Originally posted by: Shaavi
Wonderful post Deepa 👏 👏 👏. Take a bow.
I want to clarify that I am not a pro of any character, be it Dev or Sona or Ishwari. Only thing is I can understand them and hence express my views that way. It does not mean that I don't see their faults or that I am ok with whatever they do.
Dev is both a complex and a simple character at the same time. 😊. It is not that hard to understand him... There is only one truth for him that is HE LOVES SONAKSHI. Even now his love is not reduced. In fact it has become even more passionate than what it was before.
Love is the only emotion which can be spoken with adjectives. We say passionate love, obsessive love, cute love, teenage love etc. But we rarely say cute angry or teenage sad etc. Love is a very strong emotion and lot of other emotions stem from it.
Recently I read this article in Readers Digest about a women who lost more than $350 K to a stranger because of a scam of love. She was a person in her late 40s and one of her friends suggested that she look for companionship using a dating site. She did and fell for a guy who did not really exist. She ended up believing whatever he said even though she never met him. Even when her friends and relatives tried to tell her otherwise, she was not ready to listen. Finally when she opened her eyes, she had given than $350 K to that stranger. When that guy who was scamming was caught in Africa, he turned out to be a guy in his twenties. When asked why he said "love is one of the strongest emotion in the world. When love comes into picture, logic goes out the window. It can make a person do unimaginable things and go to unbelievable lengths to prove their love". He said he just capitalized on that.
It is very true that if love can give a person wings to fly and be at the top of the world, it can also drag a person down to the very depths of the hell...
Dev is no different. Till Sonakshi came in his life, he did not really know what love meant. He did love his mother, but not in the way he loved Sonakshi. For him Sonakshi was his life, she was he himself. He felt pain when she was hurt. It was shown many times how Dev felt when Sonakshi was hurt. But he never felt that way with Ishwari. The best example of that is, in the first/second episode, Ishwari gets a burn on her hand. Dev is upset and he put medicine. He is not happy that she is in pain, but he does not actually feel that pain. With Sonakshi it was different. He felt her pain when she was hurt. In that Diwali episode when Sonakshi's feet is burnt, Dev is beside himself. He panics as though something really bad has happened to her. He even expresses it to her.
The main flaw(I think this way as it caused issues, but others might not feel this way. Sorry if I hurt anybody's feelings) of Sonakshi was her ability to mask her feelings. If she had shown even 1% of her hurt to Dev, he would have made sure of taking care of the cause. What I mean to say is she should have communicated to Dev of how hurt she felt when she heard taunts and insults from maami and also that Ishwari kept mum regarding that.
Maami might not insult Dev today or maybe even 7 yrs ago, but it is very clear that she would not have kept quiet when they were poor. Dev had to develop a thick skin and not show that he was hurt by maami's words. He in the course of time learned to tune her words out. For him maami was nothing but a barking dog. He thought Sonakshi knew and understood that. He assumed that Sonakshi also did not give any attention to what maami said.
If even once Sonakshi had shown that she is hurt by maami's words, Dev would have packed maami out or would have told her to not say anything against her. But Sonakshi did nothing of that sort. She did not let Dev in or show her vulnerability. She always projected that she is strong and Dev believed that.
Dev still does not know all the hurtful words and acts of maami and Vickky. But what he does know is that Sonakshi left him. For him he always wanted Sonakshi to reciprocrate the same way he did. He said that once too in Shimla, when he bites her finger. He says "you should also know how I feel when you say those hurtful words". In other words, you should feel pain too when I am hurt.
When Sonakshi was out of sight, he was not really affected so much. He would feel it, but would somehow cope with it(Still waiting to see if they show any of these FB scenes). But now that Sonakshi is in front of him, he is no longer able to control his hurt.
From Dev's perspective, he was hurt when Sonakshi left him. So Sonakshi should be hurt too. It is the same thing he thought during the first break up. He was like how could Sonakshi do this to me. How can she move on, when I haven't moved on. I mean we both love each other. So if I feel what she feels, then she should feel what I feel(this is Dev's perspective, not mine 😆).
Since the leap and their meeting, Dev is looking for that hurt in her. He wants to see if she was equally or more pained than he was. He knows it was living death for him. But was it the same for her. He is desperately looking for that. If Sonakshi shows that she is affected even a little by Dev, that she is hurt too, Dev will back down. But until she does, he will keep doing erratic things, just to get a reaction, whatever that may be...
Previously he had paid a guy to call Sonakshi to a restaurant to see if she remembers her past. Now he is trying to use Vickky. He is angry with himself that he is feeling hurt. Since Sonakshi is not showing that hurt, she must have not really loved me is what Dev is thinking.
Like someone said in their post, Dev is just throwing a temper tantrum. He just needs Sonakshi's "samjhana" and he will start behaving normally. They need to have a conversation similar to the one they had in Dev's office after Sonakshi-Ritwick date...That will happen when the truth of maami and Vickky's actions come out.
Vickky on the other hand is set to fail if he thinks he can use Eleena. Looks like he is going to lose his family now. Also maamiji better beware. If she continues eating fried stuff with her BP, she will have a real heart attack in the near future...😈 😈
This is just my POV... Have a wonderful weekend. 😃
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