before i post anything , i want to ask something. How many of you have been in a situation where there is a lot of emotional turmoil going on in your head??
Dev is worried for his maa, he suddenly came to know that she knew the truth last night and he recollects his talks with him, her repeatedly asking him for truth and he trying to brush her off.
she is missing and lo and behold, his steamy FIL comes in charging, calling her names, childish blah,,,blah... blah , you think Dev will entertain Bijoy??? This is not the time for right or wrong, who is being blamed and all .Everything has a place and time, and bijoy is the last person to understand this.
what Dev said is right, bijoy has every right to shout at Dev but he has no right whatsoever to call Ishwari names. neither sona nor Dev are seeking for his advise or support at the minute, Sona is not only his daughter now, she is Dev's wife too.
I understand the parents concern about the kids future, their safety and all that. I understand Bijoy is worried, but on a serious note, lets not forget of all relations, the relation between the spouses is the most delicate and no third party intervention is needed until sought after.
here the focus is on finding Ishwari and bringing her home not on who lied or who is at fault.
I am not sure how many of them are hindus here, but i would like to quote something here " During mahabharat war, when bheema challenges that he is invincible, Krishna is enraged and he says, if i desired, i could end this war right now, but alas, neeyati has to take its turn".
Same here, if Dev wished he could shout/ scream and shut everybody who mistreats sona, but will that solve the issue?
will it help in Ishwari realising the worth of sona and giving her the love and affection she deserves?
will it help in Sona gaining back her self esteem, will it stop her from being competitive to become a good DIL?
Will it raise the worth of Sona in the eyes of GKB?
Humiliation , embarrassment, anger , self pity these are states of our mind. If the mind is powerful, the person becomes invincible.
what Sona needs at this hour is not who lied, or what others think of her. she needs to realise there is no harm if Ishwari does not trust her. As long as Dev believes in her and understands her agony, they can fight all odds. There will be wagging tongues at every nook and corner in ones life, what is important is how much of this crap should we register. At times ignoring the crap is the best treatment.
coming to Dev not heeding to sona, yes it was neither the place nor the time when sona tries to justify herself to Ishwari. Ishwari is in a delusion, and no matter how much Dev and sona try explaining to her , she will never understand. It is a normal human behaviour. when we feel betrayed, nothing will matter to us. no amount of proof will make this feeling go away. Its only when our mind/heart are ready to see the truth, then we shall embrace it.
And most importantly, sona ko maa mili thi, so rationally there is no way Ishwari will believe anything she tells her. isse accha hota woh dev to ek call karlethi and let Dev handle Ishwari before even she tries to get involved.
Apne maa ko handle karne ki zimmedari Dev ki hai, Jooth Dev ne kaha hai toh consequences bhi Dev ko hi sahi karni honge.
From personal experiences i will say, when there are issues of trust, before heading to go head on , wait, ponder and then act.
Edited by randomramblings - 8 years ago