So I read the main post but didn't have the chance to read all the posts on this thread so excuse me if this is repetitive. I'm kind of in the middle of whether it's ok for P to react the way she did vs not:
I understand Pallavi's curiosity and general need to figure out what really happened to Mandaar. After watching yesterday (todays?) episode and further analyzing why she needed to go to the puja, etc., I've realized a lot of what P does for D fam + M is for D fam and out of gratitude to D fam. They kept her as a daughter despite knowing their son was gone and she's grateful for that. Tbh I don't even think her little emotional connection to M is what is driving her at this point. I truly think its because she wants to set up D fam with closure, herself too, but more so for them bc a part of her feels guilt of the way she left their home.
Remember, as someone told me too on another thread, P verbally acknowledged she was never in love with M. Also, let's remember they got married in end of 2018. It's now mid 2021. They keep sayin 2, but it happened almost 3 years ago. She should've been "over" him by now considering she was never actually in love with him.
The melancholy feelings of "what might have been" is 100% supposed to be there, but IMO it was a bit too apparent? A bit too fresh for this being something that happened almost 3 years ago? For someone she only had a few months of courtship with - it was essentially an arranged marriage - so while it's understandable that she needs to know what happened, especially after finding new evidence, her almost crazed enthusiasm felt out of place.
I think it would've went over better IF they had given her some sort of internal monologue of how happy or at peace Aayi + D fam would be if they knew what happened to their son, and thus her, out of obligation + gratitude + complicated feelings for D fam & her own need to finally close the door on her past, she went to do her own investigation. It's because we don't see P fully moved on from M that it gets confusing. Her reaction was as if she lost someone she loved, but she herself admitted she never loved him. So even to me, someone who is dying to see her be torn between M & R for drama's sake LOL, the reaction felt a bit odd.
Now, I don't think she should be bashed, but I guess a bit of criticism is warranted but as some others have said its really CV's fault for not showing her widowhood & her feelings enough prior to her fully being involved with Raghav. She spoke about it, but what they actually showed never seemed as bad as she claimed. So I agree with others that there is a disconnect.
They also never show much of P thinking about M in her random thoughts either. Like, while she was getting married to R, was she thinking of M at all? Her first wedding? Again, CVs problem here. It would've been smart to show flashbacks to her first wedding. Even if they didn't hire the actor for M at that point, they could've just shown stand-in hands or something, and shown just Pallavi in a fb.
Every moment she had where she pondered about her marriage to R was more about her being forced into it and having to go through this and not being a widow anymore vs her feelings for M or her broken dreams with M.
So even her thinking out loud of what her life would be with M, I think its a bit insensitive when she was sitting next to her current husband, who she may also not love yet, but clearly wants to have a future with. Because if she had a life with M, she wouldn't have her current life with R.
Everything in her life led her to R, so that could also be what people have issues with because its as if she's missing that life she could've had with M. Again. I don't think that's reason for bashing though. She's not wrong, but she's not the most sensitive to R's feelings in this situation either. No current spouse wants a reminder of their spouse's deceased ex because it's hard not to be insecure about a deceased ex.
Does she even have to be sensitive to R's feelings about M? I don't know really. Part of me thinks she should be, bc they've both agreed to be husband + wife and make their marriage work, the other part is no because it, as others have said, does show how comfortable she is with R that she does want to open up about her life before him & they're not romantically husband + wife yet. At most I'd say they're good friends right now with feelings for each other. Also R has openly talked about M before, so that could also be why P is ok with talking about M like that.
Its ok to wonder, but it may have been more appropriate if she said that in front of Aayi or her friend, or as an internal monologue, etc.
At the same time, she has no reason to think R would feel insecure because for her, its clear M was her past, R is her present and future. But R doesn't know this and R knows more of what happened to M than P does so that adds another layer to all the convos. Its all a huge cluster-fudge LOL.
I think her need to find out what happened will make R feel more insecure about his relationship with P and where he stands with her as his guilt over what happened eats away at him. I think this track initially will lead to a clear declaration from P that she has feelings for R. The second half of this track is prob when R's involvement gets revealed, M comes back, and P is now stuck between her past & her present.
To be honest, sometimes I think it would've been better if they had just started the drama with this track running in the background ("who killed M?"). And while P was figuring it out, she would've had to marry R for some reason, etc. That way would've seen more of P's thoughts on M vs. R & her need to get closure, etc. We would've seen all this vs being told.
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