Thanks for sharing the stories guys. Reading these reminds me that why I get so agitated with the show, Dev and his family is because this is all reality. Thanks to KRPKAB for portraying these issues with subtlety/not-so-subtlety.
I know one of my best friends who has got such bad luck. It is a love marriage and both the families are well educated. However, there has been incidents where after returning from office, my friend found all her clothes (including undies) lying on the bed of her bedroom instead of in her cupboard. While being asked, her MIL informed her that FIL has personally put the clothes out since it's primarily the house of his son, so instead of sharing the cupboard on 50-50 (which the couple decided, and a NORMAL thing to do) hence first all the clothes of his son need to be put in the cupboard and if any space left, then DIL can put her stuff there. This is the weirdest incident I have heard in my entire life 😳. The MIL protested too, but FIL is after all the boss of the house. When my friend questioned further about it, in front of her the FIL told my friend's husband that 'This is why women should not be allowed to work, they get too much of liberty or voice on their own'. 🤓
Anyways, this has been the first incident where my friend could finally make her husband see the reality of his parents. Both of them were very upset and next day both didn't have food from their house entire day and the guy had been very caring and protective of her. 👍🏼 That was the eye-opener incident for the guy. Ever since then both of them lie to the parents of the guy if they have to visit my friend's parents house. (Yeah, they need permission for that too ). This couple couldn't go for honeymoon, because MIL and FIL wanted to accompany them. 😳 During my marriage, I sent invitation to my friend and her husband, but later I had to make another card to include her FIL and MIL too (for no apparent reason I should invite them, it's a FRIEND's wedding, we don't invite the whole khaandaan of our friends in wedding🤔).
Out of 5 yrs of their marriage life, the guy was abroad for 4 yrs and my friend had to survive with such in-laws (her MIL is comparatively good though). However, again the guy went abroad last year, and finally my friend decided to make a call and came down to US quitting her in-laws. She could bear it no more. She refused to go back until her husband doesn't go back too and says she is not gonna return anytime soon. 👏
Anyways, out of all my friends, only this one had been very unlucky with her in-laws. And the sad part is as it is a love marriage, she cannot share all these with her parents either. So here as friends we are giving full support to her for finally taking a stand for herself 🤗. But she aint going back to her in-laws place anytime soon. And the good part is, the guy is with her on this, he too feels the controlling and dominating nature of his parents primarily on him, then on his wife. 👍🏼
Sad that how the parents of the sons sometimes successfully destroy the relationships of their children or add unnecessary complications to it. Only if the boy's family learns to respect the DIL as an individual, stops treating their sons as some prized possessions and draw a decent boundary between the two families, it would be such peaceful ambience for everyone to live. Home is where one should crave to go back for, not a place to run out to escape 🤔. Children are not your award or reward to claim. They have a different life altogether you know, their circle, their friends, their way of living. As the children are giving respect to your world, please do the same to them as well !
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