Story of the Day!!! EDITED

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varsha

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Posted: 8 years ago

#21

Sona Happy Realisation. Nothing changed neither dev nor ishwari.

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Curlyhairdiary

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Posted: 8 years ago

#22

Today I witnessed a classic case of how upbringing affects your thinking. Its Ishwari who has instilled in Dev's head that doing your own work like folding clothes etc is "Ladkiyon wale kaam". Ofcourse he's not a chauvinist coz apparently he has travelled the world and he learned that youre not supposed to openly voice your regressive thinking in front of intelligent people otherwise they will see through your facade. So he clarified that he's not anti feminist nor a chauvinist.

Today I also got the answer to a question I kept asking over the last week. The dixits were poor and dealt with tough times, so in those times how did Dev manage folding his clothes? But like he clarified today, these are "Ladkiyon wale kaam" so ofcourse, neha used to do it for him since mommy had to work.

Another scene which confirmed Ishwari's double standards was the one where she was fondly going through Dev's old toys and how she proudly told mamaji and Nikki that she used to buy Dev a small gift every year and he never let her buy expensive things. The pride in her voice was evident. Now, whenever she has spoken about neha, it has always been with regret and condescension that neha too didn't utter a word when she wasn't gifted the things she wanted. For eg, an education. There's never pride for neha in her voice or eyes.

I'm getting tired of Dev now. Sonakshi.. I don't know what to even tell her anymore. Poor girl. My heart breaks for you.

Also, kudos to Shaheer and Erica for nailing their confrontation scene. It seemed so real and the dialogue delivery was spot on!

Edited by Malvika07 - 8 years ago

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Tia.0

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Posted: 8 years ago

#23

I think there will be another confrontation on the birthday when Asha calls or comes to Dixit house to wish Dev. He can't hide the fact that now he calls her aunty forever. I am just feeling sorry for Asha who is the sweetest and kindest person in the show. I don't know how Dev can sleep at night.

And talking about Sona, she was a confident, strong woman. Look what Dev did to her. She has turned into an insecure woman who doesn't have any trust on Dev nor his love. People who are confident in their husband's love, don't change themselves trying to impress them.

That is the lesson that love with your heart, but marry with your brain.

Originally posted by: pkbdas61
Agree to most of what you have said.. bang on.

i enjoyed the show today as it had signs of progressing.. Sona and Dev had to have this confrontation.. sooner than later.. better before the birthday than during the day...

i had tweeted that Sona did the right thing. Enough is enough. GKB taunting her and confirming Sona's doubts about mom and son. There are some who say that Sona should slow down. slow down for what? she has not had Dev do anything so far.. he was having a smooth ride and continues a smooth ride..

It is Sona who has left her home and come to this mad house.. she has sacrificed and not Dev. please tell me one thing that Dev has sacrificed for Sona? WHereas she has left the most positive environment and come to be most negative environment. The biggest sacrifice that one can do.

She is also right in that she has no private time with Dev in this mad house.. she is practically sharing her time and dev's time with everyone.

the story has taken an interesting move.. let everything come out of the closet.. Ishwari's insecurities, Sona's insecurities, Dev's fears... not good to keep hiding them in the closet.

three cheers to the show today. awesome.

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Tia.0

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Posted: 8 years ago

#24

Kichu bhaiya to ladki hi hogi in disguise... The only woman who doesn't do woman's job, according to Dev, is his darling sister, Neha. Remember how he blamed Ranveer for making Neha do work for his family? In that case, Ranveer should have done all the work even though Neha didn't have any job unlike Sonakshi.

Originally posted by: gmgi
So tomorrow God forbid if something happens to Ishu Maa then what will Dev do? Will Kichu bayya do the ladkiyom vala kaam?😆

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pkbdas61

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Posted: 8 years ago

#25

True.. i am waiting for the next confrontation.. and this time let more skeletons come tumbling out.

Originally posted by: tia.o
I think there will be another confrontation on the birthday when Asha calls or comes to Dixit house to wish Dev. He can't hide the fact that now he calls her aunty forever. I am just feeling sorry for Asha who is the sweetest and kindest person in the show. I don't know how Dev can sleep at night.

And talking about Sona, she was a confident, strong woman. Look what Dev did to her. She has turned into an insecure woman who doesn't have any trust on Dev nor his love. People who are confident in their husband's love, don't change themselves trying to impress them.

That is the lesson that love with your heart, but marry with your brain.

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gemini54

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Posted: 8 years ago

#26

Neela great post!

What is appalling to me is people saying Sona should not ask him to do stuff..It stuns me

I have done these for my husband and still sometimes do on the flip side he does some of these things for me.

2. Iron his clothes and keep 'em ready

I do iron his shirt sometimes and so does he ( he says my shirts are easier to iron!)

4. Breakfast

I sometime make him his lunches but he always makes breakfast every Sunday and nowadays he always makes my lunches for work😉

5. Polish the shoes

I do polish because he is bad at it but he straightens the shoe closet every time as I have a millions shoes😉 and throw them all around

P.S I do pamper my boys and suggest them good clothes to wear and sometimes do iron their clothes but then they take out the trash, load the dishwasher and run to the store to get milk!

