Bigg Boss 19: Daily Discussion Thread - 23rd Sept 2025
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Dev's problem has always been that his intentions never match his words and his words never match his actions.
As some of you rightly pointed out that Soha is the child here, not him. About time he starts to think the repercussions of his impulsive actions.Just like a mother, a father needs to maintain a certain dignity of a character. Had my child ever questioned me why I behaved like a thief, I'd be drowning myself in chullu bhar paani. Most importantly when that child has honour and dignity a mile wider than all my family put together.Dev used to behave like whatever in front of Golu because due to long time being each other's only support, their loyalty to each other was solid. But in Suhaana's case, he has to earn it, simple "Love me because I am your father" won't cut it.Also, Suhaana has stronger sense of right or wrong than Golu. Everytime she sees Dev behaving like an ass to her mother or act dishonourably as a person, she will be mentally tallying Dev's negative points.Dev wants to be like Bijoy, the father (not the recent crazy version)? Then first be the honourable person he is. As of now, he is failing a good human being test, how will he pass fatherhood test?To be a good father, you have to be someone a child can respect and look up to. Soha liked Dev as Golu's BigCha because he was this funny uncle of her classmate. But now that she knows that Dev is her father, the standards are different.Same with Ishwari. She liked Ishwari when she was this old lady she met in market. She met her one day, had food from her hand, thinking may be she will never meet any of them again. However, now that she knows that these are her father's family, this is a whole different ballgame because now she is stuck with them for life. So she is setting boundaries and her expectations.She is also making them known her likes and dislikes, her habits and her routines which they don't know and she doesn't want disrupted. Some children prefer discipline because it gives them a set of standards and expectations they are expected to follow and they feel secured and sense of normalcy in it.That's why some parents, when they move, tries to maintain their normal routine to make their children comfortable.On the other hand, some children hate rules. I don't know why some people constantly compare Suhaana and Golu and find her lacking.May be because for them anyone not fawning over Dev Dixit automatically has to be lacking or forced or influenced.In spite of Soha repeatedly saying everything clearly identical in Sona's presence and behind her back, people are still coming into conclusions that Soha is influenced by Bose. Well, duh. That's called upbringing. The same thing which makes us behave the same way in front of our family and behind their back.If we behave differently behind our family's back vs. in front of them, then that means that we are influenced by our family. How is that so difficult to understand?Ah well, some people will always see what they want to see.
"You should be glad you didn't get your girls back yet," a friend told me while we were in line at a coffee shop. "Your book will be that much better."
It was 1995, and I had just returned to Alaska from Greece after my first failed attempt to rescue my kidnapped daughters, taken by their non-custodial father a year earlier.
No, I wasn't glad at all. My daughters' kidnapping was a continuation of leaving an abusive relationship. It was the answer to the only question asked when a woman was abused. Why does she stay? Here's why: Because sometimes, the cost of leaving is incalculable.
I wanted to write a book about bringing my daughters home. I knew that my stoic ways had helped me through a turbulent childhood of my own, punctuated with family violence and my own childhood kidnapping, would carry me through. This is a story, and it will have a happy ending. It has to. It simply has to.
I knew that this story was one to be shared, one day with my daughters, and with other women wanting to break out of their own intergenerational patterns of abuse. So in the thick of the crisis, I journaled, and then I sketched an outline of things to share, and eventually I made cassette tapes of events I wanted to remember when I started my memoir.
At first, I thought the trickiest part about writing my memoir was deciding where to end it. Was it when my daughters and I were finally reunited in 1996 and came home to Alaska? Was it after their father sued me from Greece in the federal courts the next year? Or might the end be when the children and I found our new normal, after the benefits of therapy and the passage of time kicked in?
To find my book's end, I would need to begin writing. At night after work, after the dinner dishes were cleared and the girls were tucked in bed, I pulled out my journal from Greece and the outline I'd penned and began to cobble together the memoir.
This book became my third baby. I wrote during my daughters' soccer practices. I wrote late at night. And then there were times I stopped. When the roof of our home caved in. When my youngest daughter ran away. When I needed a second job to pay our mounting legal and credit card debt left over from the abduction.
