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Much as we'd hoped that Devakshi will grow together , not just as a couple , but as individuals as well. We hoped and expected Sona would learn to live indepently , establish and run a big business venture , attain success by her own merits , help her family's financial status to improve so that the likes of GKB and Viky could not taunt her middle class back ground ( as they say shut ,em up with actions , not words. ) and learn to place her self respect above every thing else , even above her all consuming love for her prince charming . .We hoped and expected to see Dev growing out of his mother's toxic influence , their co dependent bond , become aware about the leech mentality and utter selfishness of his so-called-family members , learn their true face and put each one of them in their own place.
That was basically our wish list summary because if only these could happen all other things like mutual trust and respect ( I always believed Sona didn't fought for her own respect and let every one including Dev trample all over her , one of the major reasons their marriage failed. She put up with all the crap for too long so that by the time she put her foot down , she's already reached her breaking points and the relationship was tattered. ) , proper communication ,prevention of frequent misunderstandings , not letting either of their families interfere or have last word on their marital lives etc. etc. will follow automatically. As we say in medical science , once you identify and cure the major pathological process itself the symptomatic relief will follow automatically and minor associate ailments will go away as body heals itself.
But here we see , as long as Dev and Sona were together they absolutely failed to achieve this personal growth arcs , instead of being each other's strength , they just weakened each other like corrosives and it inevitably led to a disaster. We can't blame Vicky and GKB and Ishwari for breaking their marriage . No we can't. You can't break a relationship unless they let you . In real life there'd always be harmful elements around a couple , we all know that from experience , you just don't give them an inch , that's the way to safeguard a marriage.
It's 100 % their own fault. ( Please note I'm not blindly blaming Dev alone. Like I already said , Sona should've been firm and much less understanding with Dev and his family from the very beginning. Bending over backwards to please her husband n in laws got her literally no where. )
Well now let me come to the main topic ( yes it was the preview till now ! 😆) .
I still don't know how the story line will progess from now on . But from what we can gather from the promo and spoilers is that- Dev has FINALLY learned to live for only his own happiness , we can safely say he's no more a mamma's boy becoz we all know Ishwari will never allow this new Dev Dixit , with always one or more girls hanging from his arms , and he's stopped being all sold to family-happiness-is-my-aim-of-life. He's full of life , energy , confidence and mirth of youth.
Now look at Sona , this is the Sona we'd all wanted to see . How beautiful poised confident successful ( look at that glitzy car! Wow !😲 ⭐️ 👏 ) she's become. She's learned to live for herself too , no more will she let anyone walk all over her self respect , she's earning and supporting her own family , bringing up her child single handedly and no more looks at the world with silly blind folded rosy tints or lives in the fairy tale world of prince charmings and happily ever after. She no more needs a man to give meaning to her life. She's her own person.
I'll trememdenously applaud both of their indiviual growths.
But if their separation can achieve all this , why get back together at all ?? For the child ?? That'd be extremely forced and stupid . Are kids to divorced parents not growing up in the western n now even Indian society ?? And they're growing up as good wholesome proper solid human beings as well. So what's the point ?? No body would believe the "We need to be together for the proper upbringing of our child. " They could always divide the money needed and share the custody , without coming together , just by reaching a mutual and legal understanding ensuring child get care n love and time from both parents. Plus if they come together for this reason there'll always be a "what-if-Not-the-child." question hanging between their equation.
They've only been together for an year or even less than that . And have spent 7 yrs apart and survived those 7 yrs to come out stronger and for the better. In real life perspective , they would realize that they'd probably always feel a little empty with out each other , but they don't exactly need other to live life , as they'd once thought. Once you learn to stay with out that once-most-important person , she/he ceases to be most important and becomes a cherish memory where we don't go back for real.
Wouldn't it be all together better , more realistic and more path breaking , if they regain their friendship , but realize and decide that they're better off with out each other, with out being back to a couple ?? That they can be beautiful parallel roads running side by side , never crossing or clashing or merging together again ??
All sorts of opinions are welcome
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