Shaavi dear... This is for you - Page 45

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

@twinkle, a very well written post. I completely respect your views but I disagree with it. Some how the post leap attitude and arrogance from Bose's is not matching with all these endless flashbacks for me.

@sp12, please stop giving that disclaimer, we are free to express our views here. I too feel that makers are trying to cater every one's needs but I can't agree with that Bose's had love and respect for Dev some where at the corner of their hearts, best example is that birth certificate with out father's name. I don't know how every one look at this BC, from my POV it's just not disrespecting Dev, it's also disrespect for soha in terms of her identify. Instead of this I would have really appreciated Sona if she would have told soha that your father is Mr Dev dixit but he's no more. Some times I really wonder do makers really know the meaning of a BC without father's name. There is nothing wrong in progressive thinking but in that hunger don't leave a question on a kid's identify.

Originally posted by: JALK2000

Lakshmi, I figure I'm going to catch a lot of flak for my Erica comment 😆and honestly if someone said Shaheer cudnt act, I'd be riled too so I don't blame ppl. Actually, I do like Erica's acting a lot. She is so refreshingly different from all the loud, screaming heroines we see on shows. I did not notice anything abt her accent in the preleap things.

I don't at all mean to diss the actress or her skills, but the way she has been asked to portray the character now. In fact, I had the same complaint for Shaheer too. In some of the epis (sending Vicky out track), he was simply too unemotional and knowing how this man can act emotional scenes, I was wondering if he is sick or something because I knew it was not his best work. Or he found the track as ridiculous as I did and could not put his best in. In Erica's case, her character has followed a pattern during postleap epis so I am sure she was asked to portray it that way deliberately.

Originally posted by: JALK2000

grace4317, I am no doubt a die hard Shaheer fan, but I really like Erica's acting (I don't like present day version of Sonakshi, nothing to do with Erica). Actually I keep saying that Shaheer and Erica are both underutilized in post leap epis. I always felt Erica cud do justice to emotional scenes so much (loved that entire Shimla part where she simply shone) then why did they make her out to be so unemotional. Her bubbly voice was one of the things that attracted me to her preeap and then postleap, she had this monotone. I was wondering why she was doing that and then I realized that she was probably asked to bring a change in her modulation by the makers to make her seem like this strong woman. Same thing for her baby talk type thing postleap with IShwari. See, when she was Ishwari's nutritionist, she had plenty of opportunity to talk to her like that but she did not. It was all so natural and bubbly and upbeat- like really realistic. And then suddenly by end of S1, I saw her take on this too much cuddly persona when she was with Ishwari. The thing that always attracted me to her was her ability to play the role in an understated way and she was doing such a fab job of it. Why change it at all?? I think the makers ruined her characterization too that way, tho I still maintain they assassinated Dev's more thoroughly in every way:(( Poor Dev. That said, I think one of the best things abt this show is that almost all the key actors are really damn good. In recent epis Vicky is also impressing me very much. Hope he gets a good lead role soon.

Red - 100% agreeing with you.

Originally posted by: Shaavi

Nitu, the fbs are representation of dil ke faisle dimaag se. Sonakshi is a person who grew up wanting fairy tale life, but fearing it too as it was opposite to what Bijoy wanted from her. He was someone who dislikes imagination, dreams and anything that is not practical and risk free. She had spent most of her life wanting that adventure and romance while projecting a no - nonsense behavior. But when she found Dev going to great lengths to make her happy, she fell for him. But she also knew that he wouldn't be the kind of guy her father would approve for her. She knows her father's exacting nature. When Dev broke up with her in the hospital, her trust in her heart broke too. She lost the belief that heart does give the right answers. She went with her mind and what it asked her to do. And her mind is ruled by Bijoy. Most the decisions she took and her actions after the breakup in hospital came from her mind. She went with the firm belief that she was superior to him and that he didn't deserve her. When she agreed to marry Dev, she did it because she felt she was doing him a favor, Dixit family a favor. Like a selfless act where she was giving herself to help a family in need.

Throughout the marriage phase, she did everything that is right from mind, but never really put her heart in most of them. She did everything with a particular goal, specific results in her mind. She wanted everyone to call her their savior and tell her that they couldn't do anything without her. Like how Ishwari or Dixit sisters attributes the family coming back together to her. When the results didn't match her expectations, she always chose to blame Dev or the others with not even once reviewing herself. All her actions were to make her seem like she cared about Dixit family selflessly. That she was a person with superior upbringing who was helping the Dixit family from the trauma of the past. In trying to prove herself, she ended up misunderstanding Dev completely. In her over confidence , she constantly judged Dev as the wrong person without really seeing beyond what was in front of her eyes. She ended up breaking up with him in the farmhouse believing she was doing the right thing. That she was unjustly treated. She kind of became a woman scorned. Her pride in her father's upbringing overtook her.

But heart was no where gone. It was still there, constantly whispering her to retrospect and asking her did she really think of Dev as she talked. All those emails are from the heart to which she never listened. There is a saying it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. If Dev is the first, Sonakshi is the second. In her fear she never loved Dev from the heart. Asha in the fb wants her to think and admit the truth. Bijoy in the fb said that Dev would have fulfilled the father's role for Soha, but also said that he hates Dev. Another thing is once again in the fb too he expected Dev to give up everything for Sonakshi. Cause according to him his daughter is priceless. And he doesn't really care what Dev does as long as his dreams for Sonakshi were fulfilled. If in the fb he had said that both would have balanced both work and home, then I would have said Bijoy realized Sonakshi needed a partner or Soha needed a father. What he wanted was kind of like a "yes man for his daughter and that is how he saw Dev as. Based on how Dev was with Ishwari.

When Sonakshi got Dev to sign that document, she did believe that Dev was the one responsible for everything. She blamed him for not being in Soha's and her life al those years. Because from her perspective Dev "rejected her. She who was better than him in every way. Who would have made him into somebody. From her pov, Dev should have followed her after that farmhouse fight. She never saw him more than a kind of puppet. Whose strings were pulled by Ishwari but when she came along wanted to do the same. She didn't really see him as his own person most of the time. Now that her mind is becoming clear of all the mess, she is starting to question herself. If she really did do the right thing. If her belief in her sense of judgment was right.

As you rightly said Boses are hypocrites. They have that sense of superiority because of their belief that they are always "right and will always do the "right thing. That their sense of morality is never wrong. And since their morals and values are so high, their making a mistake in judging people or in their actions is impossible. But now Sonakshi has started to question her "right. She is now realizing that she is not a "victim of anything as she had painted herself. She is in fact the author and is finding that she has made several mistakes in the journey of life. She is realizing how similar she is to Ishwari whom she questioned. And that is what she said in the bedroom too in the episode on Monday. When she said that just because we are mothers doesn't mean all our decisions regarding our kids are right. She is now realizing that is was wrong of her to decide for Soha. That she did the same mistake Ishwari did. That she is not as selfless as she had thought herself to be. And these fbs are needed for her to realize the blunders she has committed. And only when a person realizes that they made a mistake, that they have hurt somebody is when they can make amends. And that is the path that Sonakshi has started traveling.

She has started to feel her heart. 😃

Originally posted by: JALK2000

Lakshmi, After seeing today's epi, you still think this was a Dwiali surprise?? For me this was a Diwali shocker. Zor ka jhatka laga And we were guessing if Dev will sacrifice his project again or not! I don't know whether to laugh or cry now...