i don't have a problem with nandini. i just don't think she's the grand, noble person that a lot of the nandini fan(atic)s want everyone to agree that she is. she has a troubled past. i think that she wallows/has wallowed in it, and so is less the person that she ought to be. i think that a wonderful set of comparisons are ganga and damini, actually.
ganga is bitter about her past too. yes, she wasn't assaulted, but she had to give up her children - that too to a vamp who used her husband to do it! for a person with such a strong maternal instinct, there is much to be bitter about. but she has not stayed still. she is the most admirable woman on the show today, imho. she has not wallowed.
damini is the completely different comparison point, especially in how she dealt with the hysterical, violent kt. i thought that nandini was inconsiderate on the day she discovered kt's assault. when damini is shoved away violently by kt, she just hugs her and hugs her and hugs her. at the basic level, it's just a very human reaction - here's a girl who is hurt: first brutalised physically, today emotionally battered. the woman/mother hugs to comfort. that was just not what nandini displayed as the first instinct. sure, damini has been more around kt. but i've seen counselling first hand - it's the human touch that is the most effective.
but my take on nandini is not black or white. i think that despite her past, she is a good person, definitely not a tripti! i say what i think of nandini in my "sweet things on 15 mar":
http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=570276
"that's the way the world is. they are still people who are good despite all their past hurt, which is admirable. there are people like ansh who take past hurt and become despicable. karan became a rotten parent, nandini is horribly pessimistic about life - but that is better than getting vile like ansh. i just wish people would stop treating them like they are noble. they aren't. they're just people. and sometimes, are sweet people too! 😆"
makes sense? 😆
well frankly was kt acting this hysterical that day?? i dont really think so...she was weeping but wasnt hysterical!!!
i really didnt see how nandini could have hugged her that day+we alwasy have to assume lots of things on this show....so i guess we just have to assume that nandini did console kt in the manner u want