What's wrong in being a Feminist? It's better than being a Doormat

Originally posted by: surenkal

I know a lot of people believe that Sonakshi is a feminist (there is nothing wrong with that) but really she is a woman who has taken charge of her life and her daughter's life. She choose to walk out of a marriage which was going no where. And that was not a feminist stance. It was about self-respect and really understanding that when a man is not caught between his mother and his wife and unable to build a bridge between the two, one of the two has to give in or walk out.

I am not sure why it is wrong to be a woman who walks out of a marriage in which

a) Dev has lied about her medical condition

b) She is being forced to try for a baby when she knows that her medical condition will probably not allow it

c) When Dev constantly lies to his mother and then lets Sonakshi or her family take the blame or step in at the last minute when things have gone from bad to worse

c) Dev drinks and makes decisions that have far reaching effects-- Sonakshi engagement broke, their own marriage broke.

d) Forget mother, Dev is unable to even stop Mami or Neha from being rude and mean to his wife.

f) Dev's mother refuses to let Sonakshi in to meet Dev after the baby is born and Dev Knows this but no action

g) Dev signs the pre nup. Sure his mother tricked him but MOTHER did this and he does not take this up with her post break up

h) Sonakshi believes that Dev had her family thrown out of the house. He says he did not do it. Ok but does he bother to find out who did it? Does he Punish VICKY at all? And why not?

i) There is no appreciation in Dev about the fact Sonakshi is willing to let Soha develop a relationship with him, that she is being sensible about it, she is confronting her own family for it.

j) That she is never rude with Ishwari. Firm, clear in her communication yet Dev is rude with her father and taunts him. Why Should Sonakshi not do the same

Dev repeatedly calls her one feminist in manner which implies that there is something wrong in being one and is derogatory about it. And Not once does she retaliate or tell him to buzz off. She gives him the respect that the father of her child should have but does he do the same? His own daughter had to point out how rudely he was behaving with her mother. Is that what a child should see and learn?

Think about this a little. And the CVs should also think about this a little unless they think that Sonakshi should have been a doormat and let the Dixit parivaar do whatever they were doing. If this is a show about women empowerment or not a Saas-Bahu-torture-me-all-you-can show then this ticking off of Sonakshi should stop.

Sure bring on the romance and all that... it is after all a soap opera but also keep the message clear and show Dev having some realization of how his actions affected the MOTHER of his child.

Originally posted by: surenkal

If only she had something like that. And it needs to be said. If this serial wants to take a progressive track it should do that. All this Sona taking nonsense from Dev makes no sense because she was not in the wrong here. Did he even once look for her? They both made the pact to stay together forever? So why dis he not look for her after the storm had blown over

Originally posted by: Push-pull

Everything that Dev does, gets justified because he does it out of gratitude & love for his family,