Today' topic is Motherhood.
Now before I start, let me add a disclaimer that I don't have children yet and hence have no authority on the subject. So take it from the point of view of an observer and not a mother.
In this show, there are five mothers - Dida, Asha, Ishwari, Radha and Neha. Most gave birth to the children they raised and one raised someone else's child.
In Indian joint families, the definition of mother is a little blurred. Most of us call our aunts as mother too.
In Bengali,
Father's older brother's wife is Jethi Maa.
Father's younger brother's wife is Kaki Maa.
Father's sister is Pishi Maa.
Mother's brother's wife is Mami Maa.
Mother's sister is Mashi Maa.
So on and so forth.
And of course, Father's mother is Thakur Maa (or Thamma) and Mother's mother is Didi Maa (or Dida).
Yes, CVs should have done more research when showing Bong family.
Anyhoo, long story short, in joint family, we grow up under loving umbrella of so many mothers that our cousins become as close to us as our own brothers and sisters. It's hard for us to differentiate who is the brother or sister and who is the cousin.
In nuclear family, there is only one mother who raises us.
In this case, all the mothers are from Nuclear family.
Ishwari - She is a mother who went through tough times and raised her children alone. By children I mean Dev. Neha raised herself and her sisters. Ishwari didn't have time between her work and laser like focus on Dev. However, she has a balance sheet where she has lovingly stored all her debts and never hesitates to bring it out to suit her purpose.
She believes that if she doesn't hold the reign of her son tight enough, he will dump her and leave. So the best way to ensure he never leaves her is to tight the reign so hard that he can't sneeze without worrying that she'd mind.
She raised her son with the belief that his mother is a Goddess and anything that displeases the Goddess is blasphemous and treason and he should immediately eliminate the person or thought that goes against his mother's wishes without mercy or concern for others.
Dida - She is a single mother just like Ishwari. We don't know how hard it was to raise her only son without her husband or what hardship she went through because she didn't keep a debt list to pull out at her convenience. She doesn't constantly go back in the past to get her "poor me" fix. She lives in the present happily with her family.
She is absolutely confident that her son will never leave her. And why would he when she is such an amazing mother? She lives every moment with as much positivity and happiness as possible because even if she passes away today, she will die happy and content to know that she is leaving her son with his very loving wife and family.
Radha - She is the kind of woman who thinks her son can do no wrong (Ishwari thinks so too). She justifies everything he does because according to her, the whole world owes her son everything he wants and if someone dares to point any finger at him then they are obviously wrong, not her son (Come to think of it, Ishwari thinks so too).
She is a woman who hates other women unless they have money or know someone who has money. So she feels no remorse to applaud her son if he goes and destroys a girl's life for petty revenge (That is the only difference Ishwari has with Radha).
I always wondered what kind of women raises men who go and rape and assault women? If I have to guess, it would be women like Radha.
Asha - She is a mother who raised her son and daughter with equal love, care and affection. She is sweet, generous and a fountain of wisdom. She got a mother-in-law like Dida who gave her the love of a mother and she learned from the best example to be as good mother-in-law to her children's spouse as she had herself. She loves her children enough to be happy for them and let them have their own life.
She is fortunate to have a life partner like Bijoy who may not be rich but is willing to fight the world for her. A strong woman can fight her own battles. But when a life partner stands by her side willing to slay all hurt that comes her way, that woman is the luckiest of them all. What a champion to have!!!
Neha - She was forced to be a mother for her two little sisters when she was a child herself. But even then she did such a good job that when they have a concern, they come straight to her, never to their actual mother. They speak their mind openly and honestly. They don't feel they need to hold back their opinion, thoughts, free will just because she raised them. She treats them as adults who have their life to live all the while being there for them when they need a place to come home to.
Come to think of it, she is a mother like Asha.
She may have turned bitter due to her circumstances. But her mothering is flawless. Too bad her screwed up childhood took away her desire to be a mother.
For that reason, while I feel disappointed in her, I can't hate her.
EPISODE UPDATE:
Dev asks Ishwari to rest and helps Sonakshi fry Kachoris. This is exactly what Sonakshi wanted when she asked Dev to be independent. She wanted two of them taking the responsibility of their and their family's life together. Regardless how much Ishwari wants to be the other half of Dev, she isn't. Only the wife can become the other half. That's how family units are created.
Just like last time, the point wasn't to fold clothes, this time the point wasn't to fry Kachoris. The point is spending and sharing chores together and laughing, talking, bonding while doing it. Good job, Dev. Me thinks, the fever took away the brain fog which was clouding your sensibilities.
But that is not how Ishwari saw it. The competition she is playing in her own head, she put this as another example of Sona taking her place.
Sonakshi truly has endless patience to calmly talk to her after her attitude. She should be thankful that she didn't get daughter-in-law like Neha. But I guess women like Ishwari deserves daughter-in-law like Neha. Because women like Sonakshi is too good for them.
But of course, they have been married for a few months, made love for even less time than that (thanks to Ishwari), then all the dramas been going on along with fights and of course, it's quite obvious to think about kids right now.
The moment Radha incited Ishwari, of course she wants grandkids yesterday if she could reverse time.
Ishwari asks Dev directly. Dev informs her that he doesn't want children for five years (In the meanwhile trying to figure out the infertility report he has hidden from everyone including Sonakshi).
And the emotional blackmailing starts. Ishwari is suddenly too old and will die tomorrow if she doesn't see her grand children (I don't remember her asking Neha for them. Oh wait, she doesn't dare to ask anything to Neha). But not too old to run after Dev or trying to compete with Sonakshi for every little things.
So Ishwari decided to go to the soft touch - Sonakshi. She can't put too much pressure on her son. So why not go and flex her in-laws muscle on Sonakshi.
Sona sees Ayan with girl who is crying.
Precap: She tries to talk to Dev and Ishwari. We all know how they will patiently listen to her and try to investigate the matter because of course Riya's life is important. *SNORT* Who says I can't crack a joke?
P.S. So now that Ishwari wants grandkids, so does it mean honeymoon in Paris is back on? I mean Neha must have got over her bad feelings if she is fine with Dev and Sonakshi being parents. So honeymoon should not bother her anymore. Right?
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