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If Nidhi justified in expecting Ashutosh to stay away from Mallu?

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Posted: 13 years ago
#31

Originally posted by: aarti1303

Nidhi being a doctor should understand Ashu when he said tht he has taken oath to serve even an enemy. Nidhi also must have taken this oath?


No denying treatment aarti...we provide that even to animals...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I voted for YES. I am thinking in the same line as every member who has voted for yes and provided their justification. Sujatha Raoji's analysis of problem from Ashu's angle also seems pretty much convincing to me, but, still, I will hold onto my feeling that this time Ashu has made a grave mistake byt not taking Nidhi in confidence before rushing to Mallu. Possible ways hv been already given no. of times on how Ashu could hv stayed clear from Mallu, so, not going into those details.

Ashu doesnt understand the very basic need of a female from a male -- security. When man & woman enter in a marriage, the woman always asks for security: Emotional, financial and physical -- the one and only essential + important requirement of a wife is to feel secure with her hubby. Ashu has always failed in assuring let alone convincing Nidhi against her insecurities. Nidhi opting out for career is the prominent manifestation of her lack of sureness over financial security from Ashu. Emotional security from Ashu to any person he comes across -- is something I can't see even in horizons -- Nidhi ki baat to chhod hi do.

Nidhi clearly expressed what she wanted from her man: "Apna haq jatate, muje hath pakad ker le aate, to main aa jatiUnka ghar chalne ko kehna to aisa tha jaise bheekh di jati ho, aur mujhe bhikh nahi chahiye." She wants to be felt "wanted" in Ashu's life, not taken for granted. She doesnt want to leave him, but, wants to live with him -- all assured, all secured. So, far Mallu has been the biggest threat to her security -- as a wife, as a woman, as a living person, as a human being-- all kinds of security -- She cannot see a place where mallu hasnt threatened her. So, what could Nidhi hv done when she found out Mallu is preggy. Again another threat from Mallu as this child is kindling Ashu's paternal instincts and Nidhi cannot make to mommyhood at the moment. What she said to Ashu, wasn't wrong altogether; I would not take it as "insinuation or galat ilzaam." Ashu either cannot see or doesnt want to see what she is pointing out to and rewards her with adjectives like "Childish", "Immature" & "Unprofessional." One and only thing that is amiss: Ashu needs to make Nidhi feel assured and secured -- and he & only he can do this; no one else.
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Posted: 13 years ago
#33
Yes, she wants her husbands attention, love, and apology for not telling her before hand that he was helping Mallu. It hurts her...Both said things in anger, and need to apologize to each other and then talk calmly and try to understand each other...
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Posted: 13 years ago
#34

Originally posted by: koyelbasu
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🤣You mean Gandhiji. Aaj taq Ashu ne kaun sa pahar tora hae for social cause? He helped orphan woh toh kabhi na kabhi ham sab karte hae, he has reason too. He is very dedicated to his profession but is it very rare scenario? AC chember me baithke, costly suit pahenke , at the end of the month big amount ghar me le jane bad koi social help ki bat kare ,what a joke. His social cause starts from mallu and ends at mallu.Villeges me jake, free me logo ka treatment karte nehi dekha. Don't show history. They are too great people . Just respect them. Ashu is one of us and expected to behave like general people. He cannot give home to Mallika but can take from her. When Nidhi made a home for him, then ghar ujarte hae toh ujarne do.



Koyelji, loved ur tirade over Ashu... 🤣 👏 🤣 👏 🤣 👏 🤣 👏 🤣 👏 🤣 👏 🤣 👏 🤣 👏 🤣 👏 🤣 👏
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Posted: 13 years ago
#35

We too don't know what's happening in the show.😛 btw . a good comment. only you can think of this
Edited by radhika72 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
#36
I finally got a chance to catch up with all the episodes of the show after a very long break. and I actually like that Nidhi finally left home - I believe she is completely justified in acting the way she did. Because this is the second time that her husband didn't care if she stayed at home or left. The first time, Nidhi came back because she thought that leaving would actually mean that she was willing to give up without a fight and that she valued her marriage. But not again! I understand that there is no room for ego in a marriage, but there is for self-respect. And no self-respecting woman would stand aside and watch when she knows her husband is doing something that she explicitly asked him not to. Whatever the reasons, whatever the compulsions - there is no excuse! And how many times did Ashutosh end up saying "I was just going to call u", "I was going to tell u later" when Nidhi found out that he was either with Mallika or was doing something to help her. Anybody in her shoes would think he was lying to her - I definitely would.

