Originally posted by: Alpha20
My post might be a little late in the discussion, but I feel a need to put facts straight. Having lived and worked in the US for almost two decades, I must say that married individuals who are true to their spouses behave just like the ones in India. Even if we work late or travel they maintain respectable distance: there is absolutely no physical contact, not even a "Tali" in agreement. I can't even imagine a situation where I would be dropped off on a bike by my male colleague. Even If it is late, No one comes to drop me to my car in the parking structure.
So to say that Western culture accepts such proximity between two married individuals, is just wrong . With Two unmarried people, there are no boundaries.
Perfectly said @alpha20, thanks for that much needed clarification👍🏼 . I agree. - None of that happens in the US and my experience is also from INdia 😊. Perhaps I should have set the perspective of the Western world also, which I had mentioned on the HSM forum couple of times. And why even married, even the committed folks behave the same. I have worked in both academic and Corporate world in the US for 14 years now and barring 1-2 instances where managers have shown the generosity to have a cab arranged to ensure we reach home safely, no one has offered lifts. In fact, on the rare occasions that I get late, my husband comes to pick me up. But yes, in NYC, colleagues who commute by subways / train, if they leave at the same time and happen to take the same trains / buses they do walk together and that does not happen planned. I would not take that as odd. People who commute from NJ to NYC have car pools and I have known folks who have worked these out successfully for years. I don't think their wives have doubted them / society has gotten into gossips. (PS: Car pool =3 or 3+ 😃).
And about the society whose eyes and brains are open AND who have the time in this world to comment on others...I just wish this society had folks who wear the same glasses for others kids and their own kids. Have seen quite a few like that and I just stopped caring after that. Haven't serials like UMZ and movies like OMG shown the same? The people who claim to set the rules when it comes to them, are the biggest hypocrits. DO these people come forward to help the girls who become victims? NOpe, but these same people are at the forefront when it comes to keeping names to the affected girl. If they really acted the way they preached, there wouldn't have been pregnant widows in a society that made them wear the red alvan (UMZ had such an incidence). So, I personally care for those whose opinion matters the most to me 😊.
And of the 10+ years that I commuted by bus in Pune (changing 2-3 buses each direction), if I took help from my colleagues less than 1% of the times, I don't think I took advantage of being a woman / fell weak as a woman 😊.
Coming to the serial world...I agree with Mishkil, why does a secretary need to stay with her boss when she does not contribute anything to the meetings / his work. This is clearly CVs fault. Just for the sake of stretching a story they should not show meaningless plots stretched forever.
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