Tia's Thread - The Ides of March!!! EDITED!!! - Page 10

Originally posted by: tia.o

<font size="3" color="#660000">Precisely my point, Lavanya. Had he accepted his and his family's mistakes - if not to Sona, then at least privately to himself, I could have found him redeemable. But despite knowing the truth this constant state of denial and this constant blame game portraying him and his family some kind of victim are getting on my nerves.</font>

<font size="3" color="#660000">I have no problem if he continues to do his duty. But if he is back to his recent fawning over mummy attitude, then he should not keep on verbally flogging Sona for his mother's doing.</font>

<font size="3" color="#660000">This entitled, arrogant and unwilling to face the truth attitude is what ruined his marriage in season 1 and it seems that he learned absolutely nothing.</font>

<font size="3" color="#660000">This is what I wrote yesterday in Zed's post.</font>

<font size="3" color="#660000">It's one thing to be a father. Any man can be a father. But to be a dad a child regardless of gender can look up to and respect, one needs to be a good human being and a good human being is also respectful specially to that said child's mother. Sonakshi is an excellent mother to have raised such a delightful little girl. Even if she was the worst wife under the sun (which she was obviously not), Dev still needs to show respect to the mother of his child, if not his ex-wife. Had anyone behaved with his mother the way he behaved with his daughter's mother, we all know what he'd have done to them. If he does not want to face the same attitude from Soha, he needs to change his attitude pronto.</font>

<font size="3" color="#660000">I don't expect him to be best buddies with Sona. But I expect him to be polite to her instead of behaving like an ass. However, how he had been behaving since Monday is more than okay. I don't care if he hates Sona because she is his ex. Although his constant whining and blaming Soha for that hate which he clearly knows was his mother's doing is getting on my nerves. If he conveniently forgot what his mother did, he has no right to blame Sonakshi for anything anymore.</font>

Originally posted by: fandw

I am so fed up of hearing intelligent, independent, strong, feminist kind of things from Dev to sonakshi. He talks as if its like an insult or a crime, hate his attitude towards Sonakshi. Is he the same man who used to be proud of his girlfriend for being all the above?I I don't understand this bullshit track of falling in love with sonakshi again, tashan or realizing his love for sonakshi whatever it is. What does him realizing his love for sonakshi will achieve when he does not even consider he is at fault for whatever has happened. If he had thought about it he would have gone looking for her 7 years ago, what will he realize now?

Originally posted by: tia.o

You see Fandw, Dev was like those people who like those lofty concept of intelligence, strength, feminist ideas in theory. But when in practical life they have to live by those principles where they have to let go of their privileges associated with their gender, they don't like those qualities anymore.

Let me give you an example. There was an YouTube video I saw. It was a channel doing social research. They asked people about rape victims and how they should be treated. A lot of men and women said that rape victims should be treated decently. The rapist should be punished. Rape victims should be integrated into the society and should not be victimized which is not their fault.

Fine so far. The next question was that to fight against victimization and stigmatization of rape victims, would they will marry (if men) or let their family members like brother, uncle, son, nephew marry a rape victim?

Suddenly all those voices who were vocal about women empowerment and were speaking against victimization and stigmatization, backed off saying that their family is conservative, their society is conservative, they have to live in their communities etc etc to the reasons like they would like to marry a virgin, how would they know if the child she gives birth to is their or not etc etc.

Dev is the same. When it comes to his family's women, he is very much supportive of intelligence (Neha), independence (Riya), Feminist (Nikki). Because these qualities in his sisters doesn't affect him since his mother is neither of above and always gave her lion's share attention to him. Besides they will get married and leave anyway. And he fully expects their husband to be even a bigger feminist so that his sisters are treated better. In fact if anything more like princesses.

However, those same qualities in a wife means she won't accept anything and everything his mother and him are used to. They won't get to have the privilege of unquestioned and unchallenged nepotism and favouritism. They will also *gasp* have to share and make space for her individuality. That means they will have less privilege. That is not acceptable at all.

The last day Dev admitted that he wishes Sona was a robot whom he could control. And even today his problem is the same. She is self-sufficient, successful and strong from within unlike him who is dependent on people. First his reason for happiness was Ishwari, then Sona and now Soha. That's why he is never happy exactly like Neha. First she wanted love, then money. But nothing made her happy.

Even if Sona gives Dev his heart's desire and gives him Soha and walks away, he still won't be happy. Because Soha is a person, not a toy with her own thoughts, ideas and her own wishes. He can give her everything money can buy today. But his love is like Ishwari's. When tomorrow Soha grows up and moves away, what will be the reason for his happiness then? Then he will clutch onto Soha like Ishwari clutches onto him.

Originally posted by: gaurimisha

Now, Soha is placing conditions to stay away from Dev-Sona since she cant be with them together 😆

Gayi bhains paani mein ..phirse...ab toh full confirmation Sonakshi is coming soon to IN.

Dev does not know this yet...once Dev knows about what his daughter wants, he will get it at any cost...like he got Sona for his mom at any cost and Sona being Sona will end up in IN.

Very little hope left now...brace urselves for no-redemption-remarriage track