How to project Age-Gap? - Page 2

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Real genuine issues:

1. Raising kids/having kids - given age gap one partner may be more in rush for marriage/kids than other partner.

2. Problemsolving skills - different approaches...i.e. Ash wants to solve the Baba problem and Nidhi wants to avoid it and leave it to time.

3. Clothing - not what they have shown but, say Nidz were something that is a bit too sexy☺️

4. Routine v. spontaneity - Ash wanting to do things in a orderly way whereas Nidhi wanting to go with the flow... like how they ended up at the punjabi truck stop

5. Intuition v. experience - Nidhi relying on intuition and Ash experience to solve a professional medical case

6. Professional credit - people thinking that Nidhi is getting special treatment becoz of her relationship with Ash. Nidhi consequently having to work harder to prove herself

7. Financial Establishment - this can't be issue here... but, is often a issue btwn couples... The older partner can afford things that the younger one can't

8. Time - the more established partner may have more free time than the younger unestablished partner... this is obviously not the case here cuz Nidhi is bekaar... but it could be

9. Respect/rivalry - Nidhi & Ash together solves a problem but, credit is given to Ash because he is the known brand...

10. Mockery - people mocking Ash - isn't it past Nidhi's bedtime...what is such goodlooking girl doing with a buddha - must be money

11. Ash bossing Nidhi around - treating her like a kid/making decisions for her. Nidhi rebelling against that. That sounds parent-child...but, it does happen...Ash assuming he knows it all. For instance they go to a high end restaurant and he orders for her. Or within a work context - he volunteers her to present something but, doesn't ask her. Its a good opportunity, but she feels pressurized.

Originally posted by: Mimoha

I agree that difference in clothes, music interest and food is more a reflection of taste rather than age. Also agree with Tanu that one of the ways to portray age gap is to portray the difference in maturity levels. What actually conveyed this difference in maturity levels very effectively to me pre-confession is A's apprehension that N's family may not accept their relationship and that N may have to go against her family. At A's age one does tend to anticipate issues.

1. A anticipating issues from family and society like in pre-confession stage. I can understand that anyone might want to enjoy this heady and beautiful post-confession phase regardless of age but perhaps A could be shown discussing with Armaan how to broach this subject with N's family. Any sensible person would have used Baba's hospitalisation to rebuild his relationship with his future FIL.

2. Reminding N about internship.

3. Going by my own experience, people of A's age group (I am one of them) start becoming particular about daily routines and food habits. Perhaps one of A's reaction to N's proposal to go to disc could have been that he does not like late nights during week days.

4. At N's age, one may want a repeated, verbal and also some physical expression of love. I read one of the suggestions in another post like N insisting on A giving her a rose everyday.

5. Now that a dinner at Malika's place has been planned, I hope they use it to present that N's age group is more willing / open to experiment with food. Though it is ridiculous to show a guy who has done his post-graduation in London not comfortable with something as basic as pasta, I hope here N takes the lead and tries what A likes because the real issue here according to me is not food but the willingness to experiment.

Apologies for a long post.

Originally posted by: apurvafan

Don't expect to change a person, or expect the person to change you. This is true with any relationship. Don't hope to help a younger man to "grow up", or help an older man to get in touch with his inner teenager. Don't expect an older person to help propel you into adulthood. In order for a relationship to be honest, mature, and stable, each person should be comfortable with their own choices. A great relationship DOES change people for the better, but it is the individual's choice to change...

@Soccer, this is the important lesson for life itself. CVs are mixing the track of Mallika and Ashni Journey together that is the reason they are not able to manage this .

Originally posted by: soccer

we have seen ashu as imperfect person bound up by own weakness...he has been shown to clear up his self imposed restraints and reveal his love for nidhi...but mallika has indirectly played part (NOT WILLINGLY) to cross the hurdles so far...age gap insecurity is his last major flaw...again they r stacking up mallika to do the job...but they r going wrong and nullifying the concept of love...they need to work on nidhi's growth ..to balance it out...

best lines ashu said was mein tumhe badlna nahi chata...kabhi nahi...