Am the only one ? - Page 5

Hi guys! I am a newbie n a silent reader/observer on this forum. I'm a fan of Raghvi n I'm also very disappointed with the current n the last few tracks (like most fans) that's been meted out by the makers ... especially as there is no relief between these tracks. This current track is definitely a major spinner for all the fans of this program. Especially with the extreme difference of reactions/feelings/opinions that many fans are feeling.

The first episode of the cringe fest was a torture to watch ... I skipped through many scenes. I was feeling disgusted, sick, disappointed, sad, etc. I felt worse when I went through the twitter feeds.

With a lot of fear n anxiety I watched yesterdays episode (after RR wakes up). I still felt horrible but also very conflicted n confused as there were many different aspects to consider (imo) re what n how things happened in the last 2 episodes. I hadn't realised how invested I had gotten with RR n P characters until the last couple of episodes.

I came across another topic thread by AnushkhaA (Sorry Raghav, not yet...). After going over the discussions n watching the last 2 episodes again gave me a much more clearer understanding n picture of what happened in the last 2 eps. Hence this post ...

Link of AnushkhaA's thread below if you are interested in checking it out

Sorry Raghav, not yet...

indiaforums.com/forum/topic/5254774please type in the address as a newbie I'm now allowed to post hyperlinks

I have quoted some posts from the above thread below to give a better idea of the conversations between fans re their different perspectives on this issue/topic

(Hi Kavita, I wasn't very sure how to do a post so I just replied to your comment. I hope you don't mind. I wanted to tag AnushkhaA n SruthySudeep but I don't know how to tag people. If you don't mind could you help with this please. Thanks & best regards)

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Originally posted by AnushkhaA

He does love her, value her and respect her... what he is doing is borne out of his own deep rooted insecurity of abandonment. He needs to come out of it to be able to move on in the truest sense. Him not telling about the night is wrong. But his intention isn't. He is scared she will leave him.

And he knows he can't live without her. And he also knows that she can live without him. That is where this thing is coming out of. I am not justifying him lying. I'm telling that we need to stop telling Pallavi deserves respect, trust and love ... implying Raghav doesn't give that to her

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Originally posted by Couch.Potato

I won’t forgive Raghav for emotional infidelity unless he comes clean about it to Pallavi but physically he didn’t cheat .

He should atleast show some respect for his wife and spill the truth about night to her.

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Originally posted by AnushkhaA

I think all of you are forgetting that he had just come to know that Esha had practically sacrificed her own happiness for his safety whence all these years he had been berating and cursing her.

What is a man supposed to do at this stage? Wouldn't he try to make her feel a little better? A little at ease or perhaps not so awkward? Her sharing a drink with her was perhaps to show his unworded apology or acceptance of her deed. He will definitely not be uncomfortable with a woman... whom he had once loved. Who was his friend before being his girlfriend. And who, as he had just come to know had saved his life.

How was he supposed to know that she would end up doing something like this?

Like during the Mandaar track Pallavi initially hadn't felt uncomfortable with Mandaar right? That wasn't her fault even though she didn't know him at all? Even though it was implied to the audience that he is a creep.

This... Well said.

He used to be friends with her, that affection doesn't go away. She made a huge sacrifice and essentially ruined her life to save his. It's normal that she never stopped loving him. I'd find it weird if she did. When you find out that your ex didn't betray you at all and you kept hating her while she kept loving you and tried to save you, that makes a massive difference to how you would feel towards your ex. He used to love her a lot and considered her his soulmate in the last. She wasn't just a fling. I wouldn't expect him to just walk away after saying thank you, especially when she was hurting physically and emotionally. She was the damsel in distress too in that moment and he responded with a lot of sympathy. Him giving her company was also because he fault sorry for her, felt bad for hating her all these years, even though he was in the dark.

There's nothing wrong with listening to her expressing his feelings because she can have whatever feelings she wants. They are one-sided but just like he hadn't moved on from hating her all these years until he learned the truth, she hadn't moved on from loving him all these years. People are fine with Veer doing that for Zara but not Esha doing that for Raghav?

The point is that he didn't act on it but she did later on. If she hadn't, and nothing had happened between them, and they had gone their separate ways back to Hyderabad amicably, the reaction of people would be very different.

