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sappushivu

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Posted: 8 years ago

As much as i am annoyed with Ishwari for emotionally blackmailing Dev using Neha's situation as an excuse, i am equally surprised by Sonakshi. Knowing the kind of girl she is, i did expect her to be a bit more considerate...dont get me wrong here..i do not expect them to cancel their honeymoon or give up on their happiness..there is absoultely no need to do that..Neha's situation today is entirely her fault and i do not see a reason that her family members need to pay for it..however, when you have a sister who left her husband coz he was unable to give her any material happiness, does it look fine that you discuss about your HM and shopping in front of her? Devakshi are not wrong..i repeat theyy r not wrong coz every individual has a right to be happy and share their happiness with their dear n near ones but the question here is abt being considerate esp when you a living in a joint family..and esp when you have someone who isnt as lucky as you to have experienced the same kind of happiness..

Lemme state an eg of my cousin sister..the elder one got married.. however cldnt conceive for 6 yrs , but the younger one conceived with a year of her marriage.so natually that whole family was elated incl the elder sister..coz it was d first child in the family..and unlike neha, my elder cousin was genuinly happy for her little sister and showed no signs of insecurity of jealousy..So wen we cousins got together, we cldnt contain our exitement abt the soon to arrive baby and we were making full on plans abt the baby shower and naming the baby..throughout this , my younger cousin was silent and once she got us alone, she asked us not to show so much excitement in front of her elder sister n not discuss much abt d baby..as much as the younger sister was exited as it was her first baby, she knew it wld b hurting hr sister somewhere deep down ..my younger cousin was just being considerate .and by gods grace the elder one is also blessed with a baby girl recently.

So back to the topic..though we humans dont accept, but somewhere we do feel bad wen we see others having thngs we hoped for but cldnt get..esp a girl like Neha who always gave imp to materialistic pleasures..

I don see a reason why they have to discuss their personal shopping and plans in front of the whole family esp neha..Men usually dont have such emotional understanding abt women but Sona being a woman herself shld have understood Nehas pain and behaved accordingly...there is no need to cancel their honeymoon or not be happy in their life but its all about not being ignorant feelings of another family member and being more considerate towards them..

PS:This is purely my POV ..not intended to hurt anyone :) but i am glad the way the show isprogressing, keeping it close to reality and touching every aspect of a normal family..except Ishwari offourse..d abnormal one :P

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Posted: 8 years ago

Actually Sonakshi did show concern and even approached Neha to talk about the issue but she was asked to stay out of it...

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sia.krpkab

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Posted: 8 years ago

I understand your point of view.. But in yesterday's episode, I did not see sonakshi being overly excited about the HM in front of anyone.

Infact, dev seemed more chirpy while showing their shopping, sisters were also very jumpy and couldn't contain their excitement.

On the other hand, both ria and nikki came up with a while long shopping list too. I didn't find any consideration for their elder sister whatsoever.

Why is it that only a newly married couple 's actions and reactions have to come under a scanner? Why does sonakshi have to explain that she is happy or sad for Neha.

Sorry but I don't agree with your post

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Posted: 8 years ago

I agree they should have been a little subtle while showing off their honeymoon plans. anyways i don't understand who shows their honeymoon shopping to the whole family in the main hall -_-

Actually nobody has tried to talk to Neha regarding her issues. Dev was told that she needs time, sona was lashed and ishwari is only to give her a shoulder to cry but not to solve her problems.

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sujata

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Posted: 8 years ago

Sonakshi did show concern and gave her advice too that talk to ranbir..communication only can solve problem..neha does not want to talk about it or to her.

Ish does not like when sona talks about family matters

Plus as an outsider all sona see no discussion about neha marriage or her fight with ranbir being an issue..eveyone is cool with it including neha and doing all routine stuff..so why would she feel that it's actually disturbing issue..when none od her family member. I mean dixits are feeling so.

Neha issue is not brought in any discussion be it between elders or even between Dev and ish..and sona has not seen even a single instance. Where neha or any one from family wants to sort out thing or taking effort to do that.so obviously that's not hot topic in dixit family right now unless ish wants to use it as her trump card.

I am sure sona would not get angry. Only because she could not go in HM.she might be disappointed that she has no say in cancellation of HM.

And it would have been inconsiderate if neha ranbir marriage had been falling apart even families trying their best to sort out issue and eveyone is sand and thinking about neha issue at this moment..bit unfortunately its not happening

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sappushivu

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Posted: 8 years ago

yes..even i am sure that Sona wld not get angry and wld support Dev in his decision to cancel the honeymoon..

And i noticed that few of you are misunderstanding my post saying Sona did show concern n so on..here the question is not abt showing concern for Neha or trying to solve her issue.And neither did i mention that she shld go and talk to Neha..she did try and she was shoo 'd away..so i dont want or expect her to make any more attmpts unless Neha wants it...all i said wat that they did not need to discuss their shopping lists and stuff in front of the whole family and ask Neha to come n sit wth them and expect her to b happy for them..Yes Dev did it but Sona cld have made him understand...this is all that I am saying :)

And someone pointed out that why is it that only Sona is expected to be considerate when none of her own sisters are...well, my answer wld be that Sona is a genuinely a considerate, loving and compassionate human being..so naturally i expect it out of her..whereas the Dixits are a different league all together..none of them came in support of Dev during his crisis period..so its not at all expected of them to understand Neha now..and please don not make it a DIL 's duty , responsibility kind of thng..i never intented it that way.. i donot expect Sona to behave in a particular way just coz she is the daughter in law of the house..,my expectations are that she shld stick to her own character..

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sujata

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Posted: 8 years ago

I know what you are saying and you are not Wong dear

.actually dixits are so messed up ki if they had not told about their shoping..they would have felt ki now these two are doing things secretive as not telling anything as if we are evil eyes.😆they are not sharing anything with family😆

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Posted: 8 years ago

See the is no right approach. If Sona took all her shopping to her room the same Ishwari and Neha would say mein itni payari ho gayi ki apni khushi mujhse share bhi nahi Kar sakte

So if they call they are inconsiderate if they don't call they are self absorbed or self centered. What is the right way.

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: sia.krpkab
I understand your point of view.. But in yesterday's episode, I did not see sonakshi being overly excited about the HM in front of anyone.
Infact, dev seemed more chirpy while showing their shopping, sisters were also very jumpy and couldn't contain their excitement.

On the other hand, both ria and nikki came up with a while long shopping list too. I didn't find any consideration for their elder sister whatsoever.

Why is it that only a newly married couple 's actions and reactions have to come under a scanner? Why does sonakshi have to explain that she is happy or sad for Neha.

Sorry but I don't agree with your post

I fully agree😆

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sappushivu

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Originally posted by: fanktlk
See the is no right approach. If Sona took all her shopping to her room the same Ishwari and Neha would say mein itni payari ho gayi ki apni khushi mujhse share bhi nahi Kar sakte
So if they call they are inconsiderate if they don't call they are self absorbed or self centered. What is the right way.

the question here is not abt being considerate from dixits point of view...its abt ur own self..ur own character..wat you wld do in a particular situation...you are right abt the dixits..they wll always find faults and its hard to please them anyways..n i really dont want Sona to spend her whole life tryin to please them..i just felt that if i was in the given situation, i wldnt have discussed all this in front of Neha...and i relate to Sona a lot many times..so probably i expected her to behave as i wld have..i am not bringing the dixits into picture at all..

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