Open Letter to IF-My final thoughts on LTL| VB Nte Pg 6 - Page 4

Originally posted by: nightoffullmoon

Apart from the "rants" of an ex-viewer 😉, I think the purpose of this Open Letter--Freedom of Expression--is served😊.

I am loving this outpour.

Funny though, how we all agree that we should not get personal or dig in to or comment on the personal lives of the actors, but if you look at what is posted, and the discussion threads, a great majority of them talk about Mahi and Mishal as persons, not as characters, or interchangeably.

Most of us read, respond to tidbits on personal lives. But when we hear what we do not want to hear, we say it is off limits.

We read and post silly, cliche-ridden, gossipy stuff from different sources, but censure personal opinion.

What we lack as a society is the ability to debate and accept different points of view, even those that are politically incorrect.

To quote Voltaire: "I may detest what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it."

If we could defend Nakku for questioning (more like berating) Bappa, we can certainly tolerate the views expressed by an ex-viewer 😉, without getting offended or being offensive, or defensive in our counter arguments.

Voltaire Zindabad!

Originally posted by: shilpita87

well done arpita(hope i got the name right)

thts the way to go...loved your post....let me try to exorcise my anger this way too....i'll write my ff..and vent my frustration..😆

I completely understand that you are frustrated, and in some cases right to be. I don't feel that post of yours should have been locked either, because it was purely light-hearted fun, no way aimed at causing offence to MR's personal life. But I don't know; there are certain rules on I-F that I cannot get my head around, yet we just have to comply with them and move on. Moreover, it's very difficult to censor, especially on forums like these, everything can't be perfect on public forums- controlling this kind of stuff is the most difficult bit.

But I think it's wrong to take out your frustration in this way. Your post is aimed at I-F in general, so I didn't see the need to drag in MR and MV into it and the personal decisions that they have taken to find success in life. I think you would have certainly received a positive response to this post if you had kept it confined to that censorship issue that you were trying to convey. But it drifted into a dig on MR and MV- and you know how sensitive most people on this forum are regarding them.

Seriously, you started the post with moderators can close the topic if it's too true? Not knowing these people, how can we state our views as the truth? They are views, no?- it's wrong to make assumptions when we don't know them personally. Now please don't think I'm defending MR and MV- I don't know them myself, that is why I refrain from saying anything that I don't know the details about- I find pleasure in their off-screen masti, the show and their work, simple!

Yes, I believe in freedom of speech, and you are completely entitled to say what you think, but forums like this cannot simply exist just to talk about shows and characters- Surely it's not that stupid that it would think that discussions should only be about shows nothing else! Eventually the people behind the characters, the actors are what catch our interest too. And the Development Team knows this!! We can't have Dutta without MR, we can't have Naku without MV, and thus we do enjoy talking about them, as long as we know the difference between being critical and bashing. However like I said in my previous post, there is a really big difference in talking about what these stars like to do in their free time, than making remarks about them leaving their studies or hiding their relationships!

Originally posted by: gp00

Okay, I tried to make my last response Sia's. But, have your read your own statement here? The point of my post was to talk about the limits on what we can and can't say on IF, and you are talking about my holding things against Mishal because he was born into a rich family and, as a result, I'm being mean to you? This is utterly insane.

I am incredulous! Of all the things you and crystal29 take issue with is the statement I made about Mishal? That is NOT the point of this post. If you don't like discussions around personal lives, then why are you talking about Mishal's $ and your own family??? Please do not personalize it! My comment about many (I think you overlooked that) well-off sons is absolutely true. But there are exceptions.

And trust me, I don't hold it against you, or Mishal, or anybody else for that matter. You are born as you are born. And if I did hold it against you, then I'd be holding it against my own.

Dear Parul,

Hey gp,Just take a nice break & come back, don't torture yourself.😊

Originally posted by: tintiny

Dear Parul,

Don't get upset dear, it is not worth it...yours truly have been warned to be banned a couple of times before😛 I was so upset with the creatives and non actors which filled the show I had called one 'khamba' and got warned for that saying next warning will be banning, so I have learnt my lesson, I don't call them khambas anymore, but stick to sticks and poles😉 anyway past is past and what is past if you do not learn a few lessons.😛

Lets be candid about something, this forum is filled with a wide range of members..most of them are teenagers invariably in love with the hero...nothing is wrong in that as I also love my hero and watch the show for him...the difference is I am not ready to ogle at him with crappy storyline....I want to see a good story alongwith a good performance.

Parul you maybe knowing that the book 'Kamasutra' originated from India...now if you make a movie or show on it, be rest assured some self styled moral police will come ensure the screen is torn, actors stoned etc etc....so in the forum we are supposed to be politically correct and not say the obvious things which are going about....if in the show they show the hero is having 10 affairs we are not supposed to call him names....if you point out Lord Krishna also was no less, well he is the lord, comes the argument...

I have learnt to take all these in my stride...I like to write hence I write...I like to read the comments and counter arguments but if somebody thinks I am being unjustified or too harsh...well hard luck...but I ensure I don't get personal...which I feel should be maintained...

Regarding actors / filmmakers/ creatives needing forum....of course they need forum...from here they can get feedback about themselves, honest feedback and we too should speak responsibly...call spade a spade....if MR is using the media effectively...well he is smart guy is all I can say but then I take his words with a pinch of salt...after all he is here to sell himself...build a career..he knows how to be politically right is all I can say....why point at MR...the great AB himself is using the media/ networking sites to put across his thoughts and words....he did not need it when he was the reigning in bollywood but I feel now he is using it more to boost his son's career....but then yes we all know media has its uses and the smart ones utilize them but that too upto certain extend...as ultimately it is not the news you make but your performance alongwith creativity and your luck prevails to get your self accepted to the 'aam admi'...as Janta is Janardhan....

So Parul....don't leave it is not worth it...enjoy yourself here and indulge in constructive criticism and take a few things in your stride .....rest bindaas ....love Tin