Originally posted by: jigsaw1234
@grace4317, you make a few good points but some questions glaringly obvious remain unanswered.
I as a viewer have never taken exception to Ishwari's love for her son or Bijoy's protectiveness to his daughter. Only yesterday my 17 year old daughter came home from school and declared she is till a child and wants a snack and glass of milk when she walks in! Point is, children need it and it is a parents job. When does one stop being a parent? Never!
As an adult in society though, Ishwari is rather unique and disappointing. She had a daughter at home who was separated from her husband, so there was no lack of first hand experience, still she chose to behave the way she did with Sona.
Dev, now, is a son first and there is nothing wrong with that. Until the pregnancy drama started, most things portrayed in Dev's and Sona's life were quite normal. Who doesn't have arguments and misunderstandings.
Dev first serious mistake was not in hiding the report but prolonging the inevitable. That caused a huge rift and at that point it was his failure to acknowledge what a tough spot he has put Sona in. She forgave him easily but did his mother forgive Sona or Dev? Love should teach us something right? If his mother's love taught him to accept her disappointment and find solutions how did he make it up to the Boses? What hurts as a mother, as a girl brought up equally to her brother in this world is even today when a girl gets married, the girl's family becomes nobody? And it absolutely hurts if there are women in this forum who turn a blind eye to this. Dev was even willing to put Riya's life in jeopardy? How naive is he? In my book that is his first grave mistake.
Dev investing money in Saurabh's business, his family and his in-laws arguing and Sona doing everything to return is all part of living. Dev and Sona arguing in their bedroom and again in their living room is all fine. I can even accept Dev, after his mother falls down, to look at Sona and say go away. When the rest of your family repeat the same, why didn't his antenna go up? When we love some one even a toy, its okay for me to abandon it on the floor but its only natural to get cross when someone else steps on it? I can tell my husband he is being stupid but I get cross when my children copy me.
It is not like his mother was seriously hurt or unconscious. He should have controlled the situation. Dev keeping quiet at that point was his next grave mistake.
Dev then chooses to sulk and drink in his cousin's company. In the meantime, Ishwari tell him Boses are homeless because of him and then Sona comes along to find out why he did what he did. Sona is shown the prenup and she gets furious. The question is why didn't Dev do anything in the meantime? Why didn't he take a taxi to go to the Boses and tell Sona this was all a big mistake, his mother has asked him to make the choice and he chooses her? Was he inebriated? If he was then why do we expect Sona to believe a drunkard? To me, thats his third grave mistake, the final straw.
As a woman, I feel very strongly when Dev's mistakes above are justified. In some sense this is feminism right - expecting to be treated fair and equal? In other sense, I believe girls are delicate and boys need to be taught chivalry and it is revolting to watch a woman not being treated as something precious.
Why is anger and despise fair and equal but not love and vulnerability? Why should Sona be expected to have been more tolerant, more understanding, more loving, more faithful and just be more giving to the man? Its reality right, some of us are good at organising and we end up as secretaries, some one of us are good at rangoli and we only make it as far as rangoli on our streets and not next Picasso? My point is, what we want to see is close to reality where Dev accepts that his actions have repercussions and he is where he is not because of Sona but his own choices. Showing hatred might be cute but show us some chivalry and macho-ness in his behaviour not in 70s demin look please!
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