Originally posted by: darlunia
Devi...welcome. I'm Jaya! 😊
Loved reading your perspective. Good point about Uttara feeling empowered. I feel like she has always felt that way unlike Devyani for example. Like most victims of abuse, I think she "needs" to feel loved by Rishabh. The other side of abuse is the abusers ability to make the victim feel loved...during the calm period of course. Somehow compared to the previous time when Uttara sat with the knife, today's execution did not feel like the breaking point for me. Your point is very well taken though!
Hope to see you back as a regular sharing your views. Enjoyed reading what you wrote today immensely.
Thank you Jaya :)
I agree that Uttara has always been more empowered in some regards (not all though) than Devyani. But then again, Devyani's husband is a completely different animal (pun intended ;) than Uttara's.
In one point about the abuse victim mentality, I actually think a bit differently. It's very clear that Uttara loves Rishab and to a certain extent was forgiving his abusiveness as it appeared to be arising from his extreme sense of inadequacy (also, the physical abuse appears to be a problem that emerged later in their life than earlier - but do correct me if I am wrong about the facts here. I missed most of the earlier episodes).
And I think, from Uttara's perspective, there was always "hope" that this would be the last time, that things had really changed, that he will be good from now on... every time that he did go through his calm periods. I don't know that it's necessarily her 'need to be loved' as much as her need to believe that her love was strong enough to survive this and make him better. And every time he becomes good, it somehow reinforces that belief.
What is different about this time for her is not so much the fact that they were beating the living daylights out of each other (although as I noted before, that is pretty big too), but the fact that he did it after he sold her body to another man. She was trying to hold it together and move on with her life even after that, but really only at the request of her sister (who really proves yet again that 'The Nile' is not just a river in Egypt!). I can't imagine how a woman cannot reach her breaking point after her husband sells her and then tries to kill her after that.... but maybe that's just my significantly less tolerant side... :)
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