Tia's thread: Kuch Rang Bullying ke Aise Bhi - Page 16

Dev was saying to the teacher in the last episode in the balcony that he loved and loves her (It felt that he meant that for Sonakshi not Soha) and she didn't and wouldn't understand right now but will wait for her whole life bla bla bla. "You moran Dev Dixit, your wife /ex wife knows/ knew that you love her but love alone is not enough you didn't put any effort (if I judge you its zero effort) to safe guard, respect your love for her and you went to great lengths to prove your devotion for your mother at the cost of your wife's self respect, dignity. How foolish and selfish you are and its always about you, your love, your suffering, your feelings." How delusional he is and just hated each and every word that was coming out of his mouth, so much arrogance and attitude.

Tia, I dont watch Star Plus shows anymore, it more or less looks same to me just the approach/screenplay might have matured with time, content same as 10 yrs back. But I am glad that happened in that show. Guess what ? All other shows somehow shows the redemption of the leads in one or the other. There is nothing wrong in regretting your mistakes that doesn't make one weak. But for writers like Durjoy Dutt, repenting by a male seems like almost an ego issue. This might be a love-story, but an abusive one for me, hence not my type. I am sure it has its target audience. For Durjoy Dutt, this is indeed love from Dev's side. But I was wondering if Dev's intention can be passed on as a reason to excuse his behaviour. Let me explain why. Intention does not and cannot justify an action. A child has mostly honest intention behind each of his action. But the main difference between a child and a grownass man is his ability to see through the consequences of his actions. Otherwise what is the point of growing up if we totally omit the consequences part here ?

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Tia, I dont watch Star Plus shows anymore, it more or less looks same to me just the approach/screenplay might have matured with time, content same as 10 yrs back. But I am glad that happened in that show. Guess what ? All other shows somehow shows the redemption of the leads in one or the other. There is nothing wrong in regretting your mistakes that doesn't make one weak. But for writers like Durjoy Dutt, repenting by a male seems like almost an ego issue. This might be a love-story, but an abusive one for me, hence not my type. I am sure it has its target audience. For Durjoy Dutt, this is indeed love from Dev's side. But I was wondering if Dev's intention can be passed on as a reason to excuse his behaviour. Let me explain why. Intention does not and cannot justify an action. A child has mostly honest intention behind each of his action. But the main difference between a child and a grownass man is his ability to see through the consequences of his actions. Otherwise what is the point of growing up if we totally omit the consequences part here ?

I will tell you a small incident from my life. It's a very popular story in my family and everyone makes fun of me 😆. But anyways let me tell. During childhood we were joint family and I was very close to 2 of my cousin brothers (My badimaa's kids). During those days the headboard of a bed would also have a storage and we used to keep our extra pillows etc in that storage area of the headboard. One day as a part of a game (of course we invented the game 🤣), my brothers suggested me to go inside the storage area of the headboard and decided to sit on the cover of it. The agreement was I would remain locked there and I would push from inside whenever I am out of breathe. So the day was over, my badimaa returned from office and my proud brothers informed her about the new game we invented. My badima got shit scared, scolded them badly and informed my mom. My mom was almost out of words 😳. And when she scolded me for playing such game, I comforted her saying 'Dont worry maa, see how intelligent I am, I didn't wait till I went out of breathe, in fact I sent signals to my brothers much before that because I was feeling hot'. My mother just wondered if my IQ needs to be tested or not for being THIS stupid and not even realizing it 🤣. However, the point is, I was 7, my brothers were 9 and 12. 😛

If the above incident is replaced with a group of brothers of 28 and 35 and the girl being at 25, and GOD forbid if something happens, as per Indian Constitution, that would be termed as Murder. WHY ? Because along with our age and experience, we grow in our ability of reasoning, evaluate the consequences of our actions and judge the right and wrong as well. Does Dev ? How locking up someone is first of all an HONEST intention is behind me ? Somebody care to explain that first it would be great if so. 😊 And secondly, intention behind a 35-yr old mentally stable guy would mean lessening the term of the punishment and is limited to ONLY that. It doesn't nullify the action or crime.

