in our direction..we wanted to complain..but the next worry was this--Now where does this guy get down? will he stalk us? what happens when we travel alone a lot..is it safe to retaliate? there are just too many factors involved...sometimes u put urself in danger when u retaliate...


my best idol is jackie chan....when u are alone and sense danger , FLEE to a safe zone...when in a crowd/familiar area, RETALIATE..after making sure he has no weapons

OMGGG DS !! This post is AWESOMEEE ..u realli deserve a huge round of applause for bringing this topic among us 👏 👏 👏 👏