This is my read of the situation but I get it that others have their own interpretations. I always say that as the audience we see the 360 degrees that characters don't and we tend to forget that they don't see other people's motivations or intentions as clearly or as deeply as we do.

Inlieu

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Originally posted by subbuappu

I get you Sammy. But I just don't understand that why people say on that she took bullet for him?? Didn't he tried to shoot himself at point blank during M track?? I am not degrading P's love but just can't see R's love for P sidelined just because that bullet didn't want through his head?? I am not a person who observe the BG song much so I don't even remember the song unless it is a really famous song... Many songs i heard as bg song, i went and searched in YouTube (that's how I watched Sanam teri kasam movie) so i really don't know what impact that BG song would have created in audience mind.. as I don't know much about it I hawa mein filtered the song.. may be people who observe these nuances might feel it cringy..

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Originally posted by Ruhi.007

Can I confess I felt pity for esha in the episode. Of course seeing the precap, I think she may go the fatal attraction way. But in the episode I felt sad for her story. If true it is so tragic she loved a guy, gave up him to protect him. Had to create such a bad impression that he had to hate her. Knowing the person you love hates you cannot be easy. Then getting into an abusive marriage. Trying to move on and facing the ex as a happily married man. Then getting stuck with the said ex in a curfew in a hotel room. May be she wanted some closure too and she was drunk too. I am not saying she is not wrong but just feeling some sympathy. Tomorrow I know they will turn her evil.

Thank you for saying this. Up until she tried to take advantage of him when he wasn't conscious, I felt bad for her. I try to see everyone's perspective and her continue to love him while enduring his hatred and knowing that she broke his heart can't have been easy.

Inlieu

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Originally posted by subbuappu

Sammy... Isn't challenging and drinking arepart of RR characteristics if we see that way?? He used to play challenge challenge game all the time with Pallavi.. I believe he doesn't want to hold any more grudge on the ex and hence had a party with her. Technically he should have maintained distance from ex but when he heard of that sob story, he gave her a pass and wanted to let that go. Only issue i see here with RR is drinking out of senses and passing out in that very room for which he is accountable..

If you see that way.

It may be counted as him finally burying all the grudge and feeling bad for her coz she said she left him for his own safety. Trying to make her feel better, sympathising for marrying an abusive guy.

If only if they didn't add the soft BG for them. If R was totally detached and cool with her instead giving them eyelocks. When she says about love and cries ,making clear R style that it's futile talking about now.

See what they have done - it made it feel like he still is perplexed or something or if not why didn't he said it to her face since R never had any qualm about being ruthlessly clear.

And with the last track people feel more for Pal who took a bullet to save him and with this light it's going to look really injustice to her.

Isamreen

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Originally posted by AnushkhaA

I don't see how he can't be affected. Esha used to be his friend, before he fell in love with her. Then he came to know that she sacrificed her love, her happiness for his safety whereas he hated her, cursed her. There was affection there somewhere hidden under the hurt.

It is natural to get affected. He didn't love her. No that is out of the equation... but a lingering fondness as a friend might be there. That can't be held against him. Atleast I don't think that...

I agree with this.

Also, she married an abusive guy who's harassing her even though they've been divorced for 3 years, and there is an undercurrent here that if Raghav and she had gotten married he would not have mistreated her like her ex-husband did/does. More for Raghav to feel bad about, that not only did she sacrifice her happiness but she lived a life of hell in order to protect him.
He would have to be stone-hearted not to be affected by this.

Inlieu

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Originally posted by AnushkhaA

Thanks a lot for supporting me. I was really mad at myself for lashing out yesterday even before I saw the episode. All thanks to the twitterati..

I have never bashed either Raghav or Pallavi before and I don't intend to do that any time soon. Its just that as a woman I was outraged. But later I flipped their genders and saw the marked difference in opinion clearly. That kinda opened my mind.

Now, I am kinda glad I watched the episode...

No worries, dear. These are all life experiences and the forum is where I learn a lot from other people's perspectives or come across topics I've never heard about before.

Twitter can be a minefield most of the time so I avoid it until after watching the episode.

Inlieu

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