Single moms?

are there are single moms on here who can relate to this or have gone through the divorce process and are now raising kids with the ex?

My parents. They did love marriage. Aftr 30 years of marriage they r till now in d situation where DevAkshi r standing right now.my dad treated my mom jus d way dev treated sona.he never gave rights and respect tht she deserves. My dad handed over his salary to to my grandmom,which she invested on my paternal uncles family, thy donot hv any source of income.she hardly gave a penny to my mother. So my mom decided to job to raise me for my education, for each and every expenses and hers. my mom loves my dad immensely. So she was unable to leave him at early phase of marriage she tried to adjust.today whn she wants to gets free from him he is not letting her to move on.its not tht my dad don't love my mother and me,jus his first priority ruined everything.

Even one of my maternal aunt is single mother. She lost her husband at an early age.she takes care of her two sons.elder one is in 10th and other is mentally challenged.

my parents. 😆 my aai and daddy had a super dramatic marriage and a dramatic divorce. they were in love, my aai left her family and fiance to marry my dad. she cut off ties with her family and lived with my father. she was a hardcore career woman and my dad had expected a stay at home wife. he never objected to her working but was super bitter about her demanding profession though he himself worked a demanding profession. my grandmother was a working woman and didnt have time for my father growing up and he didnt want the same for his kids. my mother tried to take lesser hours and work things out but my dad's taunts and ego issues never ended. they used to shout non-stop for HOURS. eventually she gave up and asked for a divorce. my dad lost it and my mother appealed for sole custody of my brother (whom she was pregnant with) and me. we moved to India.

Hate to sound repetitive but my parents too 😆 they aren't divorced or seperated. Dad lived out of station for years, sometimes he would make plans and we will be all excited but then it would be cancelled cause his work demands it. Also my parents marriage is not an ideal one, not that there's any marriage out there which is like that. They are not compatible, wanted and still want different things. He stayed alone for his job and thought a wife can fix his loneliness. Mom's mom and brothers thought high time shadi karke kartabya palan kardo so they did. It was fast and furious, all she wanted was a man who can support her decision since she had a hard life, while dad wanted an ideal woman who can be there at end of day with food and soothing words. To become ideal wife she left job, family, moved halfway across country, became part of different culture and lifestyle. Tried to fit in into a joint family where none wanted her. When she was beaten and exhausted and a child couldn't fix it (girls don't do shit from family fixing except become a burden 😆 ) she told dad and both took a new house and left joint family. Though it sounded like a joint Decision, all the years he made it pretty clear that he blames her for that. So they drifted apart. Dad stopped taking leaves and come back home...Six months, one year, two year. Then stopped calling, it used to be six times a day now even once is a blessing. Whenever we do talk it's basic, did you eat, how is the weather, with mom it's finance- how much money you need, by which date you need that. Parenting- mom took most of the decisions. I don't remember dad being there for sports day or PTA, he wasnt there when mom and me will have fights and I needed someone to calm me down. The one decision he took is to let me come to Bangalore for further study/job, and mom keeps traveling back and forth . Anyways I have seen is these two are ridiculously incompatible on everything even parenting. On some other world these two won't even be friends let alone couple.

great responses. Thanks, gives hope to single moms like me out there. My ex and I tried coming back together for the sake of our almost 7 year old (similar to the story line that's happening now), probably that's what got me watching this series on sony post leap. It was right around that time (jan/Feb) that after 3 years of being divorced and 2 years of trying to see if we can make it work, life brought us back to square one where it was realized better off going our own ways than bringing each other down. it was all for the sake of our kid anyways, and long term that approach seems that just does not work or maybe we are the selfish one's

watching the pre leap series on youtbe helped me get through some tough times last 2 mths and bought a smile to my face. the current track is not what happens in real life.. at least not in arranged marriages, wish they could have kept it more real like their pre-leap series.

The pertinent question is do you really want to be a single parent. If yes nothing wrong in it. It will definately work. If no, then need to work. Their is nothing like a happy married life. Its a oxymoron. It doesnt exist. Their is something called working marriage. Its biggest myth propogated constantly everywhere about happily everafter and happy endings.

Originally posted by: mans_22

great responses. Thanks, gives hope to single moms like me out there. My ex and I tried coming back together for the sake of our almost 7 year old (similar to the story line that's happening now), probably that's what got me watching this series on sony post leap. It was right around that time (jan/Feb) that after 3 years of being divorced and 2 years of trying to see if we can make it work, life brought us back to square one where it was realized better off going our own ways than bringing each other down. it was all for the sake of our kid anyways, and long term that approach seems that just does not work or maybe we are the selfish one's

watching the pre leap series on youtbe helped me get through some tough times last 2 mths and bought a smile to my face. the current track is not what happens in real life.. at least not in arranged marriages, wish they could have kept it more real like their pre-leap series.

^^ it's not glorifying nuclear family, rather telling us a kid can't grow up without her extended family. which is bull- i lived in a place for 20 years of my life which is 60 km away from NJP station, siliguri, and only one in every ten kid in my school would be staying with their grandparents/cousins. that was 7 years ago and my place is a village. India growing up fast, the idea of joint family is disappearing while our show can't move on from that obsessive overused idea and keep pushing ridiculous nonsense that somehow we need big family to fix broken heart of a kid who was raised in a nucear family/single parent.