Why can't everyone be right and wrong?

What I like about the current track is the gray shades. The fact that each of the characters has a justification of its own. That none of them are white as snow or black as charcoal. They are normal people who make mistakes, some of them small and some of them so huge that they change the course of their lives. And yet they are trying to grapple with their lives, trying to figure out how to make the best of the situation and also trying to do right by each other. I would rather see this than a track that makes a complete villain or a vamp out of a character. As an audience, I would rather feel torn in my sympathies for all of them than root for just one of them. I don't want to see one character being butchered for the sake of another. That is not how it happens in real life. In reality, all of us are right and all of us are wrong too. And obviously I am not talking of extreme situations here.

I want to be able to sympathize with Ashutosh's past and pain and also cheer Nidhi on in her ambitions. I want to be able to feel sorry for Mallika, a dignified doctor whose bitterness and jealousy consumed her and left her with nothing but a lonely life of struggle. I don't want to hate any of these characters. I am hoping this show is not going to take harsh stands on right and wrong or get judgmental about husbands and wives. I want to enjoy the experience of peeking into their lives without taking sides with anyone. Rather, i want to have the freedom to keep changing sides depending on the context and probably go crazy figuring it out.

I like the fact that this show is letting me do much of this. It is not perfect. It has many flaws. And yet, it engages me unlike no other because it is offering me raw human dilemma without taking a righteous stand.

However, I think over the top drama and negativity ( not that this show has not been guilty of that) is the order of the day, People want to see black and white and gray is not the color of choice. At least that is what the TRPs seem to be saying.

I remember a show called Hasratein in the 90s. Where you empathized with the husbands, the wives and also their other partners...each of their dilemmas was palpable..the show was a big hit too...have we as an audience lost our ability to appreciate gray?

i seriously have no idea why iam so madly in love with this show...

Originally posted by: jayanti_dj

i seriously have no idea why iam so madly in love with this show...

i love everything about it...

dont think that much ..all i know is i love it...and thats enuf for me..

i remember hasratein.. i wanted to watch it..but amma wouldnt let me..she thought i was too young to watch it..

but there was one more show on infidelity.. sailaab... it had the best title track ever.. first song i ever ever heard of jagjit singh...and since then I have been a huge fan of Jagjit Singh (RIP Jagjit Singh)...

i remember begging amma to let me watch the repeat of the show a couple years later...

it was abt 2 couples... still cant forget it..one of the best shows on indian tv ..ever ...

Yes Deepa...Sailaab was a great show...I don't remember the names of the characters...but I remember Sachin Khedekar and Renuka Shahane were the leads...as in the couple who were in love and yet married to other people...and their respective spouses were really nice people too..you felt for each of them...and there was another show...I don't even remember the name...but this woman is pregnant and a huge career opportunity comes by...and she makes the conscious choice of aborting her child...imagine that today...people would be ready to crucify her...and yet the show was watched and liked then...sigh!

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

Yes Deepa...Sailaab was a great show...I don't remember the names of the characters...but I remember Sachin Khedekar and Renuka Shahane were the leads...as in the couple who were in love and yet married to other people...and their respective spouses were really nice people too..you felt for each of them...and there was another show...I don't even remember the name...but this woman is pregnant and a huge career opportunity comes by...and she makes the conscious choice of aborting her child...imagine that today...people would be ready to crucify her...and yet the show was watched and liked then...sigh!

Sujatha brilliant analysis, i'm at loss to share my comments. Fabulous expressions. Yes, right and wrong are objective n subjective interpretations. Generalization of these expressions is tough. Ashu, mallika, nidhi, BB are right at their end, but their right is not justified if viewed from other's side. None of them are perfect, flawless immortals. This imperfection draws us to the show, leaves crazy to debate, discuss n differ. But as audience, often most of us are prejudiced towards some characters, get judgemental with them, or I say we empathize more with lead characters and end up judging one character as vamp/villian, who are right from their POV. Gray shade is not on forefront, might be coz we empathize more with drama but not reality. We humans are gray, n look for something fictious, extreme and empathize with that fiction, black/white and connect with that fiction, as a fantasy. Ashu dropping M is not acceptable at husbands part which is justifiable on grounds humanity and decade long friendship, which fails on trp's. For appreciating gray human beings as leads with out jumping into prejudices n judgements is tough. Romance/chemistry among leads in the show has drawn huge arguments in the begining as we started viewing romance in the shows as norm, but this gap is justified as per the age n personal traits of character. I think most us love watching things above our world, fantasy, romance etc in place of reality, even TRP's prove the same

@Deepa...am sorry..I don't remember the name..I just recall one shot where the woman returns home from the hospital and informs her husband that has aborted the child...will try and google and see if I get any names..

@Harshal ...thanks

@Nandini ...This has happened only over the last decade,,,ever since the saas-bahu drama started to be precise,...our shows were quite mature and evolved before then!

Actually sometimes situation is wrong the people related to the situation is not wrong.

Mallu is now really in a bad situation though only she is responsible for this. If last time she did not behave in that manner and accept Ashni and be thankful to Nidhi and try to be happy for her friend Ashu then today she will have a big family with her to take care, Ashni, BB rather DB also be there for her as a mother like person. Though Jagan betrayed her she won't feel left alone.

Ashu in this situation is feeling bad for her but how can he forget what Mallu had done to Nidhi and how she back stabbed him. What she has done that is not forgivable but now situation is such that she truely need some help and care, but Ashu is helpless. He already done lots of injustice to Nidhi which gave her lots of pain may be which is beyond repair.

Nidhi always try to accomodate and help Mallu. Always open to accept her as Ashu's best friend though she always try to harm her. But last time what she has done no one in this world can forgive or forget . Nidhi has got a wonderful nature and a very kind heart but she is human not Goddess . There is a limit to her tolerance level. We don't know what will be her decision in this situation, but if it is against Mallu, I don't see anything wrong in it. Snake can bite any moment and Mallu is like a snake.

You should hate the person more who tolerate the crime rather than who actually committed it. As tolerating crime means you are adding fuel to the fire. If Ashu stopped her in 1st place then situation may be something else.