How can Abhi love two people at the same time?

Abhi has been shown to be in love with Tanu since the beginning of this show. Recently though, he seems to have developed feelings for Pragya as well. I find that a little strange. I believe that love can happen more than once, but only if you have a strong reason to overcome your first love and are completely over that person.

Great question. Maybe some can. Like men with multiple wives and families, they love two women or more for different reasons. It certainly conflicts with the traditional take on love and fidelity and single minded devotion. But Ekta perhaps wishes to show the other side of things?

In Abhi's case, he is certainly fond of Tannu, he is physically affectionate, he hugs and caresses her even after Taaliya admit to throwing Pragya out of the house. So what is it that he feels for Pragya? Guilt at some subconscious level? He must know his sister's sinister nature and must have enough sense as a grown man to realize subconsciously that Pragya is really not what he purports her to be. So is this guilt and his traditional upbringing (Daadi's) forcing him to have some feelings for Pragya?

Guilt, I will accept, attraction at this point while still being physically proximate to Tannu is disgusting to me. That bespeaks of a man who cannot be faithful to one woman at a time. Note I said at a time, as love can happen at different times with different people in life but loving two women at the same time is not a good character trait, in my opinion.

when a women in ekta serial can get engaged 10 times and get married atleast 5 times, men loving 2 women at one time is a very small issue,

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Great question. Maybe some can. Like men with multiple wives and families, they love two women or more for different reasons. It certainly conflicts with the traditional take on love and fidelity and single minded devotion. But Ekta perhaps wishes to show the other side of things?

In Abhi's case, he is certainly fond of Tannu, he is physically affectionate, he hugs and caresses her even after Taaliya admit to throwing Pragya out of the house. So what is it that he feels for Pragya? Guilt at some subconscious level? He must know his sister's sinister nature and must have enough sense as a grown man to realize subconsciously that Pragya is really not what he purports her to be. So is this guilt and his traditional upbringing (Daadi's) forcing him to have some feelings for Pragya?

Guilt, I will accept, attraction at this point while still being physically proximate to Tannu is disgusting to me. That bespeaks of a man who cannot be faithful to one woman at a time. Note I said at a time, as love can happen at different times with different people in life but loving two women at the same time is not a good character trait, in my opinion.

The way they are showing his feelings for both women is very obligatory and territorial.

Nafisa, beautifully laid out. That brings us to the question then if what Abhi feels for Tannu is not love and never was, has it always been and is purely physical attraction?

If Abhi has started feeling for Pragya, these unnamed emotions of caring, regret, etc, should he not involuntarily be withdrawing from a physical relationship with Tannu instead of seeking/welcoming physical proximity with her?

Still not a very nice person to be toying with the feelings of two women simultaneously.

Originally posted by: musica10

Good points. Like you said, Abhi is probably feeling guilty about ruining Pragya's life. For no matter how much he blames her, his conscience must surely tell him that he has treated her unfairly.

And although Tanu has been portrayed as a vamp, I think her love for Abhi is sincere (I don't think wanting to delay the marriage for a year for career reasons is wrong).

I think Abhi is being disloyal to both women and I can't imagine how he'll wash his hands off Tanu.

I agree with you, Abhi is not being fair to either woman. And I too believe, Tannu is genuinely fond of both Abhi and Aliya.

And while I hate Tannu for being the catalyst for Sarla's heart attack, I do not appreciate the epithets of "the other woman" being hurled at her by Pragya. Tannu was Abhi's girlfriend and still is to all purposes and while that gives her no legal right over Pragya's husband, I think it is still wrong and regressive to label a woman "the other woman" especially in this instance.

The blame is with the man who is in two relationships, the women are not the ones to be blamed, they are both letting themselves be victimized in a way. So instead of hurling insults at each other, they should turn to Abhi and ask him to choose between them and resolve the matter once and for all. He has not chosen for he has not let Pragya free emotionally, socially or legally.

Tanu was never his real love. It was just his Lust. Like we keep hearing about celebrities and their relationship,and they never last forever. This is one of them. Here Abhi is a celebrity,so is Tanu (a model). I guess its not his true love with Tanu,with time pass or lust. 😆

tanu is discovered territory for abhi.pragya is new undiscovered taste for abhi.i find it disgusting wen some1 ditch his or her luv wen find other person more suitable.tanu is faulty as well abhi is.if abhi luved her &bt dwelling over pragya its simpling cheating for both ladies.abhi shld leave tanu coz he cant stand her faults bt if he leave her coz he find pragya better than her then it is simplying opportunistic approach.coz u may find many ppl better than ur partner bt it doesnt mean to end relationship

Food for thought... since you didnt limit the question to Abhi only, Im just going to throw out some views.

I think that yes, a man can love and be conflicted in love at the same time by 2 women. But, its a question of what love and power is the strongest and that's the road a man can and should take.

I feel, once his inner conflict is over and sorted and he realises and understands the depth of his love for ONE person, then yes - he can and will be loyal to a single person.

Sometimes, you think you are in love, but you truly dont understand the emotion until someone else comes along show you what true and real love is. Love is such a tricky thing, and we can't force it upon someone and we can also MISread the signals.

Abhi in his mind loves Tannu - He has known her a long time, he feels she is there for him, he feels they are compatible, he feels they come from the same background, he feels they are meant to be cause they are attracted to each other as well.

Abhi is beginning to love Pragya - she is SOOO far out of his comfort zone! Seriously, I think that scares the rockstar out of him and he doesn't want to analyse what it is he feels and if it can indeed be love. But, Pragya is there for him, supports him, unconditionally protects him, she is loved by the most important person in his life, his daadi and thats a big deal for him. Aliya is right, if you want to get close to Abhi - make his daadi love you and you will get all the riches in the world. Abhi values his daadi's choices. He doesn't think he can love someone like Pragya, but he has all the mixed feelings of love for her.

He wants to protect them both, he feels possessive of them both, he is attracted to them both - but the question is - who is the one he can truly be himself with. I think it can be love on both ends... but the one thats true love and lasting love is the one that will make him a loyal man.

Paulo Coelho said "Waiting hurts. Forgetting hurts. But not knowing which decision to take can sometimes be the most painful".

I think that puts some things into perspective, the world unfortunately isn't black and white... we all don't wake up one morning and say I will marry A and love A and spend the rest of my life with A just like that. Things happen... ppl change, experiences alter our thinking, situation changes hearts. So, Abhi and all others out there DO have the ability to be LOYAL. Such a person can be loyal,... BUT they can only be so, when and once they CHOSE to be!