Abhi, in all glory of a husband

First off, I have to disclose that my heart is breaking and bleeding for Abhi😭😭 and he needs a big, tight, group hug 🤗.

I couldn't bring myself to watch yesterday's episode of Pragya being shot🤢, just as to this day, I am unable to watch episodes leading up to Abhi's accident that lead to his ML. I can take care of, deal with, rationalize physical pain and distress, but I am not ashamed to say that I am a weakling when it comes to handling emotional pain.

Here is what I saw in Abhi today. I saw an extremely caring, loving, longing, hurting, grieving husband in him. I saw an enlightened man, who is no longer confused , nor somebody who can be manipulated emotionally. He said he was aware of his Fuggy's each and every struggle and tears. With his dear wife being snatched right in front of his eyes, he has come to age suddenly and is able to see through right and wrong, real and fake, good and bad, love and trachery, beauty and ugliness with a very clear mind. The way he wiped away a tear while looking at Sarla maa just squeezes and breaks your heart to bits😭🤢.

The question he asked Alia how she could take away his very happiness from him is of a husband in disbelief having lost his wife. The determination with which he threw out the ugliness out of his house, life and thoughts is that of a heartbroken husband. The anger with which he admitted the biggest mistake in his life which in turn became a punishment to his wife is that of a despondent husband.

The promise he made to Sarla maa to bring back his Fuggy as he feels that she can' t leave him alone in this world is that of a husband in denial, a very normal phenomenon in the grieving process especially in cases of unexpected death. The way the husband, non ML Abhi addresses her Fuggy is very different than that of the ML Abhi. There is deep affection, love, belonging and a possessiveness in how the original Abhi addresses her as Fuggy.

I have to commend the valor with which he is moving forward in the face of his greatest personal tragedy, his determination ( or denial ) in not wanting to give up and to search for her.

The sad fact at the moment remains that he lost his wife whom he loves dearly, who had always given him unwavering love, support, protection within her means, his only source of unadulterated love, who attended to all his needs and comforts, whose only goal was his well being, was a shield to him from the outside world, strived and at times sacrificed beyond imagination to let him have the life she thought he wanted. .

Abhi's heart and many of our hearts are now in a Vitamix going at a speed of 12 being broken to a pulp🤢😭. I hope the writers give us hope soon about the whereabouts of Pragya.

I can't contemplate at the moment about the new character being introduced😭.

Finally, Kumkum bhagya what has become thy bhagya? The KKB hall based on which the name of the show was coined is gone and sold off, the two primary kumkum bearers of the Punjabi matriarch are supposedly dead, both the damaads of the Punjabi matriarch are now supposedly grieving widowers, and there is reemergence of Kumkum bhagya for the very Punjabi matriarch🤢. Is this what the show is about?????😡🤢

That is it guys, please do not hesitate to join in case you feel the loss to be as profound as I am finding😔 Excuse my incoherence for today, I just needed to get this off my chest.

Life is unpredictable folks, people can disappear in a jiffy, make sure you hold on tight to your loved ones, given them a great big hug, a very wet smooch on their cheek or wherever else😊 and tell them that "YOU LOVE THEM"❤️

Thanks again for the wonderful review.

@ Mina, isn't that so Unfortunately, it took loss of Pragya to bring out the best in him. Yes, we need to hang in there, if not for this forum, I would have been a goner😭 long time ago. Expressing here is like engaging in group therapy🤔. How is dad, Mina ?

@ Sugummar ( is this how you would like to be addressed ??? ), yes Shabir just lived in the whole episode yesterday❤️. Shabir, Sriti as Abhi, Pragya are a precious gift for us from the higher powers of the production house, I can't even imagine anybody else in that role. They are next or almost at par with SRK, Kajol in my mind👏People who know me can vouch to say that there cannot be a higher honor in my mind than being compared to SRK, Kajol⭐️😃I have teeny-weeny gripes about yesterday's episode, but I don't have the heart to even think about them too much now.

But what you said about Pragya's grief prompted me to say what I think about Abhi's grief. First, coming to Pragya, we know rejection, struggles of daily life, faring deception are a way of life for Pragya even before her marriage. With marriage, her fate didn't change, she got rejected multiple times by Abhi as a new bride, as somebody she adored and loved with all her heart, later thrown away from him violently by cooked up circumstances and most recently by fate with his ML. She just swallowed them all and did the best she could. So I think, we have taken her sufferings for granted, when she would suffer another loss, rejection, set back, we were able to rationalize and say " well that is the way of her life or what else did you expect" and so her grief is taken as just another complication she has brought on to herself. She never really had a secure life, somebody who she could count on, a guarantor of her happiness, she always had to live under the cloud of uncertainty that her husband may leave her for the other woman whether they were in the marriage without love or with love. So we have witnessed her struggles first hand from day # 1, that we are desensitized to some extent. Otherwise, imagine how a person would feel if she or he had to go through what she went through, probably n x worse than how Abhi felt yesterday🤢.

