Raghav & Keerti - Page 3

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

I think Amma and Keerti have become emotionally abusive. They're making use of his guilt to extract whatever they want and say whatever that comes to their mind without bothering to actually address the issue. This is not right. End of the day, he hurts too. And they know this. Do they enjoy hurting him so they can get back at him for what happened back in the day?

Amma was not speaking to Raghav for 10 years. From 17 to 27. The man has gone through mountains of problems in this time, developed his own personality and has lived an utterly lonely and sad life. Then she has a change of heart (due to change in the actress ) and she emotionally blackmails him to marry Pallavi and then acts so shocked when she finds out that he forced Pallavi into this marriage. Woman, what did you think he'll do? Anyway, I let that slide now coz ...ITV! Today she said that if Raghav is the one who has planned the arrest of VJ then she will unleash her worst on him. Which brings to the front another issue - Is she all about punishment or is she genuinely interested in his reform? I think the former. Her punishment will be a parade of his past follies, opening the wounds one more time and she will take him on a guilt trip. I think she should not live with Raghav if she cannot show any faith in his efforts. When you say that you've given someone a chance, you just don't speak those words but you show faith. She is just speaking because at the drop of a hat, her faith dissipates.

Coming to Keerti, she's the middle child so she must be 24, Pallavi's age. Or a year older. She has always been cold to Raghav in all the past scenes with him. She does feel for him because after all, he's her brother, but Amma's constant rejection and their past has never let her fully accept him. Then with Amma, she comes to live with him, and calls him out on his misdeeds, which is commendable. However, calling out is NOT enough. They know what happened, why will they not work it out as a family? Instead they go in circles, make Raghav feel more guilty and their wounds never heal. Have they become comfortable with the pain that they don't want it to change? This is a possibility. Keerti is a woman of reason, she can speak to her brother without being venomous. Her words today were misdirected because she had an issue with Sunny. Raghav slaps her when she says that he has used money to get Pallavi in his life. If you think of this deeply, its wrong on so many levels. It insinuates that he offered Pallavi money to stay with him. He did not do this. He used his power but he did not "purchase" her and he has never acted like he owns her even when the MU was not cleared. So she was definitely wrong to bring this up, ESPECIALLY, when she is aware that both of them are trying to work it out and Raghav is trying, tooth and nail.

If a man wants to change, he needs a chance to change and reform. Everyone deserves this chance. Pallavi gave him a chance and is genuinely trying on her side to see his point of view. Amma and Keerti have not given him a chance yet. What if they find out that it was not Raghav's fault but it was a sabotage in which he was unfortunately the flag bearer? If they can't give him a chance, then they need to go back to their old ways of not living with him because their emotional abuse is not fair on someone who is trying day and night to make amends. He cannot change the past, but he's slowly finding his bearing by working on his flaws, but no thanks to his family. All thanks to Pallavi, the last person he expects trust from. This is what faith looks like.

If he goes back to his old self, it will all be thanks to their lack of support, emotional torture and judgmental nature.

You have explained it so well... the highlighted lines are the exact issues here with Amma and Keerti. They both have been unfair in giving him chances to reform. Amma in her fantasy thought that Pals and RR r made for each other ... my god.. that's the worst she could do .. she actually played with their lives.. if this works out.. she would come dancing taking all the credit but if it doesn't she has her punching bag aka RR to blame everything on. She is being heartless and selfish.

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

I think Amma and Keerti have become emotionally abusive. They're making use of his guilt to extract whatever they want and say whatever that comes to their mind without bothering to actually address the issue. This is not right. End of the day, he hurts too. And they know this. Do they enjoy hurting him so they can get back at him for what happened back in the day?

Amma was not speaking to Raghav for 10 years. From 17 to 27. The man has gone through mountains of problems in this time, developed his own personality and has lived an utterly lonely and sad life. Then she has a change of heart (due to change in the actress ) and she emotionally blackmails him to marry Pallavi and then acts so shocked when she finds out that he forced Pallavi into this marriage. Woman, what did you think he'll do? Anyway, I let that slide now coz ...ITV! Today she said that if Raghav is the one who has planned the arrest of VJ then she will unleash her worst on him. Which brings to the front another issue - Is she all about punishment or is she genuinely interested in his reform? I think the former. Her punishment will be a parade of his past follies, opening the wounds one more time and she will take him on a guilt trip. I think she should not live with Raghav if she cannot show any faith in his efforts. When you say that you've given someone a chance, you just don't speak those words but you show faith. She is just speaking because at the drop of a hat, her faith dissipates.

Coming to Keerti, she's the middle child so she must be 24, Pallavi's age. Or a year older. She has always been cold to Raghav in all the past scenes with him. She does feel for him because after all, he's her brother, but Amma's constant rejection and their past has never let her fully accept him. Then with Amma, she comes to live with him, and calls him out on his misdeeds, which is commendable. However, calling out is NOT enough. They know what happened, why will they not work it out as a family? Instead they go in circles, make Raghav feel more guilty and their wounds never heal. Have they become comfortable with the pain that they don't want it to change? This is a possibility. Keerti is a woman of reason, she can speak to her brother without being venomous. Her words today were misdirected because she had an issue with Sunny. Raghav slaps her when she says that he has used money to get Pallavi in his life. If you think of this deeply, its wrong on so many levels. It insinuates that he offered Pallavi money to stay with him. He did not do this. He used his power but he did not "purchase" her and he has never acted like he owns her even when the MU was not cleared. So she was definitely wrong to bring this up, ESPECIALLY, when she is aware that both of them are trying to work it out and Raghav is trying, tooth and nail.

If a man wants to change, he needs a chance to change and reform. Everyone deserves this chance. Pallavi gave him a chance and is genuinely trying on her side to see his point of view. Amma and Keerti have not given him a chance yet. What if they find out that it was not Raghav's fault but it was a sabotage in which he was unfortunately the flag bearer? If they can't give him a chance, then they need to go back to their old ways of not living with him because their emotional abuse is not fair on someone who is trying day and night to make amends. He cannot change the past, but he's slowly finding his bearing by working on his flaws, but no thanks to his family. All thanks to Pallavi, the last person he expects trust from. This is what faith looks like.

If he goes back to his old self, it will all be thanks to their lack of support, emotional torture and judgmental nature.

I feel we can't compare Pallavi with Amma-Kirti. Because they are different by nature. Pallavi is the one who will bring balance in the family nai toh amma-kirti-raghav bas jhagadte hi rahenge over trivial matters. Pallavi is such a soft person at heart who just melts the moment the next person is nice to her. If we see scenes before marriage also she was nice to raghav many times..... That scene after Raghavs accident where she is concerned about his wellbeing and they chat on wassapp, such many scenes.... If Raghav had kept his attitude aside she would have easily become friends with him that time also. She is by nature very kind and caring. Pallavi had so much love for D family inspite of them not being her blood relatives, so imagine how much she will love her life partner.

The Rao family has serious anger issues, all three of them. Just because Raghav is trying to change now we shouldn't forget how he was a month before and all the years before, as kirti said Maine badtameezi apne bhai se hi sikhi hai..... But I don't agree with Amma's approach. If she wanted her son to change then she should have stayed with him. Should have helped him change instead of punishing him by staying away. By now he would have been a different man. And he wouldn't have been drinking so much.

Since the wedding raghav has cut down on alcohol nai toh pehle Pani ki tarah pita tha... I just hope pallavi gets rid of Raghavs alcohol addiction first.🙄