Brilliant post, as always 👏
I have been thinking on similar lines about sonakshi ever since I saw today's episode, but could not articulate it. In fact, I don't think I could have expressed it so aptly the way you did.
My observations today:
I think between yesterday and today, Sona has clearly understood Dev, his level of obsession of keeping his mother's desires paramount and her standing in his life.
She feels trapped in his love, wants to live that rosie-dreamy-pink life she wanted to, but can clearly see that it's not going anywhere. Sona has probably reached that penultimate point where there is no point of return given she has always been an overachiever in life and never gives up.
With Dev and ishwari too, she has reached a point where she just wants to get to a safe zone 'survival of the fittest' so that she is not out of this value chain.
Why she is doomed to this level is difficult to answer but I have some may be's:
1) Sona truly, madly and blindly loves Dev - and she wants to be loved back, even if it means broken promises, lies explained with right/wrong/logical/illogical reasons and /or ignoring taunts from anyone outside her bedroom partner.
2) She feels that noone will love her more than Dev ever.
3) Most importantly, Her parents have been supportive, but haven't given her a stick for simply bearing and not protesting against atrocities of the dixits. This has led her to a point where she is always wrestling to 'somehow make it work' and adjust to no end.
I still remember that day when Asha (in her disappointment) said 'kya yeh meri shona hai?, that jolted sonakshi and instilled instant confidence in her and she went back in her solid form of not being love lorn but a self respecting woman. She needs that dose again.
Sorry this has been too long, but I got carried away with your very interesting post. Hope I made some sense. 😊