What does the child want? - Page 2

go back n read that thread mademoiselle , it was treated like one ..though it wasnt posted wid that intention !


I did read it and noted the responses...but believed then and now, that you made a valid point..but, as a rule, I don't respond to poll responses...because it is your reason for voting a particular way...I feel that is not up for debate...!

i have a slightly different view on this... and this is not keeping ashu-nidhi or anyone in mind for that matter

most of the times it happens that a married couple has not thought about having a child, they are busy settling down in marriage, still it happens that child gets conceived... we cant say he/she was not wanted.. or he/she will not be loved in the same way if he/she was planned by parents... if everything would be so planned and decided, then it would not be called Life, i guess

a child whether wanted or unplanned always is a bundle of joy and only strengthens the bond of parents.. of course there can be exceptions ..

Originally posted by: turags

go back n read that thread mademoiselle , it was treated like one ..though it wasnt posted wid that intention !


I did read it and noted the responses...but believed then and now, that you made a valid point..but, as a rule, I don't respond to poll responses...because it is your reason for voting a particular way...I feel that is not up for debate...!

no not offended .. i wondered wat was so funny in that?

Originally posted by: Niks_uae

i have a slightly different view on this... and this is not keeping ashu-nidhi or anyone in mind for that matter

most of the times it happens that a married couple has not thought about having a child, they are busy settling down in marriage, still it happens that child gets conceived... we cant say he/she was not wanted.. or he/she will not be loved in the same way if he/she was planned by parents... if everything would be so planned and decided, then it would not be called Life, i guess

a child whether wanted or unplanned always is a bundle of joy and only strengthens the bond of parents.. of course there can be exceptions ..

Exactly. Most of the pregnancies are unplanned. Yet the children are cherished and loved. I wonder what Nidhi's reaction for an unplanned pregnancy would be. Her reaction to the whole issue was to the extent of rudeness rather than helplessness. At this point of time I won't be surprised if she opts for an abortion.

Originally posted by: Niks_uae

i have a slightly different view on this... and this is not keeping ashu-nidhi or anyone in mind for that matter

most of the times it happens that a married couple has not thought about having a child, they are busy settling down in marriage, still it happens that child gets conceived... we cant say he/she was not wanted.. or he/she will not be loved in the same way if he/she was planned by parents... if everything would be so planned and decided, then it would not be called Life, i guess

a child whether wanted or unplanned always is a bundle of joy and only strengthens the bond of parents.. of course there can be exceptions ..

I am a mother of two...my second one was an unplanned pregnancy...I was under tremendous pressure to terminate it because it was too soon after my first...but I could not bring myself to do it...because, planned or not, it was part of me and I already loved it more than my life...today, my daughter is my greatest support in life...

However, when a woman/man specifically says that a child is not a priority or a desire, then it is definitely unwanted...and the woman is better off not being coerced and the child is better off not being born!

Originally posted by: radhika72

Exactly. Most of the pregnancies are unplanned. Yet the children are cherished and loved. I wonder what Nidhi's reaction for an unplanned pregnancy would be. Her reaction to the whole issue was to the extent of rudeness rather than helplessness. At this point of time I won't be surprised if she opts for an abortion.

Radhika, the vehemence with which Nidhi expressed herself is what made me think to make this post...she was categorical that she wanted to live life on her terms and for Ashutosh...and a child did not fit into her scheme of things then...!

Originally posted by: alkaparmart

really child don't know what has been given to him,bec at that stage we are caretaker/parents who understand child's necesity.and here i [my pov]thinks nidhi's reaction was too rude.when you can control the whole children word why don't you adjust yourself for child.ashu showed his understanding but she noticed at all about his unsatisfaction clearly.but she didn't care that.and only bus bol diya?baat nahi karenge.i really feel bad for ashu .god had given the power to women who can carry baby and give a strength to deliver them.but man should not be like begging or requesting for a baby like this.

Alka, Nidhi reacted very vehemently...and yes, I don't think either spouse should beg...it should be a wholehearted choice made by both!

Nidhi said that animals give birth but a human being can be a mother...I would suggest that she tries to take a baby kitten from its mom...she will then learn what maternal instincts are...they may not be endowed with the sixth sense which gives us the power to think, but animals are actually more tuned to their inner selves and environments than us...and what is man...a civilized ( ?) animal after all! Maybe she skipped studying the Darwinian theory!

Wat r u talking abt?? 1st u wanted a adopt child for ashni, then u said one child of their blood & second one a adopted, then u said ashu cn wait for sme yrs as nidhi shud b allowed to complete & fullfil her certain desires etc.. Now u r Talking abt the unborn child on greater length.. Grrr..

Parental care is seen in fishes which are the lowest form of chordates. In fact no animal abandons the young ones like humans. Janvars are better in this department.