Oh my gosh, yesterday's episode was horrible on the emotions! What is going on with this show?! This is emotional, psychological and bordering on physical abuse! I get that Shanti Devi and Sarla are just fulfilling their roles as evil bints, but isn't the real wrong' when people stand by and do nothing about it? We are humans given the ability to reason, deduct and think- we don't just blindly follow what others' tell us- we find out the truth for ourselves. I understand that this is also a cultural thing- where you have to practically sacrifice your soul for your family and praise goes to those who give up their identity to give in to the status quo- I do get that. You can describe it any way you like- sugar coat it for all I care- but that's the truth of it. In this culture you are encouraged to give up who you are as a human being as well as the potential you may have had on your own unique path that God/the universe/whatever you want to call it- set you on...you're encouraged to give it all up in the name of family honour and what other's deem is best for you. So ok- that's partly the premise of this soap. But...I'm hoping there's a message in it somewhere as it will obviously unfold, especially for the younger generation. We're living in an evolving world where outdated ideas although once respected and cherished only serve to deprive the soul of growth in a world that is increasingly becoming interconnected- thoughts and ideas from all around the world are more cohesive now than ever before in history. So Im hoping this soap will give way to some kind of useful message because this level of abuse is ridiculously uncomfortable to watch day in, day out. I'm getting frustrated and angry more with the good' guys than Miss Pigtail and her psycho daughter. Evil is serving its purpose in this show- or there'd be no point in it...but what are the good guys doing really? Let's say Kaushalya is damaged'- she's been practically groomed from a young age to do her MILs bidding no matter how demeaning, humiliating and undignified. She's been groomed to be spoken to worse than you'd treat your dog- she got married young, left her education and was practically forced into a life of slavery. (I don't care how lovey dovey Raghav gets- he's neglected his wife to honour' his mother). So let's forget Kaushalya for a sec- she's kind of stuck in her role UNLESS something really drastic happens like her children being threatened ( please lord above I hope she can at least become a lioness for her kids, if not- I'm chucking the remote at the tv and calling it a day!)
What is pi**ing me off are the people who can actually do something about it by using their damned brains already. Raghav- he's been married to his wife for god knows how long; a lifetime right? You'd THINK that by now he would know his wife's characteristics- whether she's psycho evil and loves abusing her MIL or using his two eyes to see her running after his mum like a bloody dog. You'd think he'd have noticed that after 30 years or so, surely? "My wife never ceases to run after my mother, cook for her, clean for her, wash her damned backside if need be" and yet when mummy says anything against her he freaks the hell out like his psycho mum. Is he retarded or something? I mean- can he not reason or think for himself? He's a grown man- head of the family really if we're going to talk about adults acting like adults- and yet EVERYTIME "mum you do whatever you want, why will I do it? You know better than me. You are god incarnate. Im unable to think for myself. All Im good for is bringing in the cash flow. I forgot that when I got married I also became a husband and I took vows to protect and love my wife, to respect her and treat her as my partner in life not my damned mother's slave. Oh yeah mum, I also forget that I got the poor woman pregnant- then expected her to give our kids the right morals and do all the damned work behind the scenes but that still gives me the right to pick on them and put them in their place like wayward animals' and not give them an inch to express their thoughts and beliefs no matter what- because I AM MAN OF HOUSE THAT DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO THINK FOR MYSELF. But hey ma- you make all the decisions, I'll just hold onto your apron strings for the rest of your life and then when you croak it I'll be completely useless because I wont know what the hell to do with my family- cuz you did it all'!!!! Yeah- real useful guy I am!" UGH. I don't like him, I don't respect him and the fact that he can even think his wife capable of such a demeaning and nasty thing without any proof and only his mother's crocodile tears when very other evidence of his wife's doting over his mother their entire lives is staring him in the face is just beyond me. Hs character is unrealistic and if there are people as moronic as that out there- then god help their poor families. Scary. His mum makes ALL the decisions- has he thought then what would happen when she bites the dust? Shouldn't Kaushalya be the new matriarch or will he assume to be the head of the family then? What the hell use would he be- all he does is go to work come home, look miserable, sigh, sigh, sigh- as if his wife isn't breaking her back every day to look after his insane family and still she manages to smile- even with the psychological abuse she faces. You've only got one life a*sehole- it wouldn't kill you to smile at your family and treat them with a bit of humanity instead of hiding under your mother's skirts at your ripe old age. YUK! đ¤˘
Then there's the kids, Neemi, Preeti and Shivam. What. The. Hell. Out of all of them the only one I have a modicum of affection for is Neemi. She's the only one who speaks up the MOST for her loved ones, for HERSELF and for her mum. Shes been slapped, insulted, threatened and yet she still goes for it. đ I hope they develop that more in her character. She's underestimated- supposed to be the one who cant go to school and has an amazing creative talent and a brain that she uses. If it hadn't been for her those two morons shivam and riya wouldn't have gotten married- forget shanti devi- she sanctioned it for her son's approval.