While I was absorbed in my own minutia, I failed to notice that the publishing world was shifting. I quietly believed that the only real route to success for my baby would be to traditionally publish. I'd already been single parenting my daughters for over a decade. This time around I wanted a partner.
I finished the first draft of my book just in the nick of time. I signed up for my first writer's conference and paid extra for an agent to review my first ten pages.
"So what's your hurry?" the staff literary agent asked, having glimpsed my first paragraph. To my horror, he shook his head and wrinkled his nose before looking up at me to hear my answer. I thought he would be wowed. He was not.
But he wasn't bored, either. He tracked me down the next day to offer more pointers. "Let the reader know within the first page what your hook is. You told me what it will be about if I read to page 50. Instead, why not tell your readers on the first pages what the hook is so that they'll keep reading until the end...Don't just write what happened. Write how you changed after what happened. Remember, you get one chance to write your story. Once it's out, there aren't any re-dos."
For the next ten years, I tried everything I could think of to get it right. I joined a critiquing group. Then a book group. I took more writing classes. When progress stalled altogether, I set the manuscript aside and decided to start a novel. This time, I hired a writing coach to help. And week by week, chapter by chapter, I learned how to craft a story.
My writing coach would say, "I'm not sure why this paragraph is here," or "Is this necessary?" referencing a scene in my novel I had cherished but that did nothing to move the plot forward. Though she and I were strangers, my writing coach seemed to understand where I was headed in my novel's plot almost before I did.
A year and a half later, I finished my novel. I told her in our wrap up conversation about my long overdue memoir, and she agreed to take a look at it.
Before sending my manuscript to her, I decided to re-write the whole book in present tense. Rewriting it in present tense drew me back in to that horrible time in my family's life, but it also opened my eyes to see my story's potential. Instead of Then he (my ex-husband) strangled me, I wrote As Gregory squeezes my neck, my weakness, my passivity, escapes my body as the air is wrung out.
Much better. I felt good about sending this revised manuscript to my writing coach. My book still needed work, I was told, but we could work together to get it publication-ready.
Now I am no longer daunted when asked why I waited so long to publish. Yes I am 51 years old, my girls are nearing 30, and my book will be just over 21 by the time its journey is complete. But my book is not overdue. I know this now. Its delivery feels perfectly timed, allowing my daughters to become solid in their healing, and providing a gestational period just long enough so that its own pieces and parts could be seamlessly formed.
Originally posted by: dreamy.tiara
Amazing post š
I would like to point out few things too. (which I posted on another thread too, and I felt I should share here also š)1. Dev had come to get Suhana from Sonakshi's house in the evening, when all the courts are already closed. Then Sonakshi calls her lawyer to get her "guarantee" and the lawyer promptly arrives.And this sets me thinking that Sonakshi had already got the paper made and was looking for an opportunity to get them signed by Dev. Dev being impulsive by nature (especially when it comes to emotions) readily provides that opportunity to her and Sona plays her masterstroke.You need judge to enforce a document. You don't need judge to prepare a document. A lawyer can draft a document anytime on a legal stamp paper and provided both parties sign in front of a witness (lawyer in this case), it's legally binding.Had Sonakshi drafted the contract before, nothing stopped her from making Dev sign even before she agreed to let him meet Soha. Why wait until now? After all the contract only states that Dev will never attempt to separate Soha from Sona. If he has no such intention, he is fine.I must say, she has become one heck of a bussiness-women, turning 'problems' (according to Boses, esp Bijoy) into opportunities. She seems to have transformed from Ms. Khargosh to Ms. Aubhodro. š2. Now, why would Sonakshi want Dev to sign any such paper, apart from the her and her family's arising insecurities? Sona's explanation to her mother was quite logical - that she didn't want Soha to face what she faced 7 years ago. But I am not convinced that was her real motivation.I feel Sonakshi was looking for an opportunity to hurt Dev the way he hurt her, to inflict the same wounds on him (sirf Mai tumhe hurt kar sakta/sakti hu *fangirling*š³š), not to really hurt and break him but to feel her pain, somewhere subconsciously.