Now to Abhi, rejection is not something he is used to, he is a very charismatic, highly successful, thoroughly sought after celebrity. He never even realized that being sought after is not equal to having true love. So minor rejections hurt his ego initially and we know how he reacted to those. He stepped into a revenge marriage at the spur of a moment, dealt with what he perceived as a rejection from Pragya/ Fuggy/ Mogambo with a vengeance, brashness and a show of bravado by hurting her with words and actions. The first real taste of deception from his stand point is from Alia and Raj, both of which Pragya sort of helped him deal with in a congenial way as they were his family. But with the baby truth, he understood what true savage deception, trachery and subterfuge is. It is then he realized how his actions and decisions caused profound anguish to the true love of his life, Pragya.

With her now cruelly snatched from his life, he is hit with the most profound personal tragedy of his life, losing his only source of true love, who only wished for his well being and who was willing to live a life with no expectations in return. He now lost his security blanket, his source of comfort, that person who he could always lean on, who he knew would be there for him no matter what, who gave him his everything. THIS IS THE WORST POSSIBLE LOSS IN HIS LIFE probably barring the loss of his parents. . In that instant he realized very quickly how his association with certain ugly people is the root cause of all the sufferings for his precious wife🤢, he started to put himself in her shoes and what he saw from that vantage point is dreadful. Now he has to deal with the world alone, no Fuggy to hold his hand😭 and man how he dealt with that yesterday👏❤️👍🏼, I can't say enough of. We have never seen him so broken and we are seeing his true anguish of a personal loss for the first time and we can't bear to see it in him, as we are normally used to him being the flippant guy he is His transformation from a teenager like RS to a mature adult is nothing short of phenomenal👏 and the variation Shabir showed from day # 1 to now is out of this world. He handled himself with utmost grace as a grieving husband who is not willing to give up on his wife🤗. I am so proud of Abhi, with how long he has come from where he started. He is now mentally at par with Pragya.

I want my Abhi to have my Pragya back❤️👍🏼⭐️ forever, because they deserve to be together, they are meant to be with each other and they are made for each other.

Girls and boys, I don't know if I made any sense, but this is what is on my mind when I started thinking why I am so affected by the visual of Abhi wiping a tear yesterday. Excuse my long post. I think I said everything I had to say and will move on😃

So much more to say, but in short, just wanted to come by and say LOVED THISSS REVIEWW!!!

1. Yes Pragya's sufferings has been different from Abhi. She has arisen in hardships and lived with uncertainties and problems and had borne everything in a very sensible manner, patiently and efficiently for the sake of her family and later on for Dadi and Abhi. No bride would have gone through what she went through after revenge marriage and we all know how hurtful Abhi had been and the worst straw of it all, seeing him always with Tanu which any married woman will not be able to tolerate even for a moment and how painful it would have been. Abhi had been honest about it but still Pragya got married without misconceptions and hence would have been hurt so much.

Also, she had been living in a family where most of them were her enemies, Aalya, Tanu, Mitali, her mother in law. But still when she started loving Abhi, it was him who mattered to her more than anything else and Dadi. Pragya has become strong from her sufferings. She is one in a million, normally one cannot be so patient and bear everything like her and the love she has for Abhi is really the eternal type of love, rare.

2. But Abhi, though a good person at heart had always been easily susceptible to misunderstandings where he always comes to conclusions rather rashly. So, since Taalya were always creating situations for him to misunderstand he very easily misunderstood Pragya. Even when he started loving Fuggi, he was prone to misunderstand her. So, he had to live everything about the truth around him in the hardest way possible, the deceit about his child and what followed. The writers have been consistent in two things from the beginning, Pragya and Abhi's nature. Pragya might have hidden truths from Abhi but she did it all for her unwavering love for him. For Abhi, each day was a learning process and he usually from the beginning realizes Pragya's worth only when she is not there, after Purab running away from the mandap, kidnapping and Tanu's pregnancy. But here, he has come to the final stage, come to a complete realization of his love for Pragya and about her entire goodness and that she is all that matters to him in future.

As you had said, I hope Munni is Pragya because the writers cannot be so cruel to replace Abhigaya's love with a look alike. Already, we have been longing to see them as a happily married couple for 3 years and now if they bring in another person to replace Pragya, it will really be so disheartening. And the sufferings of Pragya will all be for nothing. She deserves to be with her husband till the end.

Seriously Mil. Your post made me cry. I can feel Abhi pain TO THE CORE!!! Your post even my heart heavy and even at the end even I started to cry. See this the effect of ABHIGYA on us. We can see them go different paths sometimes but to see them yearning for each other is worse than seeing Abhi getting backstabbed.