It has been a HUGE mistake to expect anything good out of a Durjoy Dutt show it seems. 'A' class MCP he is. And yesterday I was even more pissed off because Sonakshi Bose is again on the verge of becoming Sonakshi Dixit. How does a character flip-flop SO much ? Is she thinking to have her own house with Dev and Soha-Golu like they are isolated in summer camp ? Does she not see that Dev is an integral part of DevIsh, and does she not know what DevIsh comes into picture what happens to the rest ?

Horrible show with FL falling for a bully. 👎🏼

@Bold, I second your statements here. At school age, i.e., between 4 and 18, locking up or tying hands of another child (forget abandoning) would be a punishable offence. At adulthood, how did this become love?

Okay, there are the 50 shades sort of love but that happens in absolute privacy with mutual consent and the show is rated such. Are Indian TV shows rated? Is this a family show or 18+?

Originally posted by: tia.o

<font size="3" color="#003333">I am literally crying today. Not only because I have to leave sunny Cancun for snowy Toronto at - 17 degree. But also because I am so mad I can spit nails right now.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">Let me tell you why. Remember I wrote many many times that when a husband makes his wife's honour his honour, her respect his respect, no on can disrespect or dishonour that woman?</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">Well, my friend Avni had been recommending a show called Ishqbaaz for a very long time and I was warned by some of my other friends that if I don't want to get my blood boiling I should stay clear of it. So I did.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">Anyhoo, today Avni pm-ed me today's episode link and told me to watch it.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">And guess what? Apparently the guy who threw the heroine into the pool, never said he loves her, twisted her arms and actually wrote the book on manhandling, didn't even acknowledge that the heroine is his wife despite the girl literally bending over backwards for his family, today repeated word for word what I said. He stood up for his wife despite his family's honour at stake, told everyone that anyone who hurts his wife, hurts him including his family. The family for him he could even kill. He put his respect on par with hers, her honour on par with his.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">Now I ask you, will any family dare to misbehave with this woman any more? Will this woman ever wonder where she stands in her husband's family?</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">And here I was hanging around for a so-called love story where the hero said I love you in style, married with all kind of celebration, repeatedly claimed to be the only one in the world who loves his family and the only great lover under the sun. But when it came to show the said love, he was all talk and no action. He never had the guts to face the world for his love and never will and he will always blame others for his shortcomings.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">Imagine someone who never said I love you but stand up with his love in front of the whole world over vs. someone who says I love you, but the love is as shallow as a sneeze from his mummy can wipe it off? I know which one I'd choose.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">I am so mad that I thought KRPKAB was a love story. It's not. It's a lesson of what's not a love story.</font>

<font size="3" color="#003333">I kept saying over and over again. A selfish person can't be a great lover. Because when it comes to share, they'd dump their problems on you, but will never stand by you when you need them. And now look, I thought that Dev couldn't fall lower than in season 1, he outdid himself in season 2.</font>

Well said tia I used to watch ishqbaaz before the leap started here .
I started hating it when hero pushed heroine to pool etc married her blackmail but today I watched because one of my friend advised me to watch finally he stood up for her after like ages he never expressed love but today he gave installment that's the man I like and even his mom can't do anything
But dev forget it he doesn't even treat sona as human and he needs to learn to draw I line later at least I feel gkb will break his wall he has built all this years for his mom then may be he will concentrate on sona .there is a news we're they say twist is that gkb will ruine dev- ish- soha equation wondering how soha??

Originally posted by: tia.o

I am literally crying today. Not only because I have to leave sunny Cancun for snowy Toronto at - 17 degree. But also because I am so mad I can spit nails right now.

Let me tell you why. Remember I wrote many many times that when a husband makes his wife's honour his honour, her respect his respect, no on can disrespect or dishonour that woman?

Well, my friend Avni had been recommending a show called Ishqbaaz for a very long time and I was warned by some of my other friends that if I don't want to get my blood boiling I should stay clear of it. So I did.

Anyhoo, today Avni pm-ed me today's episode link and told me to watch it.

And guess what? Apparently the guy who threw the heroine into the pool, never said he loves her, twisted her arms and actually wrote the book on manhandling, didn't even acknowledge that the heroine is his wife despite the girl literally bending over backwards for his family, today repeated word for word what I said. He stood up for his wife despite his family's honour at stake, told everyone that anyone who hurts his wife, hurts him including his family. The family for him he could even kill. He put his respect on par with hers, her honour on par with his.

Now I ask you, will any family dare to misbehave with this woman any more? Will this woman ever wonder where she stands in her husband's family?

