Originally posted by: rightnow
It is a pleasure to read your character and situation analyses, Hope. I feel I am listening to some clinical psychologist.
Priya's behaviour is rather childish if I follow your analysis. Just opposing Adi for the sake of opposing.
Vidya must be longing for a child of her own. She can go for latest technology to get herself a child. Or adopt one.
Uttara is confused. Shattered. Needs to get away from Vidya for sometime.😆
A lot of shadow boxing is happening.
Thanks honey
Yes, I believe so. somebody I cannot remember who said that leaving the other day took cojones. you know what I mean na? I kind of agree and kind of disagree.
strong people do not need cojones to leave non-threathening situations. strong people use logic, a calm mind and a plan to make their next move. she did not appear bold to me when she left but shaken and a little petulant. when her situation in jhakar house was truly threathening she did not display any guts and leave instead she played tom and jerry games with BJ knowing well that Aditya would be there to protect her. when adi was gone she used devyani as a shield. she should have left then, spoken to adi and let him decide where his loyalties lie. she could have then proven how strong and independent she was.
instead when the situation was not threatening she choose to leave. Adi was never a threat. there is no logic to support that. In fact he was begging her forgiveness. she chose to drop the bombshell when he was down and out not when he was prepared to take it. that is not picking up the pieces and moving on - that is moving out to drive the stake of regret in as deep as it can get. If she is seeking indedependence then she has made no progress. If she is seeking to teach Adi a lesson in her value as a wife to him, then she has him exactly where she wants him.
In my opinion, if she was truly resolute, determined to set a new plan and establish her own ground:
a) she would go outside the city not stick around in place full of bad memories and enemies
b) stop mopping about him in private and play daggers and knives in public
c) contact her father to let him know about her whereabouts and tell him she does not need his help or ask for his help
d) apply for divorce or a legal seperation - they have been married for close to a year she won't even need to do the trial period I think
e) get a job or go to school or formulate a plan where she is truly unobligated to anyone or connected to her past
f) fight her case through her lawyer instead of playing Nancy Drew
Instead she has
a) left while she is in post operative care with no plan, no money, no forwarding information nothing just a lot of romeo and juliet skits
b) stays in the city so that she can be there fore her family (???) as long as she does not need to communicate with one individual
c) refuses help from people who she does not even have a grudge with instead choses to sleep in deserted offices with strange guards walking in and out, a temple where lone men were shown hanging out in the background
d) keeps him hanging - na ghar ka na ghat ka
e) keeps getting involved directly and authoritatively with family - why? what is the connection? they are your inlaws. if you have broken up with your husband then keep your distance from them too. they are not bereft. they have each other and an able bodied person is there if they need help. your relationship has not ended because you are a widow its because you are seperated. whole other ball game. stop creating uncomfortable situations where family has to play tug of war between her and Adi's feelings during crisis.
f) she refuses to let her dad know what decision she has taken
g) of all the job ads in the news paper she applies for the job with her college mentor and mother's friend and goes to give an interview for a job she is underqualified for but was offered just the previous night on a platter by the boss himself
does this sound like some one who is strong, independent and out to prove something to herself? or does this sound like someone who is petulant, out teach someone a lesson, risky and more dependent than independent?
Sounds like the latter to me.
I am not saying this becasue I do not like the character I just dont like when people indicate that to be strong a woman must be single, obstinate to the point of being dangerous to her own health and future and relying on good luck and concerned family members as opposed to a road map
sends a poor message
Edited by --Hope-- - 13 years ago