But where is the you are a woman and you have to do it comes into play? 😲 shocking to say the least that some people thing that is normal😲. It also saddens me that people think like that that too young people😭

Originally posted by: .Neela.
Bang on Tia! 👏

Edited: P.S. It's not that the boy's mother in the case that I cited above had ANY such expectations from any of her DILs; neither did she raise her sons to be that way. This boy's brother was quite opposite of him and his wife didn't do any of what her co-sister did. So the mother was perfectly normal and had taught both the boys to do their own chores but this one DIL pampered her husband beyond limits! I question why? 😕

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Tia.0

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Posted: 8 years ago

#27

Don't even get me started on Ishwari's upbringing. If she hadn't pampered him so much, he won't have turned into a spoilt brat. Even his sisters know it. Check out Riya and Nikki's reaction. I watched the episode after more than a week to see Sona blasting Dev.

Originally posted by: baijubavra

Seriously ! If he had kept his socks and clothes by himself, Ishwari could have paid some attention to the little girls and Neha could have studied ! Remember the scene when Neha wanted to read Dev's books but could not because Ishwari was leaving and ordered her to warm the milk for NiKi? 😡 Tabhi Neha has become so angry !

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Tia.0

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Posted: 8 years ago

#28

Dev said that this is a girl's job. Not that he is a chauvinist or against females. But just he thinks that there are jobs girls do and jobs boys do.

Sona gave a proper answer. She said that jobs don't have gender.

But what's the use? She will as usual forget everything tomorrow. Again!!!

Originally posted by: sbadam
Did he really say that??😡.- "Dev also mentions, that cleaning after a man is a girl's job. He is not anti-feminists or against females, he just thinks that women should keep at their place and let men run the world"

Man I always thought he wouldnt fall any lower...he always proves me wrong...Sorry Dev, you lost all the respect and love I had towards you...

Sona...you have become more blind than a person with no eyes...not sure when or what will make you wake up...be in that coma...

Ish, you got your brahmastra ready...Halwa🤢...

CVs you have completely ruined a very beautiful story...thanks but no thanks

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lavanya

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Posted: 8 years ago

#29

After Dev's argument abt girls doing the household work... Woh din door nahi ... when he will ask Sona to quit her job and manage household jobs...

So much for ... "Mujhe nahi laga ki aap job isiliye karenge kyu ki kushal allow kar raha hai "

👏

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.Neela.

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Posted: 8 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: gemini54
Neela great post!

What is appalling to me is people saying Sona should not ask him to do stuff..It stuns me

I have done these for my husband and still sometimes do on the flip side he does some of these things for me.

P.S I do pamper my boys and suggest them good clothes to wear and sometimes do iron their clothes but then they take out the trash, load the dishwasher and run to the store to get milk!

But where is the you are a woman and you have to do it comes into play? 😲 shocking to say the least that some people thing that is normal😲. It also saddens me that people think like that that too young people😭

@ Bold: Absolutely agree with you; shocking that such statements are coming from youngsters. As Malvika has stated - it is a classic effect of upbringing and I'd add to it - it's also a very bad aping of such sequences from hindi movies / TV series. As I grew up, some of the Rekha-Jeetendra movies had such polishing the shoes etc. scenes and I used to be like - do I need to do that after I get married? 😆 I never saw my mother do all those things for my father. He used to polish his own shoes; she did iron his clothes when he couldn't drop them off for pressing outside. It's a personal choice, and I feel is good ONLY IF the men who are pampered by such services can live without such pampering when the services are not available; needless to say are more than thankful for the pampering that comes their way.

These are the kind of women who do not have problems being made doormats or getting such treatments and then they also raise such kids and expect the same kind of behavior from their DILs - in turn continuing the cycle 🤢 SO NOT DONE!

Lucky your husband and kids 👍🏼 I am sure they value your doing all those things for them. And I am also sure they don't take you for granted.

If I have to mention my up bringing, I'll say that my mother never enforced learning to cook or clean or even to do my own chores. I did watch her sometimes when she cooked, I believe we all do, so the theory is not as bad as practicals. But I did not suffer when I stayed in the hostel / after I got married. In fact, my grandmother always told me to not even go anywhere close to cooking but focus on my studies and get a good job so I can afford to hire a maid to do such household chores. Because according to her cooking was not something that would have been a deal breaker. Those who read this might call me missy Dev D. but I managed without any such help after I got married and did not torture my husband to cook just because he knew to cook. Nor did I create a havoc and made him buy frozen food. And although he knew cooking he was not interested in cooking, so I didn't mind cooking. I do the cooking and he does the rest of the household work. While I cook and I must say that is the ONLY thing I do for my husband. He'd rather wear his clothes un-ironed than have me iron 'em for him 😆Same with shoe polishing. I am sure my daughter trusts my husband more in getting her things done from him, and I don't have problems with that. Because of the long commute for my job, he's always been more with my daughter than I am, so it's quite natural and my daughter knows to have a balanced relation with both of us.

BUT, do I teach the same to my daughter? I do want her to have the basic training of cooking and of course she does many of her chores herself. I do clean her room, fold her clothes, iron them for her etc. but need be, have trained her do it on her own. She's very interested in cooking, so I let her make noodles, her own sandwiches, pasta on her own when I am around. And of course have made it VERY CLEAR to her, she needs to be self made and independent; there is no other option to that.

I am speechless on reading about Dev's arguments with Sona 🤢 It's like, err and then justify it too 👎🏼

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