And here I was hanging around for a so-called love story where the hero said I love you in style, married with all kind of celebration, repeatedly claimed to be the only one in the world who loves his family and the only great lover under the sun. But when it came to show the said love, he was all talk and no action. He never had the guts to face the world for his love and never will and he will always blame others for his shortcomings.

Imagine someone who never said I love you but stand up with his love in front of the whole world over vs. someone who says I love you, but the love is as shallow as a sneeze from his mummy can wipe it off? I know which one I'd choose.

I am so mad that I thought KRPKAB was a love story. It's not. It's a lesson of what's not a love story.

I kept saying over and over again. A selfish person can't be a great lover. Because when it comes to share, they'd dump their problems on you, but will never stand by you when you need them. And now look, I thought that Dev couldn't fall lower than in season 1, he outdid himself in season 2.

Ah!! It must be tough to leave a place like Cancun.

Originally posted by: tia.o

<font size="3" color="#0033cc">I am so upset today I could cry. I used to brag to Avni about this show where the male lead treats female lead with respect. And now she gets to ask me where is the respect?</font>

<font size="3" color="#0033cc">The last show I used to watch was Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon which started awesome but ended abruptly. The male lead was also abusive there. But he at least felt remorse and apologized to his wife.</font>

<font size="3" color="#0033cc">Here forget remorse, his attitude makes me want to kick his backside. I have seen some bratty, entitled, spoiled kids in my life with helicopter parents (that's what we call the parents who "hover" over their children here in North America) but Bhaiya and Issue Maata take the cake at ripe old age of 30 plus adult male.</font>

<font size="3" color="#0033cc">I just arrived home. I will go to bed and hope this was all a mental trauma due to cold weather.</font>

Tia, my dear, don't take stress, at the end of the day its only a tv show. Yes we all got involved deeply because of the initial promos and the brilliant acting by all the actors. But then the show will end one day and be forgotten, we on the other hand have beautiful lives, wonderful family and friends to live for.

Even I dare not recommend this show anymore to anyone. Gone are those days.

In a way I am happy, I can part with this show easily now. Would not had been able to do so a few months back. 😊

Let's keep our tolerance meter handy to know what the show has to offer.. 😆

@tia- I usually enjoy reading your posts and randomly came across your last one on this thread today so I feel obligated to post this (please forgive the interference 😆)..I think the first and foremost rule while watching an Indian show is to make sure you don't get emotionally invested in it. Cos trust me, its really not worth it..The makers only care about drama and TRPs, the actors only care about money and of course the popularity and the channel only cares about making profit out of it..We watch a show for timepass/entertainment/out of sheer habit. And most of us have enough problems/issues in real life. We watch serials/films as a means of entertainment/distraction. So is it really worth getting invested and losing your peace of mind over a random daily soap? Trust me when I say this cos I have been through it and I was really invested in this daily soap a few years back and it got brutally ruined one fine day..I remember being actually depressed for a couple of days and the futility of it all dawned on me in a week's time 😆 None of the shows on TV are brilliant to begin with. They oscillate between being decent to utter rubbish. I saw you mentioned Ishqbaaz. That show has shown some of the most disrespectful things ever on Indian TV. Gul made the female lead apologize to her stalker/molester and touch his feet for forgiveness just to prove she is an ideal bahu. And you have a brother who is bending over-backwards just to get his sister married to this worthless guy cos he thinks she is pregnant. So yes, I dont think KRP is the absolute worst (its as bad as the rest of the soaps)..Every single show on TV right now is utterly regressive and full of inane drama..The best way to watch it is with a detached mind and the moment it starts disturbing you, take a break..I did that with KRP at one point anyway cos I couldn't take Ishwari's disturbing obsession with Dev and never got back to regularly following it post that 😆 Anyways, to cut the long story short, the makers are busy selling the 'love story' and everyone involved is making money out of it..So its really unfair that we lose our head over it cos the irony of it all is that its a fictional show we watch for entertainment 😆 This is the longest essay I have written in a while but I feel bad when I see ppl getting depressed/disturbed watching soaps so I feel compelled to tell them to let it be and watch with the least emotional investment possible (been there done that you see😆)..No offense meant :)

I don't know why I am getting the psychopathic effect.. must be the impact of reading about the episodes.. 😆