Shivam has spoken up- but dude, you're a GUY- I think you can grumble moodily in your room LESS and stand up to your dad, aunt and gran a bit more. Let's be PROACTIVE yeah? So what's the worst that happens? Daddy either beats the crap out of you or throws you out. And the big deal is? If it was for my mum- I'd risk getting beaten the crap out of too- to hell with it all. If I know for a fact that my mum is innocent and especially one like Kaushalya who couldn't harm a fly- oh man at worse I'd throw a damned punch at a dad like that for debasing his wife so horribly infront of everyone- I'd best I'd give him a good verbal bollocking. No way people- no one treats a mother like that and gets away with it. What is with this honour your elders no matter how foul they are' crap?? I don't get it. What's age got to with it? What's experience got to do with it? Those things we can all achieve given time- what differentiates us is how we treat our fellow human beings whether they are our blood or not, whether they are younger or older than us. Who even came up with this idea to respect your elders? No- you respect those who understand what compassion is, what love and integrity is. This whole idea is disgusting and self-demeaning because it basically says that Ill respect you at the cost of respecting myself. Is that why we are here? To walk another's path instead of our own? Ugh anyway Im going off on a tangent. So uuuhhh Shivam, get your head out of your butt, grow some hairy balls- get ANGRY đĄ (it can be a useful emotion!) and stand up for your ma- stand up for your sisters!!! (My god if anyone spoke to my younger brother the way Amit spoke to Neemi just after the wedding I would have ripped their goddamned heads off!- but then maybe my priorities are more about protecting those I love than not creating a scene' I'd go nuclear).â˘ď¸
Riya is supposed to be the Golden One who sees all and defies psycho gran and aunt. So far- NOT seeing it people. Instead she's having stupid tiffs with her husband from her maternal home because she's in lurrrve and -ok granted she wants him to be all lovey dovey, they just got married BUT he did actually warn her about his insane household. He had told her that his gran rules everything and anything and that you can't even breathe in that house without someone telling you how to do it- he'd told her this way before. And she was like oooh love conquers all- I can do anything for you' BLAH BLAH BLAH. So now when comes crunch time, shes having an emotional break down while Shivams balls have withered away after he's just impotently watched his dad and gran rip his mum to shreds. Romantic.
Riya- stop gushing over your gran-in law- use those brain cells- I mean you already asked Kaushalya if Shanti always speaks to her so vilely and she said yes- so use that brain girl. You're making me want to throw a chair at you with GUSHING over your psycho grand aunt. And seriously? She believed Shanti's story over her own grand-aunts story of their childhood???? Not buying that Riya has a brain yet.
Preeti has developed a stammering problem because of her gran and no one seems to give a crap- that's just the way it is. Again what the hell?
Rani is my only saving grace and hope to god she turns Sarla's household upside down. Wouldn't it be awesome if Amit saw the light one day, begged for forgiveness, falls hopelessly in love with his wife and puts his psycho mother in her place and ends up growing his dad's restaurant business? That'd be very cool. A complete 180 for Amit please! Eventually! But he'll need to really pay for what he did to that poor girl first.
Anyway Ive had my rant. This show is not good for your emotional stability lol
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