I disagree on that. If Sonakshi really wanted to hurt Dev, she could a. proactively ruin his image in Soha's eyes by telling her every single truth about her dad b. make him go through court to fight strict visiting rights from court (considering his reputation it won't have been difficult), c. restrict all his family's access to Soha. Dev's family are not entitled to her child's access considering a. they are divorced, b. his mother turned her away, c. the pre-nup.Sonakshi had been nothing but cooperative with Dixits dropping in unannounced as if her home is public garden, say something and then break their word the next.Ishwari comes to meet her granddaughter, disbelieves Sona's words that she is sleeping, proven wrong, comes down and threatens Sonakshi and the Boses.Sonakshi gives Dev a time to meet his daughter, he can't wait that long but can't make the time either, blames Sonakshi for his decision, but meets his daughter at the time he was promised, doesn't like his daughter calling him Mr. Dixit despite Sona's encouragement, turns around and blames Sona for this, goes home, gets egged by Ishwari, jumps through the window to his daughter's room, gets called a thief and she refuses to leave, goes through the front door, pisses off Sonakshi due to his arrogance, Sonakshi offers to ask Soha, he blurts out that he had already went behind her back to Soha's room, gets Sonakshi pissed off again for his deceit as before.I fail to see in which sense they have showed worthy of the trust that either of them will keep their word. Hence contract. Since their words are not worth the spit they waste to utter them, the only route left is law.Had Dev respected and behaved politely with Sonakshi and still she slammed a legal contract on his face, I'd have agreed with your point. But so far, Sonakshi had been reacting to whatever shit Dev and his family had been throwing at her.True, there are lots of parallels between prenup agreement and subsequent separation and yesterday's contract scenes.Sonakshi had lost her house to Ishwari Enterprises. She contacted Dev in the farmhouse only to be handed the prenup agreement. Dev told her it is good she can't be a mother, otherwise she would have never been a good mother. These wounds are still fresh in her mind. And that is what she put Dev through yesterday.She said he is only a biological father, she doesn't know whether he could become good father in real sense. She makes him sign a contract that makes him lose his everything, legally - his daughter Suhana - whom he thinks the most important lady of his life (not second most, he said this to Golu). The contract like the prenup agreement fanned the fire of mutual distrust between them. Dev felt almost exactly how Sonakshi felt on seeing Dev's signature on prenup papers.The mutual distrust is not new. While due to Dev's million lies and deceits not to mention constant personality transplant in front of his mother, Sonakshi's distrust is understandable. Considering Sonakshi had been proved to be truthful every single time, I fail to see his reason for continuously blaming Sonakshi for his estranged relationship with his daughter while he conveniently forgot his mother's part.I don't know if it was only me, but I saw Sonakshi well-up momentarily when Dev proceeded to sign even without reading it and how Dev looked at Sonakshi when he read its contents. Both must have been reminded of the fateful night and another legal paper's role in their separation, the prenup.3. Dev called Bijoy Baba and not Mr. Bose, and it seemed involuntary slip. This gives a window into how Dev still had been subconsciously connected to Sona all this while, which explains his jealousy towards Jatin, humari beti etc. (Misti pointed this out tooš) BTW, Sona too said humari beti yesterday, only to contradict her words the next moment with the contract.
Dev didn't call Bijoy Baba when before finding out about Soha, he took away Sonakshi's phone at work. But now they have something he wants - Soha. Not to mention according to Soha, Bijoy is an ideal father. So now his tone changed in front of Bijoy. Dev had never been trustworthy when he was obsessed with something.For example, he said he will not do anything wrong at Sona's engagement with Ritwik. Yet got drunk and created a scene instead of leaving the premises. It had been his pattern from the beginning.He also said that he will prove to be a good father like Bijoy. Moments later sneaks into Soha's room and tries to sneak her out without her family's knowledge.Had Soha went to stay with Dixits overnight and Sona sneaked in her room and tried to sneak her out without Dev or his family's knowledge despite being her mother, will she be justified?I frankly haven't seen Dev keeping a single one of his promises. So since no one can rely on his verbal contract, written contract is the only enforceable way left.
Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun
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