what abt Riyas Fault and Immaturity

i had seen so many posts abt shivam and other family members fault
what abt Riya
what abt her stupidness and immaturity
finally she got a chance to have a relationship or atleast friendship with her both sils
nimmi came to her and was even saying how she wanted to tell her everything before abt the shanti and sarla and how shivam always stopped her
now when she got a chance which she always wanted and cried of no one understands me,all think me as there enemies and crap
i dont know what she want sympathy from everyone and she keeps on complaining abt kaushalya and nimmi preeti to shivam
any husband will get irritated with that ( here im not saying that i support shivam or his attitude,mu point is faults of riya)
now she got a chance to see all the true faces of ppl in her sasural
how few of them use others in name of realtions and others even knowing it are supressed and all that
so instead of alteast getting friendly with each one after one another she is crying and looking for sympathy
when finally she got support frm atleast 2family members what she does shouts on them,accuse them and ask them to leave her alone
if she want to survive in that family she must not only underestand those ppl but how to act with each of them and how to solve the problem without getting into anyones bad books
if not this will only get repeated she will speak everything bluntly then dadi will play her drama and all blame comes on riya and dadi will make riya look like that all bad happened bcz of riyas immaturity

Originally posted by: muktha_cute

i had seen so many posts abt shivam and other family members fault
what abt Riya
what abt her stupidness and immaturity
finally she got a chance to have a relationship or atleast friendship with her both sils
nimmi came to her and was even saying how she wanted to tell her everything before abt the shanti and sarla and how shivam always stopped her
now when she got a chance which she always wanted and cried of no one understands me,all think me as there enemies and crap
i dont know what she want sympathy from everyone and she keeps on complaining abt kaushalya and nimmi preeti to shivam
any husband will get irritated with that ( here im not saying that i support shivam or his attitude,mu point is faults of riya)
now she got a chance to see all the true faces of ppl in her sasural
how few of them use others in name of realtions and others even knowing it are supressed and all that
so instead of alteast getting friendly with each one after one another she is crying and looking for sympathy
when finally she got support frm atleast 2family members what she does shouts on them,accuse them and ask them to leave her alone
if she want to survive in that family she must not only underestand those ppl but how to act with each of them and how to solve the problem without getting into anyones bad books
if not this will only get repeated she will speak everything bluntly then dadi will play her drama and all blame comes on riya and dadi will make riya look like that all bad happened bcz of riyas immaturity

The sister-in-laws were conditional in their support and even mildly scathing. While they praised and thanked her for saving the house, they also suggested in the very next sentence that she should've discussed her strategy with Shivam, as if he would've believed her, let alone support her. She did what should've been done years ago. Revelations are often unsettling. It could not have happened any other way. Serious diseases need surgery not band-aids.

Yeah.. Shivam told her that it will be difficult for her... But she vowed that she'll manage everything...Then why she is not bending?? Its an old formula.. First become like them and then do what ever you want.. But she like to do things in her style and then will complain to Shivam that why nobody likes her..

Dumbo...

I get what you are saying but think of it from Riya's pov. She thought she was saving the house and exposing Sarla little knowing that Shivam the main connection for her would be angry and taunt her. And then Nimmi and Preeti offer help how does she know it is genuine. Nimmi has constantly put her down repeatedly so far.

I so feel for Riya coz she always get thrown about joint family but where has anybody taken the time to explain to her about joint family.

I do not think she is immature but that Shivam is dumb and kiddish and very immature to be in a relationship

Originally posted by: Prtzy

Yeah.. Shivam told her that it will be difficult for her... But she vowed that she'll manage everything...Then why she is not bending?? Its an old formula.. First become like them and then do what ever you want.. But she like to do things in her style and then will complain to Shivam that why nobody likes her..

Dumbo...

Originally posted by: Prtzy

Yeah.. Shivam told her that it will be difficult for her... But she vowed that she'll manage everything...Then why she is not bending?? Its an old formula.. First become like them and then do what ever you want.. But she like to do things in her style and then will complain to Shivam that why nobody likes her..

Dumbo...

Why would she change when nobody tells her what the family is all about.

Originally posted by: soapliker

Why would she change when nobody tells her what the family is all about.

Plz refer to Episode number 55.. Shivam literally warned Riya that his house is no less than a minefield..The moment she makes any mistake she'll get bombed.. He was very clear that Dadi ka gundaraj which she has to accept..But then Riya kept on repeating "I Love You" "I will manage everything"

Now she has complaints that Shivam doesn't support her..Imagine a real life scenario where a guy tells a girl that my family is a bit weird and you will not be able to adjust, I believe the girl would have thought 100 times before marrying the guy even if she loved him..

I am not saying that whatever that happens in Shanti Sadan is right.. No No.. not at all.. But Riya has got no choice..She must do something so that the family starts liking her or else accept the way things work in the house..

Originally posted by: just4fun

So she should put up with lying and scheming to adjust. Make it her style also.

Yes she shud...she is giving away her salary, doing household work along wid office , taking shit from khushiya n Nimmi bt not speaking up bt she is not adjusting...she shud literally bow down before shanti, let her separate her head from d body bcz she seems to b a threat n at d end if shanti is not happy riya is not adjusting