Originally posted by: Shaavi
@Geena. Doesn't the author hold the key to how the story goes. Here that author is Bijoy. For me being the author, he has a lion's share in destroying his daughters marriage. If the first step is wrong, then the steps following them will be wrong too. And he was the one who charted this course for Sonakshi when he advised her to "lie" and hide the "truth". He failed to accept or respect that his daughter was married and she was answerable to Dev and Ishwari. If he was acting based on his self respect and was not blinded by his pride and ego, there were 'n' number of ways to handle that situation. He could have directly talked to Dev and told him about his concerns regarding taking Dev's help. Dev wouldn't have forced him nor given money to Saurabh in secret. He would have happily backed out and provided other kind of support. Dev would have introduced Saurabh to other investors or loan managers and then the story would have been completely different. A guy who preaches honesty and truthfulness chose the path of lying for what, to keep his pride and ego intact. Pride is not a virtue and no self respect doesn't take away ones sensibility, but pride does. Hence I don't consider what Bijoy did as something to keep his self respect. He was being totally selfish.
In one of the episodes Sonakshi gave a huge speech about how the names of relationships are the same and questioned Ishwari if she taught Dev that. If as Sonakshi said that she considered both Asha and Ishwari the same as her "maa", then hiding such a big truth from her "maa" was wrong wasn't it. Wasn't this the result of Bijoy's advice. Didn't Bijoy failed to be a "father" in true sense. If he was a good father, he wouldn't have given such an advice to his daughter whose consequences can be so disastrous. It is not Dev who failed Sonakshi, it is Bijoy with his so called "self respect" and "righteousness", his "perfectness". He would have cared for his daughter and her happiness and not sacrificed them to satisfy his ego.
Only when the first step is corrected the following steps can be corrected. That is why Sonakshi is stuck where she is, where she is ready to destroy another girls life to keep her facade in turn her image in front of Bijoy intact. Whatever is happening is not on Dev or Ishwari, it is on Sonakshi. She is responsible for all the consequences that will happen if she doesn't admit the truth. It is not about Dev's inability at all for standing up for her. It is about Sonakshi's inability to accept the truths regarding herself and her father. She cannot just rearrange everyone's life so that her and her father's image of perfection is not broken. She has to contend with the fact that neither she nor her father is perfect. Far from being perfect, she has to acknowledge that they have caused a lot of hurt and harm to the Dixits to maintain their facade.
Have a doubt , did Bijoy ask her to hide or Saurabh asked her not to tell any one?? I thought it was Saurabh...infact Bijoy was against taking money thinking that it will complicate the matter as Ishwari was very possessive abt her son...He wanted to keep his daughter safe and happy...didn't the Dixits do the same for Neha...they didn't try and understand Ranveer's perspective...I remember one of Dev's dialogue to Ishwari...how could Ranveer allow Neha to cry and leave her , when he said he was in love with her...Did Dev not do the same thing to Sonakshi??
Here Both Dev and Sonakshi are flawed ...there is no point in blaming Ishwari or Bijoy...the problem was these two didn't give time for their relationship...they were trying to solve every ones problems except theirs...we need to give time for a relationship to be successful ...now almost all of them want Dev and Sonakshi to patch up...still they are not able to ...why ?? because they have never communicated or talked abt their fears, dislikes etc...in a relationship...its not abt nice , romantic talks you should also be honest abt ur dislikes too...
They will come around ...but they have to give time and learn to communicate and trust each other...as I always say...if two ppl truly love each other ...then love will find its way !!
PS : This is one thing that I have never understood...when in love or confessing the love none think abt parents and after marriage they get influenced by their respective parents...Why did they not get influenced by their respective parents/family before marriage...and if you don't trust or cant accept the person completely then don't get married..Once married learn to stand by your spouse...holds good for both boy and girl!!
Edited by WeRockTheWorld - 8 years ago