Anyway, long story short, I voted yes :)

EDITED: Forgot to mention one more thing that I wanted to say - when Nidhi rightly and logically questioned him ki why did you have to bring her to Kotnis, why couldn't you take her to the same hospital where you first found her, he claims that he did so because he thought she needed better care. He would do so for even an enemy if he found him lying on the rooad in need of healthcare (the words "aakhir mallika tho meri dost hain" were just left hanging in the air :( ) But but but ... he ends up calling the same gynaec that was treating her in Jai Hind hospital? tho kaunsa better care mil raha hiain usko? Just the fact that she's now close enough that he can check on her all the time. So then, Nidhi was right - he isn't doing this just as a doctor. Right?
Edited by hm2630 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
#37
From a wife's point of view I would say she is totally justified as I myself would be livid if my hubby were to interact with a woman who tried to break my marriage up,wanted to make my hubby her's at any cost and also tried to take my life just to fulfil this so called love obsession.
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Posted: 13 years ago
#38

Originally posted by: hm2630

I finally got a chance to catch up with all the episodes of the show after a very long break. and I actually like that Nidhi finally left home - I believe she is completely justified in acting the way she did. Because this is the second time that her husband didn't care if she stayed at home or left. The first time, Nidhi came back because she thought that leaving would actually mean that she was willing to give up without a fight and that she valued her marriage. But not again! I understand that there is no room for ego in a marriage, but there is for self-respect. And no self-respecting woman would stand aside and watch when she knows her husband is doing something that she explicitly asked him not to. Whatever the reasons, whatever the compulsions - there is no excuse! And how many times did Ashutosh end up saying "I was just going to call u", "I was going to tell u later" when Nidhi found out that he was either with Mallika or was doing something to help her. Anybody in her shoes would think he was lying to her - I definitely would.


Anyway, long story short, I voted yes :)

EDITED: Forgot to mention one more thing that I wanted to say - when Nidhi rightly and logically questioned him ki why did you have to bring her to Kotnis, why couldn't you take her to the same hospital where you first found her, he claims that he did so because he thought she needed better care. He would do so for even an enemy if he found him lying on the rooad in need of healthcare (the words "aakhir mallika tho meri dost hain" were just left hanging in the air :( ) But but but ... he ends up calling the same gynaec that was treating her in Jai Hind hospital? tho kaunsa better care mil raha hiain usko? Just the fact that she's now close enough that he can check on her all the time. So then, Nidhi was right - he isn't doing this just as a doctor. Right?



Upto infinity, I agree to what u hv said, and echo u for the red highlighted lines... very well explained. 😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
#39

Originally posted by: hm2630

I finally got a chance to catch up with all the episodes of the show after a very long break. and I actually like that Nidhi finally left home - I believe she is completely justified in acting the way she did. Because this is the second time that her husband didn't care if she stayed at home or left. The first time, Nidhi came back because she thought that leaving would actually mean that she was willing to give up without a fight and that she valued her marriage. But not again! I understand that there is no room for ego in a marriage, but there is for self-respect. And no self-respecting woman would stand aside and watch when she knows her husband is doing something that she explicitly asked him not to. Whatever the reasons, whatever the compulsions - there is no excuse! And how many times did Ashutosh end up saying "I was just going to call u", "I was going to tell u later" when Nidhi found out that he was either with Mallika or was doing something to help her. Anybody in her shoes would think he was lying to her - I definitely would.


Anyway, long story short, I voted yes :)

EDITED: Forgot to mention one more thing that I wanted to say - when Nidhi rightly and logically questioned him ki why did you have to bring her to Kotnis, why couldn't you take her to the same hospital where you first found her, he claims that he did so because he thought she needed better care. He would do so for even an enemy if he found him lying on the rooad in need of healthcare (the words "aakhir mallika tho meri dost hain" were just left hanging in the air :( ) But but but ... he ends up calling the same gynaec that was treating her in Jai Hind hospital? tho kaunsa better care mil raha hiain usko? Just the fact that she's now close enough that he can check on her all the time. So then, Nidhi was right - he isn't doing this just as a doctor. Right?


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Posted: 13 years ago
#40

Originally posted by: ttrocks



Is care dependent only on the doctor? Does it have nothing to do with the facilities available at the hospital? Why do we all go to the best hospitals in the city and not the public hospitals if this is the case?

It is another matter that Ashutosh wanted to personally supervise Mallika's care. He admitted to it himself. Whether he should have done it or not is a different question!

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