One should pickup what one drops

Managing dev's wardrobe

Sona is not asking dev to donlaundry , fold clothes and arrange his own wardrobe..
In the current situation, dev has to be literally spoon fed. He doesnt know where his shirts are his pants are his other stuff with in the closet. Just like he couldnt nit even find the halwa which was right infromt of him in the fridge.

So every morning and evening his mom keeps his the things he will need to wear that day snd he wears only that. One day ishu forgot to keep his night dress and he emptied the whole closet and he was not even looking at the clothes when he was trying to find it.. just like how my 5 yr old does. He takes all the toys out for no reason and makes mess..

Sona is asking to learn how to find things with out making mess. Onviously ehat ever he needs is present in that closet.. But he used to be spoon fed.. Those clothese that dev gave ishwari are the ones that he threw from closet .. Not the ones that cane out of laundry . I am sure kitchu bhayya would be doing laundry iron and bring the clothes to each member.
So this is not a big deal - asking ur husband to know how to take the clothes out with out his mom.. Who will be opening the closet to set it right multiple times in a day ..

Ps: this is equivalent to if you drop something on the floor you pick it.. We dont need to delgate this to others- that is not sharing. Again this is something that my 5 yr okd used to do , he either carelessly or intentionally drop somethibg while sitting at the dinner table and asks us to pick it up .. If we dont he starts whining.. Initially i used to pickit up as he is my raja beta ofcourse ;) but my husbnd stopped me after sometime. He made my son get down and pick it up couple of times ... Now he doesnt drop anything and is careful..by mistake if he drops he doesnteven look at us and expect us to pick it up.. He just gets down,picks it up and climbs back inthe chair... It is a life lesson.. You pick what you drop

Sorry to disagree.Before we preach others we should practice first. There are many areas where Sona doesn't know ABCD at all. Bijoy tells that she doesn't know any household work. Thank god Nitu reminded. It is better if she first master house keeping skills since she is less busy than Dev who has too much work pressure on business matters.

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Sorry to disagree.Before we preach others we should practice first. There are many areas where Sona doesn't know ABCD at all. Bijoy tells that she doesn't know any household work. Thank god Nitu reminded. It is better if she first master house keeping skills since she is less busy than Dev who has too much work pressure on business matters.

If she doesn't want to involve Iswari let her do it on her own.Why put pressure on Dev? I found it too ridiculous. Work wise Sona is not that pre occupied. Bhola Bhaaiyya looks after everything. Iswari manages kitchen. What else is left for her? Why can't she find happiness in helping her husband relax after a hectic day? And please don't compare your son learning to pick,up what he drops with Dev Dikshit learning household skills.

Sonakshi should first learn how to keep her room neat and decent. But she is not inclined to do so. May be too lazy or egoistic?

Your line of thibkibg is way different from mine. Sona doesnt need to learn anything to be independent. She has been surviving in dixits house with out any help from her mom and dad for day to day things.
Taking clothes out from a well arranged closet takes 2 sec literally ... It is not an art or sonethibg that needs to be delegated. You just need patience.. Sona did not ask him to do laundry and fold but just learn how to atleast do sinple things with out others help ... She is absolutely right .. What will he do when his mom dies and sona goes to a conference or something. His toom will be a mess by the time she is back. Simple life skills are required... Cooking if u dont know you can go out and eat .. Who will u go out and ask to set ur closet right after everytime u make mess

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Your line of thibkibg is way different from mine. Sona doesnt need to learn anything to be independent. She has been surviving in dixits house with out any help from her mom and dad for day to day things.
Taking clothes out from a well arranged closet takes 2 sec literally ... It is not an art or sonethibg that needs to be delegated. You just need patience.. Sona did not ask him to do laundry and fold but just learn how to atleast do sinple things with out others help ... She is absolutely right .. What will he do when his mom dies and sona goes to a conference or something. His toom will be a mess by the time she is back. Simple life skills are required... Cooking if u dont know you can go out and eat .. Who will u go out and ask to set ur closet right after everytime u make mess

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Sona doesn't need to learn anything? I believe learning is an unending process. Having said that I have nothing to say if you have such high level of estimation about Sona. Bye.

Sona is constantly learning... You have see. Her doing kitchen work and she is not saying i dont want to learn... Or complaining abt it...

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Managing dev's wardrobe

Sona is not asking dev to donlaundry , fold clothes and arrange his own wardrobe..
In the current situation, dev has to be literally spoon fed. He doesnt know where his shirts are his pants are his other stuff with in the closet. Just like he couldnt nit even find the halwa which was right infromt of him in the fridge.

So every morning and evening his mom keeps his the things he will need to wear that day snd he wears only that. One day ishu forgot to keep his night dress and he emptied the whole closet and he was not even looking at the clothes when he was trying to find it.. just like how my 5 yr old does. He takes all the toys out for no reason and makes mess..

Sona is asking to learn how to find things with out making mess. Onviously ehat ever he needs is present in that closet.. But he used to be spoon fed.. Those clothese that dev gave ishwari are the ones that he threw from closet .. Not the ones that cane out of laundry . I am sure kitchu bhayya would be doing laundry iron and bring the clothes to each member.
So this is not a big deal - asking ur husband to know how to take the clothes out with out his mom.. Who will be opening the closet to set it right multiple times in a day ..

Ps: this is equivalent to if you drop something on the floor you pick it.. We dont need to delgate this to others- that is not sharing. Again this is something that my 5 yr okd used to do , he either carelessly or intentionally drop somethibg while sitting at the dinner table and asks us to pick it up .. If we dont he starts whining.. Initially i used to pickit up as he is my raja beta ofcourse ;) but my husbnd stopped me after sometime. He made my son get down and pick it up couple of times ... Now he doesnt drop anything and is careful..by mistake if he drops he doesnteven look at us and expect us to pick it up.. He just gets down,picks it up and climbs back inthe chair... It is a life lesson.. You pick what you drop

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Sorry to disagree.Before we preach others we should practice first. There are many areas where Sona doesn't know ABCD at all. Bijoy tells that she doesn't know any household work. Thank god Nitu reminded. It is better if she first master house keeping skills since she is less busy than Dev who has too much work pressure on business matters.

If she doesn't want to involve Iswari let her do it on her own.Why put pressure on Dev? I found it too ridiculous. Work wise Sona is not that pre occupied. Bhola Bhaaiyya looks after everything. Iswari manages kitchen. What else is left for her? Why can't she find happiness in helping her husband relax after a hectic day? And please don't compare your son learning to pick,up what he drops with Dev Dikshit learning household skills.

Sonakshi should first learn how to keep her room neat and decent. But she is not inclined to do so. May be too lazy or egoistic?

Originally posted by: fanktlk

Exactly what I am saying. We are better mothers who teach our kids. Ishwari obviously didn't so can a wife expect him to take over responsibility in a split second or explain, make him pick up so he won't drop... It is a process..

Absolutely.. She is teaching him hoe to twke his clothes out of the closet with out making mess.. Do we see her complaining that he didnt do it right or that he is making mess?? She is giving him enough space and time to learn it .. Surely he will learn in a day or two .. No big deal..
I would agree to ur point of putting pressure on dev if she was bickering abt it .. All she said is dont go to maa for all the small thibgs that u can do urself... It is a very valid request... So id dev needs help he needs to ask sona to teach him instead of complaining to maa

Originally posted by: fanktlk

I actually agree with you

let me clarify dev is the one messing up the room ...So u r saying once dev messes up twice a day.. All sona should be doing is clean it up .. Otherwise she is egoistic and lazy ?

nice post dear. Agree wid you