Good morning girls/guys !!! Hope all of are able to keep your cool !
I have been smoldering with anger for the past few days, it is threatening to spill over into other areas of my life. So here I am, guys!!!
At the outset let me just say that I do not have the heart to blame either Pragya or Abhi today. As I mentioned before, I don't feel either one is to be directly blamed for the situation they are in today. My anger is towards the writers, Abhi's loved ones only, for today.
So guys ML. How convenient is this ML for a household to get rid of an unwanted bahu/daamad? Is it possible also for a person to divest oneself of their responsibilities on account of ML? Is the whole world going to bend over backwards to accommodate a celebrity's ML? Is it easy for a person intending harm to come close because of ML right under the watchful eyes of "loved ones" ? Can a person claim fugue state and be really carefree?
Let's examine this from a different perspective, MINE.
Let's just say, I was in a major accident which occurred by happenstance and had a major head injury and suffered memory loss amongst other things. And let's just say, I recovered from all physical problems from the accident but left with ML only. Now I forget my hubby and child. Will the doctors still tell my family, not to remind me about these two important people in my life, lest my neurons might " explode" ? And even if they did, would my hubby and child disappear into oblivion in order to enable my recovery not knowing if and when that happens? And my supposed ex- flame ( For the record, I don't have one ) wants to be touchy-feely with me, will my loved ones be mute spectators? More importantly, can I get rid of my responsibility towards my hubby and child ( no need for me to pick up/drop off at school, arrange play dates, pack lunches, lug her to after-school activities, pressure myself to leave work on time, enforce bedtimes etc ) and move to my parents house because that is what I remember because of my ML? Can I also divest myself of some unpleasant work responsibilities I may have taken up since my marriage, which I no longer "remember" ? Will my work-place be kind enough and bend over backwards for me? If all these can happen, ML is a very lucrative option, guys.
But the truth of the matter is neither my family, hubby, child or work place is going to be kind to me if I am not doing the right thing, memory loss or not. And I thank them from the bottom of my heart for that. Hubby and my parents might say, shape up, ML or not, you are still a wife and mother of a child, so fulfill your responsibilities ( pick up/ drop off,... ) and the memory will come back whenever it intends to. My dad and brother will be after the ex-flame guy with a baton if he ever plans to come near me when I am in that state of confusion, they won't shed happy or sad tears looking at me being messed with. My parents won't support me moving out of my house ( hubby,s , mine ) as my life still has to move forward, not backwards ML or not and the more I am in my normal environment, the better it is for my 'recovering neurons'. My work-place will fire me if I don't fulfill my important responsibilities on claims of ML ( this is assuming that all my other faculties are working like Abhi's with the exception of memory ). My whole family will take me to see a psychiatrist and a neurologist to ensure that I am not " faking it " and also to see if there is anything that can be corrected for the process of regaining memory faster. The neurologist and psychiatrist will ask them to , keep me safe, give me as normal a life as possible, be truthful and not to confuse me by confabulating. I will be ever grateful for my family, work place and doctors for doing this to me, with only my best interest at heart. Now contrast this with Abhi's family.
Now leave me alone, what if Abhi, Pragya had a child and he forgot both of them. Would the doctor's advice still be the same? Would the loved ones ( daadi, Purab and the clan ) have still done the same? Would the child be then told, your daddy can't be your daddy for the time being as his "neurons might explode" if he sees you. So let him be with his chudail GF whom he entertained before he fell in love with your mom, before you were born? HA😡. What will the family's ( daadi, Purab's )response be if he came back to his senses and questioned them about why they let his love be sent out of his house forcefully and let him do all the wrong things when he is in a confused state? Is it not their responsibility to be there for him when he was incapable of making certain decisions?
So writers, you are not considering the enormity of the conclusions that can be drawn from what you have been showing us in the last few days. From the general public's stand point, let me put this in simplistic words for you:.
1. ML is a convenient way to get rid of a unwanted spouse from a house
2. ML can get you out of your responsibilities
3. Living with your extended family is detrimental to your marital life.
I am disturbed about the gross injustice. One person in a relationship just gets freed from all responsibilities towards a spouse, can forget all his mental demons for a while, have a carefree life while the other person gets burdened with double or triple the sufferings, struggle for her existence in the spouse's life. How unbalanced is this relationship? And family will have no responsibility to bring them together, in fact they try to keep them apart to keep the " neurons from exploding" I know this is a soap and shouldn't take it seriously, but still...
Thank you guys, in advance for putting up with my rant. I may have exaggerated in some of my comments above. I really don't know if the doctors said that his nerves will be damaged if he is reminded of his marriage, but I am assuming they did. And I am also being sarcastic. So sorry for any discrepancies. If I came across as too strong and forceful and not to your liking, I apologize in advance too.
Edited by mili9 - 9 years ago
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